Will you cane your children if they are very naughty?

i would never hit my children because it doesn't only hurt them physically, more so it hurts the child emotionally and this will stick with him for the rest of his life. i am not a parent so i really don't know the effective way. i am just thinking that talking to them will do it. i remember as a child, there were times my brother didn't want to go to school, my dad would lock the door and talk to my brother and after 30 mins, my brother would come out saying how he needs to get ready with school. i don't know what my dad tells him but he can always convince him. the power of words i guess.

Hi Kelvin, Just remembered, watching "SUPER NANNY MIGHT HELP"

I very rarely spank my children. I try to save that as a punishment for when they are doing something that could be dangerous. (Like running into the street) It is much more effective to reward good behavior and revoke privelages when they are disobedient. An example of this would be taking away toys they refuse to put away or going on a special outing to the park if they are observed being especially kind to another child.

I would never lift my hand to my son, but you are right they do need disciplined and sometimes it is hard to do this. I find that explaining the bigger picture to my son and explaining consequences of his actions long term can have a more dramtic impact on his behaviour.

To cane !!!, however, it can be used to give them fear. When we use the cane, we must be careful. These days childern are exposed to several factors and it might have a back-lash. Should, look into your own enviroment..

I believe there are better ways to discipline children other than spanking! It actually takes more patience to discipline the right way without spanking! They understand more than we know sometimes. I have small children and time-outs seem to work fairly well, we also talk to them about what was done wrong after the time-outs. Sometimes taking things away, like TV time has helped with our children. Prayer is also a major factor for us!

i agree with you. with the advent of the internet and unprecedented communication accessibility with technological advances, i think that it is easier for chidren to get into trouble if they are not instilled with the right set of values and discipline. and if caning them is neccessary to teach them, then i would do so.