Friend Requests

Hello Grandpa Bob again. I just posted to another one of yours. I think you sound like a nice guy and have some interests that a lot of people share. I'm not surprised you get a lot of requests. Since I am fairly new to this site, I don't know much about this friends thing and I'm not ready to start a friend's list yet. However, I had one request that I didn't know what to answer. I wish there was some way to find out what made a person decide to make a friendship request. When I checked the profile on this person, there didn't seem to be any mutual interests, so I wondered how and why I had been picked. I guess I will learn more as I go on. I think you raise a valid question in this post. I would like to see more discussion about it. I hope you get a lot of answers.

Hm, well I haven't rejected anyone yet, but a low rating I probably wouldn't accept as a friend especially if their decisions are very silly about the same thing, or just promoting various websites. Yes, there is something that myLot does, just report the posts with the (!) option and if the user keeps abusing then the account with be deleted. I have seen it happen to users who were pasting discussions from other websites! Have a nice day. Pablo

Lately I have been getting a few friend requests as well and it anoys me. Honestly I dont accept any one any more. It is very rare for me to accept a friend.

I generally approve all friend requests. Howver, I don't necessarily turn the notifier on for everybody, if I think there is something doubtful. Also, I am going to keep a check on which of my friends respond to my disccussions. If they don't respond to mine, after I have been responding to theirs, I will delete them. I don't bother reading discussions that are obviously promoting websites.

I didn't really understand the friends thing when I came to myLot so I didn't deny anyone..but not that many people asked so it wasn't a big issue...I would love to expand my friends to include more of those that have quality posts and good presentation... but I see that many people are being less interested in adding friends... I did turn off a notify on one person that I accepted as a friend as their posts were not much I could respond to and they never responded to any of mine!!! Due to work schedule and other life commitments I am not able to post as often as I'd like...but I try to be active with my posting and any responses always get rated...I just don't have the hang of what is interesting to others I guess...:)

I have the same thing happen to me. They havent responded to any discussions I have started, and they have started any of their own, makes no sense. Like you said, maybe they are just promoting themselves. I don't think thats what MyLot was originally going for. I think this is a forum that folks can seek out information and an opportunity to ask questions or concerns, and get positive responses. I have a few (new) friends waiting, but I don't know if i should deny them or not. One person has over 300 friends but no responses or discussions. If i deny them as a friend, would they know I denied them?

Well, we all do keep on receiving such requests, and I personally don't feel any harm in that. The persons are using the internet to network to make more money, and in the bargain, mostly the referees' also make money. I check the requesters' profiles', the type of disucssions that person has initiated and taken part in and unless I find that there is something very wrong with the person, I generally accept that friendship request.

I get loads of request and never turn down any of them. I have found the more friends I have the responses I get per discussion, the more discussions I have to respond to, and the more money I make. It is all about having friends here to make the most money. I would only turn a friend down if they caused me trouble, but in the beginning every request is accepted.

wELL, I think we are all suffering from this phenomina. I turn down most friends requests simply becasuse until they have posted a good number of responses, how can i assess their contrebution? how can i know they have anything in common with me and how can i know im not going to get spammed with requests to make money for them on other sites? Truth be told i cant be sure, so unless they have actually already responded to a couple of my discussions, they dont get on blessed be

well i never got requests from those people who were just promoting their own sites but i got some from a new users who r now not very active that's kind of disapointing!:( by the way i usually never deny anyone but thanx to ur post now i m going to think a little before just accepting anyone!!;)

I only have few friends here compared to others who has been a member in my lot for quite a while now. I think discussions such as how to earn more online made such postings pretty popular. A lot of people here are actually trying to find out from those that have been in the business of online earnings. I just hope that those who do the postings are genuinely earning what they claimed. I have actually tried sites which I got from one of my friends here and they actually work. One must be selective and cautious in accepting invitations since it doesn't really hurt to try them out.

I have also seen a recent flood of requests for friends. Sadly, I've had to deny a lot of them because I promised myself that I would only have enough friends so that I could faithfully respond to their discussions and actually feel as though they are my MyLot friends. I do spend time looking at everyone's profile beforehand though to see what kind of postings they have done. There are times when I have added a new friend (so that I'm now over the number I wanted to have) just because their postings have been really exellent. It's funny, I noticed the flood of friend requests when my rating reached 10. I'm not sure how having friends with a high rating is really going to help others make money, but I suppose it's good to request friends who have similar interests as you. I'm not sure if there is anything myLot can do about it, but then again you do have the choice to deny requests.

Hello webeishere, since joining mylot, i haven't denied anyone yet. But there are 2 friends from my list who posted nothing but about online money making. This is one thing that really confuse me too. I know one of the rules set by mylot is to avoid promoting other online money making stuff. I never bothered to respond to any of their discussions and am considering deleting them from my list. They're clogging too much space from my profile. LOL...what a mess.

Freedom of speech is important to all of us, or we wouldn't be here on myLot writing. Other then (offensive material) I don't want mylot dictating what we can say or do. If you request to be on my friend's list, I'm going to accept you 99.9% of the time, I'm not going to judge you before I get to know you a little. I'm also going to take what you tell me with a grain-of-salt, it take time to form a true friendship. If you're on my friends list you should never feel that you have to respond or read my posts or that you are in anyway obligated to me. What kind of friends am I looking for? I want people with the same interests and people with completely different interests, how else am I going share ideas and learn new things? I want friends from the USA (where I live) and friends from every country in the world, because how else will I get a chance to know about your culture, your needs, your wants, your passions and your life? As far as I'm concerned you can promote any site or interest you have, but if you send me a long list of promotional stuff as an introduction to my friends list; I will probably trash it, but I will still defend your right to send it. A tasteful Hi, great to meet you and here are a few things you might be interested in, is fine with me. The fact is most people on this site are promoting one thing or another, even if it's just their views. Would you normally request or accept a frienship from a guy you didn't know who holds a kid and a dog in his lap and calls himself grandpa bob?...lol In most cases lets not judge each other before we get to know each other a little. Looking forward to many good frienships. Ciao

Yes I get a few friends requests a day. I had someone like that who just wanted to promote themselves. They had a (9) but when I went to their profile I could find and topics started or topics responded to. So I denied that person for that reason. Other then that I accept people. I don't know any of them and only a few reaspond to my topics. I don't care, i just keep doing my own thing.

I have recieved some but, likewise I haven't accepted any of them either because I did not know the people and I do not want to be characterized as being a friend to some one that I do not know at all.

When I first started here I would accept any one who requested to be my friend. I have learned that what you want to do is go to their page. Take a look at their discussions and responses and see if what they post are things that are of interest to you. I went to your page and you have some good discussions. That picture you have there is absolutely beautiful above the myspace name. So I am going to ask to be your friend.

Hi Bob, I know what you mean. I have a dozen "unprocessed" friends requests sitting as "pending," simply because I can't tell from their minute bit of activity whether or not I want them to be part of my network-- a couple made their requests the day they joined, have never posted a discussion OR a response... yet have 50-odd friends... and the cynic in me suggests (based on their profile pages) that the moment I'd approve them, I'd get an piece of spam private message with a bunch of "affiliate links" to other sites. Don't get me wrong, I don't have a problem with people wanting make money-- however, I specifically use my friends network as a "shortcut" to the kind of discussions I actually am INTERESTED in, and I have no interest in participating in some indiscriminate "popularity contest." But that's just me.

i havent received any friend requests since i've been signed up here, but i am also very new. i'm not a spammer so if anyone wants to be my friend let me know! lol. since i've been on here i have seen alot of people that promote alot. everyone wants to refer people.

Hi, Grandpa Bob! I'm obviously still very new here, but I kind of understand where you're coming from - MySpace is very much the same way, you get friend requests left and right from people who obviously only care about the number of friends beside their name. I find that I deny more than I accept there. I haven't had to deny any here yet since a) I'm new and have only had two requests, and b) I immediately found something in each that we have in common (knitting and parenting). I do hope to have some more legitimate requests before too long, as my number grows and (hopefully) I meet more nice people here. Just remember that not all of us newbies are out to self-promote anything, some of us are just...new. :) Nice 'meeting' you!