is being possesive bad

BAD. Always. None of us wants our loved ones to experience any harm, but we have to let them lead their lives. Spending our time worrying and trying to prevent them doing what they want is a real risk in itself. He/ or she should live his/her life. Don't hold on too much.. We should learn when to hold on and when to let go

i think it is one of the things that breaks a relationship. it is bad coz it makes your relationship dull and you always end up fighting. there should be a give-and-take relationship from both parties. it is okay to have restrictions as long as it will benefit your loved one or it will be for his/her own good but do not go overboard. instead of being possessive, tell your loved one what you like or hate with his/her lifestyle then set an agreement. if you get too uptight on him/her, he/she would likely to rebel against you and end up destroying his/her life, that is much worse either. learn to trust your partner and live a healthy relationship.

Always bad... no question about it. People who are possessive are controlling. It's not a sign of love to try to control anothers actions, whereabouts, intentions or to question their judgement at every turn of the dial. It's also not healthy for your partner to judge their friends, question their feelings about others, worry about what they're doing all the time or with whom. You'll drive your partner nuts if you do this. This isn't what happiness looks like. This is what they call disfuctional. It's not healthy, it's not functional, and it's not fair.

It is bad for a relationship. You don't need to be possesive to make sure that your partner knows you love them. It does not show love it shows control. If you love your bf gf then you give them freedom and understanding with lots of love.

Hello kavi112...... When a person has or shows possessiveness they are not showing love, they are showing their own insecurities. It also shows that they do not trust their partner, even when that distrust is unfounded. I have found that it is better to be with someone who wants to be with you, rather than to have someone there who is only there because of fear. Tom

Most of the time, it does more bad than good. It often results in breakups. Being possesive limits your partner's freedom in doing things that he normally does.

it does harm the relationship in many ways, but i also think that sometimes it can be good. not really sure. but i think im possesive

love and trust work hand-in-hand while possessiveness and trust are opposites. it doesnt help a relationahip to grow. there must be freedom in any relationship. allow people to express themselves the way they are and you can better help or correct them. possesiveness hold people back.

for me being possesive is bad if your choking ur gf/bf. my partner is possesive within limits. but i have a friend whos bf is so overly possesive of her. i dont understand why she didnt left him or broke up with her. he gets jealous of us for always being with her gf hanging out, he gets jealous with her male classmates, he gets jealous with everybody. and he only wants her to be with him all the time. arrgghh i really cant explain their relationship coz i want to bang the head of my bstfriend on the wall.. i hate him for controlling their relationship..

Too much of anything is bad. If it's really just concern for your bf/gf then that's ok. But being too possessive is not good. Let's just not forget that our bf/gf can think for themselves and sometimes one has to make bad decisions to learn from them. But we should always be there to guide them and show the consequences of their decisions.

i personally believe that jealousy is part of every relationship and it is normally felt by people who love. But kavi112, don't confuse yourself with "being possessive" and "being jealous". I think these two are different. For me, being possessive is more dangerous than being jealous. Being possessive has greater weight than mere jealousy. And this could lead to disagreement between couples.

i share your opinion... it can be both, in a good manner it can be positive but being possessive can also be dangerous if the partner needs a little bit of freedom.

Too much on something is bad. Relationship is a place where the two individuals grow together positively. I just hope all relationships work this way. But I guess not, not even mine but of course it is not that worst as it seems. Caring for someone you love is very nice but controlling your partner would not give a good result in a relationship. You must let your partner grow in a way that she/he will unleash' the good in them.

No misunderstandings.. if you are possessive you are trying to control someone. It's one of the quickest ways I know to ruin a relationship. Do you like to be controlled?

Nobody wants to have someone run their life for them. It can only hurt the relationship when you feel that you have to control your partner's actions. You have to have enough faith and trust in your partner that he/she will do the right thing, or the relationship isn't worth having in the first place.