What would you Do?

I would be like you , he is not old but then maybe not young enough either to do all that work , maybe you would know best about that though , i think if it were me I would feel the same as you , you have things the way you want them , they always say you can't improve on perfection xx God bless

I think that you need to have a heart to heart with your husband. How far away are his folks? Maybe it might be feasable to build something very small on their land as sort of a vacation cottage?

If it personally was me, I would try to explain my Fears and reasoning for not wanting to move there. I know I would not want my husband building a home himself at his age, and he is only a couple of yrs. younger. And if this would not benefit your commutes back and forth to work, I would try to maybe come up with a list of the pros and cons concerning this, and then go from there. Hopefully he is only dreaming of this, and not really serious about considering it.

This is tough, but I would say your husband not only wants his parents to be proud of him building a new home on their land, but he also wants you to be proud of his achievements, so I think you're going to have to go along with it, in some way. Just because you're living on a dirt road in the country, it doesn't mean you still can't have fun, and your husband will be happier and more likely to enjoy life. Why don't you give it a try, or at least give him the opportunity to enjoy himself, and to get some self-satisfaction out of what he can do for his family as a whole. You don't say, but I imagine your kids are probably grown up now, so maybe one of them would like to inherit the house you worked so hard on to make a special home. Then, you could have the joy of visiting them, as well as making your new home, which could, incidentally, be built to your specification??? lol. I hope I've been of some help to you, but whatever you decide, I hope you will have a very happy future. Brightest Blessings.

While I'm all for compromise, if his idea does not sound good to you, then I'd say do your best to communicate this to your husband, but find some way not to move. Spouses sacrifice for their other half all the time. If one though truly does it only to make the other person happy at their own expense, it usually only leads to misery. Besides, you are his priority - not his parents. When he married you, you became the most important person in his life. I know this advice is easy to give because it is not happening to me, so whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck and blessings.