Do you have to forgive?

well i can understand that sometimes people just hurt you so much that u just cant forgive them! and i also agree that forgiveness doesnt come easily!! but the point u have to note is that each time u see this person who offended you, this uncontrollable rage is going to bburn u up!!! you are never going to be in peace as long as u see this person around! i aint saying that u should forgve and forget.... but dont keep that rage... i am the type of person who cant keep my anger for a long time... i tend to forgive people.... but my policy is kinda strange... i forgive but i wont forget!! i wud never forget the fact that so-and-so had offended me in the past and that helps me to be on my guard the next time! whether u forgive or not is ur issue.... but i knwo u wont be happy if u dont forgive a person.... thts is somehting i saying from my experience!

I don't know that it's necessary in order to be happy. But, in my life, it sometimes makes my heart ache until I go to that person and at least try to work things out. I don't know if you are a spiritual person. If you are, then you know that Jesus told us to forgive 70X7. I always try to put myself in the other person's shoes. How would I feel if I had done that to her. That often helps start a conversation towards forgiveness. I have people also that I have tried to forgive...and they don't want it. They'd rather be able to tell people that I hate them or won't try to work it out...which is totally not true. You have to do what you feel is right in your own heart, and then suffer the consequences one way or another. OR ask yourself this question: How important is taht person's friendship?