When you angry
By qouniq
@qouniq (1966)
Malaysia
11 responses
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
15 Apr 07
When I get angry it is like I am possessed by the devil and your guess is as good as mine what might come out of my mouth. My tongue is faster than my mind and I often say things I regret. I apologize, but I think by that point the damage is done.
@Darkwing (21583)
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4 Mar 07
When I'm angry, I try very hard not to start a slanging match. I very rarely say anything other than, "Ok, we disagree on this, but let's talk about it later.", and I'll walk away from it. It's better to take time out and avoid saying something you might regret in the heat of the moment.
If I do say things in anger, I'm more annoyed at myself for losing control, so yes, you could say that you don't really mean what comes out of your mouth and you do regret it afterwards. In that case, I would wait until the situation simmered down, and then go apologise to the person I'd abused.
Brightest Blessings.
@Darkwing (21583)
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5 Mar 07
I respect that you feel that way, but not everybody is the same as you, I'm afraid. I would naturally tell you before I walked away, that I was going to do so, giving you the opportunity to ask me not to go. I obviously didn't include every little detail in my response, but I think I would do this. If you were upset but ended in tears, then of course, I would give you a hug, but don't you think it's much better to talk quietly than lose your temper and come out with a load of stuff you're going to regret saying in the end? That would make me feel so much worse, I'm afraid.
@qouniq (1966)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 07
This is a right approach actually even though i really don't like someone walk away when i am angry. For me this is like the person did not respect me. I like being consoled, this is the way to make me melt and my anger will vanish just like that...and the good thing about my self i guess is that i never keep any fight in my heart, except the one which really touched/hurt me
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
4 Mar 07
When Im angry I do say some mean things to people and alot of it I dont mean. But there is some of it I do mean because why would we be saying these things. Right? I do apoligize when I say mean things but I just cant help myself.
@qouniq (1966)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 07
I never apologize for the words which i say when i am angry. I just not such kind of person who hurting peoples and apologize after that and I don't want to apologize actually. But still I am regret for saying such mean words. That's why I am trying my best not to say anything when I am angry. I turn my attention to the other things so my anger will reduce.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
4 Mar 07
Oh yes, when I am angry, ALL kinds of things come out of my mouth. I quite often regret what I say afterwards because words hurt. And words I utter in anger are usually chosen for effect and so they hurt more so.
Nowadays, I try very much to bite back any words that might affect the relationships. I may not succeed all the time but I try to.
Even if you think you won't regret what you are going to say, still, try not to say it. It is hard to think clearly when you are clouded by anger. :/
@qouniq (1966)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 07
whenever I angry I will say something which might hurt that person but I try my best not to bust it out until i really feel i can't control my mouth to say such words then i will let it burst out. I always regret of such words which came out from my mouth and try my best not to think too much of what makes me angry by turn my mind to the other things to avoid me from hurting peoples with my words.
@Dasari100 (3791)
• Anantapur, India
30 Apr 08
Of course i often get angry with friends and family numbers but i won't be longer and i can understand the situation happened and i treat them in good way and i don't scold them and i am telling truth so did you get heavy angry with your friends.
@qouniq (1966)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 08
you know, actually i never scold or shout at my friends even when am angry to them. Normally what i will do, i just keep quite and make it like normal. But then I keep the things inside so that i will have a limit with them. I think there are so many peoples being rude to me but then still I manage to control my anger. As far as I remember, there was a very huge anger burst from me to my family. It was actually when my uncle humiliated my friend which i invited to pay a visit to my home. Hehe, at that time, I shout to everyone and I didn't talk like normally to them for about a few days but not to my uncle which until today i stop talking to him. It is because I feel very shameful that my family shows how low our value are when he humiliated my friend from other country, I just don't want that the friend will say that peoples in my country are like that just because of him.
@Dasari100 (3791)
• Anantapur, India
30 Apr 08
I think you always cool mind with your friends that is really good attitude and i do same thing to my friends also i don't comment from their issues and i just keep quit my self. Do you have any tips to control our anger?
@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
14 Apr 07
When angry, I have learned over the years, to not speak out and say what I may regret. I have learned self control.
@Jemina (5770)
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15 Feb 08
When I'm angry I try to avoid speaking because I know I would say things that I would regret later. For me it's better to keep quiet, drink a lot of water and rationalize why things happened that way.
I used to be very outspoken when I get angry but it never did me good. As I get older, I have become wiser.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
we are but human only and i think it is natural for us that when we are angry we tend to say a lot of hurting words. i do too, say a lot of hurting words and it is to equal all the hurting feelings inside. some words are really to hurting that if only words are like knife i was able to kill the person i was talking too. but the nicest thing about me saying angry words is taking it back when the anger subsides. i always say im sorry when i said something i dont really mean. i said it just because im angry. i think we all should practise saying sorry after saying words that are really hurtung.
