Do you reward your children for good grades?

@Joslyn77 (374)
United States
March 5, 2007 12:13am CST
My daughter is in fourth grade and it's her first year of actually getting letter grades. She has earned sraight A's in all subjects. I'm very proud and rewarded her with a new board game. We did talk and I told her that she will not get rewarded everytime she gets good grades. Am I starting a bad habbit?
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• Philippines
5 Mar 07
I consider it a good act to reward our kids once in a while for doing good in school. It makes them happy and feels recognized by the parents - the two persons who matter most in the kid's life. You should know, you were a child once. It always felt good when mom or dad mentions with pride in their voices how good their child is doing in school. Yes, to be told that their parents are happy with their performance is reward enough for most children. So keep on rewarding them with gifts, with a pat in the back or, maybe, with some encouraging words...any of these will do fine.
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@Joslyn77 (374)
• United States
5 Mar 07
Yes,I was a child once and all I ever heard was how stupid I was and I wound up hating school. That is why I always give praise to my children. I am always second guessing my parenting skills because I had very bad examples!
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@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
5 Mar 07
Your children are wonderful! You are nothing like your parents. You should be proud. You are a wonderful teacher and you have learned the right way and the wrong way in your classes. Quit second guessing yourself and keep up the great parenting Missy! PS. You would notice before a week if one of your children didn't come home! I still don't know how my dad convinced your dad to let you still stay with us after he finally figured out where you were.
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• Philippines
5 Mar 07
Rewards are form of incentives for our children to be inspired to study and get better grades everytime. But I try to balance the situation to send them the message that they dont study for gifts but they should study for their future. What I supply them constantly are warm embraces and kisses on their cheeks and just prepare their favorite food and discuss on how they answered well in exams.
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
5 Mar 07
Yes. We do indulge in rewarding something useful to my children when they achieve good grades. Though the marks system has been given go by, it is only A+,A, B, C, D grades. My son gets A+ in social sciences and A in general science and maths (though we prefer reverse of it). Nevertheless, we reward him with books which he is fond of reading. Thanks heavens, it is a good expenditure item which we call investment.
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@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
5 Mar 07
I think unexpected rewards are wonderful. Like,"Thanks for helping me with that, let's go get ice cream!" They shouldn't start to expect rewards for doing the right thing. Maybe smaller rewards? Maybe next time let her choose what to make for dinner or dessert one night? Little non-monetary perks that show you see and appreciate her good efforts.
@mypchere (582)
• Indonesia
5 Mar 07
yes it is a good idea. it can motivate a children to receive great grade, and from that way they will alway try to get good result. it would be very good for a child i think. it would be much effective
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@mypchere (582)
• Indonesia
5 Mar 07
i have no children yet actually. but i think it is the best way to get them always receive good grades, it can motivates them to be better, bettter and better from before. i should have try this way too i think so my child have motivate to learn, to receive good grades if i have a child...