It is not a typical thing for me.
By fatal_ivory
@fatal_ivory (238)
Philippines
March 5, 2007 12:23am CST
Have you ever felt this way? It is like you are so down. It feels like you are so helpless, that you are seeking for help, but seems no one hears your plead. It is like you want to ease the burden but didn't know how. You have no one to consider as your friend as of the moment. You know by that time that only a friend who will listen is what you need but have no one to own as one.
Honestly, all my life I've been deprived of the love and time of a true friend. A friend, indeed, in the deepest sense of the word. I have a best friend but the thing is we part ways because of some career changes. Though we have still some connection through text, but her presence still lacks in my life. I'm not complaining or what, but the need of a friend arise to me most of the time, especially on those time that I'm so down and weak. Although I have a boy friend, still, a friend is different. And I longed for that kind of friend. In fact, I'm looking for a geniune one. One who can give some time for me, to talk with me, share her/his feelings and same with me, one who can be happy when I'm happy and feel sad when I'm sad. That is why I resorted to make things in order to gain friends like joining this kind of sites. I know it is not that easy to gain a friend in here but I'm hoping to have even one.
Did you feel this way too? Share your side. Thanks for visiting my post. I hope I will find what I'm looking for. Have a nice day.
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4 responses
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
I have always have friends, cousins & a sister who are ever ready to help me when times get rough. My closest friends who gives me the advise and listening ears actually lives at different cities but whenever I need them, they are always there to comfort me. I guess I am always luckier than most. I am one of those who believes that distance is not a hindrance to friendship and though we dont hear from each other very often, we all know that we are always there for each other. We are the type who just shows up at each others doorstep when we need a place to chill or regroup. It's the heart that chooses ones friends and I hope you get to find a friend of your heart's own choosing. Sometimes we believe that we have deep friendship with someone just because we spend so much time together when in fact it is just common interest that you share.
I could welcome another friend and in case you need to pour your heart out or just wanna tell someone who may understand whatever you are feeling...well, you can always send me an email. God bless!
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@fatal_ivory (238)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
You are just one lucky woman. Having that bunch of people for you is such priceless. How I wish I could be like you.
Thanks for giving me the chance to have you as my friend. I will e-mail you in the future for sure. Finding a true friend is really hard. I'm really having a hard time. Sometimes, I think that I'm not that likeable to be anyone's friend. But I know I should not think that way. But I can't help.
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@fatal_ivory (238)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
Yes, maybe you are right. That Is why I'm looking and finding ways to find friends whom I can consider as true and kind. Thanks again.
@bonbon50 (659)
• United States
10 Mar 07
Sometimes our friends feel uncomfortable when we are down because they don't know what to do. Some people make better patients than nurses, and it sounds like your friends might be in the 'patient' category.
Someone once told me that we change our friends about every 5 years. When I thought back on this, I found it to be true. We get bound to people via jobs, activities, our place of residence, and then when those things change for either them or you, the communication tends to diminish.
Yes, a real friend should be there for you in the bad times. But for some people this is just too 'intimate' a connection. What about a family member? Do you have anyone in your family who you can turn to when you need someone? An aunt, a cousin, a sister?
Sometimes, as tough as it is, it's necessary to just carry our burdens alone. It makes for a heavy load, often feeling unbearable, but it helps build our character in the end. Also, you may want to just try blogging your feelings, as if you're talking to someone. It's not the same as crying on a friend's shoulder, but at least you'll be getting some of it out.
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@fatal_ivory (238)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
That is very true. People tend to change in five years time. Maybe that is why it all happened. I know by posting this discussion, it will somehow show my vulnerability as a person. but somehow, it makes me feel better simply by just pouring out what I feel. Good thing there are people who are free to comment to this kind of sentiments like you. It eases the burden that I'm feeling because of that. Thanks for taking your time to be of help to me.
@greengal (4286)
• United States
5 Mar 07
I know what you mean fatal, I feel that way very often too. Though I have many good friends, at times I feel I can't confide in any of them. I am close to my hubby and we share our thoughts but on certain levels we are two different people. I can't tell him what I would tell a friend. I feel down too and only poetry cheers me up so I write poems:) It is easy to make new friends but difficult to let them into your inner private circle. That takes time. I don't know you well at all so I can't tell you I will be your very good friend, but I can assure you that if you came to me with a problem or just felt like talking to someone, I will be around! So don't hesitate to PM me:)
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@fatal_ivory (238)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
I'm so thankful that two on my friends list actually give their hand to me as a friend. Thanks for sharing your life to me. I will PM you in case there will come a time that I will need some help from a friend. Thank you so much!
@camille101 (1025)
• United Arab Emirates
10 Mar 07
In this way, you are posing yourself vulnerably.
When I was in college, I did find what you can consider true friends. I've got several of them. We used to climb a hill just to watched the sun sets, while drinking colas. We used to laugh to our hearts content even at a slightest humor we can derived. We cry at times when we feel frustrations. Like you we had parted ways gradually after graduation. As of now, I consider my husband as my confidante, to whom I pour out my frustrations, hehe. I also have my dearest neighbor who became like a sister to me. She is so kind and true. Somehow among all those friends I got in college, I communicate now with only one. But rarely through internet. Like everything in life, nothing is permanent, people come and go. That's why we have unforgettable foolish moments that we can cherish for.
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@fatal_ivory (238)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
Yes, maybe I impose vulnerability. I feel some emptiness that only a true friend can fill. Thanks for sharing your cherished moments. I know I can get over it quickly. Having people like you will surely makes it easier to recover.
