clingy boyfrineds
By gurl976
@gurl976 (48)
United States
March 4, 2007 3:39pm CST
i have a very hectic life. I go to school and I work full time. i recently started dating a very sweet guy. He works, but doesn't go to school, thus after work he is free. He wants to see me all the time! I feel soo bad because I just don't have the time in my day. I try to dedicate two weeknighs (after class), but that doesnt seem to be enough. I also give him Saturdays, but i cant do anymore. I'd like to actually study and see other people in my life. How do i tell him this and not hurt his feelings?
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@carlena1 (120)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Give him the friend riff " I have this friend who has a boyfriend that doesn't allow her ample study time.....She's not sure if he a keeper because of this....blah blah blah"
School is the foundation for your realistic future, it can never be too consuming. Explain that to him if he doesn't get the first drift
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I don't know that you CAN explain this to him without his feelings getting hurt.
I assume that he knew thatyou were doing all these things when you first started seeing him. You are wise to keep up with your studies and to keep seeing the people who have been important to you. It feels like he wants to dominate your time without consideration for your needs.
It is probably best that you just tell him that these things are necessary in your life and that you are not willing to give them up. If he cannot accept this then he needs to find someone else to be with who is willing to give up their life for his desires.
You are VERY smart to realize these things. Most ladies just give up their lives and are forever dependent on males because of that.
