ahh...what can I do ?I want to marry her but??!help me plsss...I badly need it

In a sense, you are marrying her family when you marry her because you can't have her with out the family. BUT at the same time, she's the one who'll be the most important to you, she's the one you'll live with and see every morning. After 4 years of dating, I would hope her parents would see your love for her but because they are parents, it's understandable that they'd have concerns. I have a couple questions, is there main reason for you saving up tons of money is so she can have a big wedding? or are they expecting you to save tons of money to have on the side for after you get married? If it's for after you get married, perhaps make some kind of deal with them. It's typically good to have enough money put away to pay 3 months worth of bills. Tell them that before you get married you plan on having enough money put away to cover your bills if an emergency were to come up or something like that. Are they Christians? They should understand also that God will provide you with what you need. Explain you wouldn't feel right having all that money just sitting around when it could go to help people...just speak from your heart. Obviously I don't know all your beliefs or how you live your life, but you do. Be honest with them. If their main concern is you having the money for a huge wedding, but other than that, the are fine with you guys getting married, then sit down with them WITH your gf. it isn't their wedding, it's YOUR wedding...well, more like you g/f's wedding. The bride is the one who chooses how her wedding is going to be because it's HER day. I'm getting married an a year and I have had so many people tell me what they don't like about the plans I already have but my dearest love sticks up for me. He encourages me and reminds me that it's my special day and I get to have it anyway I want. I to am a simple person and want only a small wedding. My family and close friends will be invited and it'll be very simple. It could cause problems between you and her family, and may for years, but down the road things should get better. You need to stick up for your girlfriend now. If she doesn't want a big wedding, then don't let her parents give her the stress of planning a big extravagent wedding. My grandpa didn't even like my dad or my uncle when they proposed to my mom and aunt and took him a few years before he liked them. It's not uncommon for parents to voice their issues and put rediculous goals or requests on their future son/daughter-in-law. Just remember who you love and that you will do whatever you can to meet HER needs, not her family's needs. If they can twist your arm and get you to do this to them, imgaine what they'll twist your arm for in the future after your married. It'll be tough, but stand of your your girlfriend now.

Wow! You are such a man! I salute you for your devoted loved for your girlfriend. In this days only few men wants to marry their girlfriends in the church. Your girlfriend is very lucky to have you. My advice is do not spend too much money because of wedding. You can have a small, nice and solemn wedding. You don't need to spend too much money for you wedding. You can use it for your future use. You better talk to her parents that you are true and you love their daughter but you are not that capable of spending too much money for your wedding. I think they would understand that.

Hi, I think their parents view is correct when you cant save any thing while a batchler , how can they belive that you will be able to find the food for her. SO you should first reach the basic living maturity.. ie you should have a reasonable income to look after their daughter..Any how I wish you all succes in you love & Life...