Why do my friends bug me to start having a girlfirend?

No, you are not wrong to want to wait. You are still so young and still just figuring out who you are. Who you love and when is something that must happen in it's own time. Trust me, I know. I am 34 years old and it took me until I was just over 25 to figure out who I was, what I really wanted in life and how to be happy just being with myself. Once I figured all that out, then and only then could I really have a good relationship. But I never went out looking for someone. I just let it happen in it's own time. I met my husband when I was 27 years old. We got married at 28 and had a son by the time I was 29. We are still together. I don't think nor believe that we would have gotten married or even stayed together as long as we have if we had met when I was younger. I just wasn't ready. You should take as long as you need to find a girlfriend. When you are ready to move into another relationship you will know. You need to tell your friends and your father, if they truly cared about you and were really your friends, they would respect your choice to not have a girlfriend at this time.

I think you're pretty normal for your age not to explore to find your girls. I guess you're a little bit different from most boys whose hormones are starting to be raging and is really looking for girlfriends ans sorts. But I don't see it as something wrong. You may be just be having a different view in life than most of your age. Me, I started those flirting with girls when I was already finished with studies at about 22. Then I finally got married about 30 and thats it. My love life was not as beautiful as others are. I don't have much to tell right now but I guess my life is pretty normal and quite content even though I too start rather old when I went into a relationship.

yup..love cannot be measure.it can happen so sudden.the time we met is not a matter coz if we match each other we can find good chemistry,then there your happiness.from my experience i always falll on first love.more than twice i think.every day i lust to many woman that i see.i love pretty woman even i have a girlfriend.i like her but since i see new beautiful girl then i decide to change my mind to find another woman.i like this world as long as i'm not marry.hope i get a date with very beatiful woman that i really love.

Dont worry, just wait for the right time. I know that you will be able to find the right girl for you at the right time also. I have also a friend with the same situation you are, but he is not panicking about it. He just stay cool and still enjoying his singleness.

there is no rush....u`ll have enough time for girls..now u must focus on your study...and if u say that u don`t feel like having a girlfriend...then maybe u`re not ready..or u have`n found yet the right girl..u must have patience..and u must not care about what the others say to u....if u don`t wanna a girlfriend that is your decision..is your life and they don`t have the right to interfere...my advice:be yourself,do what u want,act like you feel and don`t let the others bug you!

becoz they are folls they dont like freedom...

I had the same situation when I was your age. I had friends who always pressured me and a mom that thought "something was wrong with me" because I didn't want to date. I think she wanted me out of the house and thought getting a boyfriend was a way to do it. She was married at 18. I think you should wait until you definately find someone who you have connected with on your own terms. Some people who are in a relationship think that because they are happy to be in it then everyone else has to be in one, too. Tell your friends that you won't be depressed by not having a girlfriend, but by people pressuring you about it. Believe me, you will have ample time. Getting older doesn't mean that you won't be able to find a mate.

No, your not wrong to want to wait at all. If you are not ready, then don't feel pressured by your friends or father to find a girl just because they think you should have one at your age. I wasn't ready at your age as I was too much into my sports and doing things I like to do without the hassle of having a boyfriend. In fact I think the first boy I dated was when i was 19 or 20 years of age so its all good! Take your time, your in no rush, do what you need to do first, be comfortable with who you are and the rest will fall into place. Have a nice day!

Take your time; do what's right for you. If you feel you're not ready, your friends need to respect that.

What I can do is tell you there is a guy just similar to your opinions . Thats me ... . I am 22 know . I never had a girl friend .The idea was same - To find the one and only princess . But now I am in a big trouble . Hope this tell you the big danger that might come your way too .Actually during my last 6 years I have been failing at evrey place .I think that because of my failures now I am far away from searching my princess .Now responsiblites of my brother, sister and parents is taking over . Now I cant think of her. Because I know I cant give the comforts of life . So might be I meet her in the next birth If any . So moral of my story is - Waiting does not give the surety of getting the exact one .Do write to me .I AM WAITING.

May I introduce myself to you! I was born in VN which locates in the East of the world. In my country, having a first love in 20 age is very normal. We consider that the first important responsibility is studying in order to get a good future and if we have a strong foundation of our career, we can easily to find a long-relation with opposite gender. I have read some newspapers present that in some west countries, if you're 16 and you don;t have any love means that you have a problem in body system or in personality lead to nobody want to be a part of your heart. However, don't follow your friends, maybe they worry if you're alone and no one share happinese or sadness to you so they try to give you some advices. The most importance here is you,only you can make your own decision. Wonder yourself again and answer this question "is there any girls I really like and am I ready to make a date with her ". I see that you want a girlfriend, try some clubs,some pubs,or even some social activities, I bet that you will find out your own girl.Good Luck!!!

i think in your society having girfriend had become a trend and not a internal feeling .your father saying this is a real twist in your case,in my opinion a father always think best for thier children.your father had grown in this society,he knows that how someone's friend respond if there friends does not a girlfriend ,he wants you not to get irritated from these bugs,so he advice you to have a girlfriend.Now why are u thinking that a girlfriend means that you should have love with her,you can treat your girlfriend smipley as your other friend not as your love,are you in your life going to meet only one girl and love her.so if you find some girl which you think can be your friend not your love then there is no harm in making that girl as your friend............may this help u get rid from your confusion

you know what???i totally agree with you..you shouldn't hurry in finding a girll anyway you're still young..you dont wanna end up having a relationship just because of what other people say right???

you must be aware of your requirements that u need a true friend or keep changing girlfriends like everyday clothes.

i dunno y...but same is the case here.....maybe they want us to grow out of a boys life!!!!!

i think you needn't to rush,because you don't like it. let it go and untill one day you have time you can pick it up and do it very well!

Usually it is difficult to just go out and "find" a girlfriend or boyfriend. Matters of the heart usually happen when you least expect it. Going out to "look" for that special person usually does not have much success. You are right to be upset by your friends telling you its time to have a girlfriend. Relationships are a personal thing and are really nobody else's business.

Dude, we are in very similar situations. I've been 17 for awhile now and i've still never had a real serious girlfriend. Mainly because, like you, I want someone who is nice and healthy. My advice is to not rush into any relationships if your heart is not in it. Honestly, how many people who meet their girlfriend/boyfriend at a young age stay with that person their entire life? Good things come to those who wait, just don't wait too long.

dont rush of yourself to be having an relationship just take your time. if u rush maybe ur relationship be rush or worthless..

hi i'm talking as a 25 years old person who doesn't had any girl until 22 years old . i'm not saing that i did it for any specific reason or what so ever i just didn't feel to have a girl , but i'm telling you if you don't get someone next to you in time it could leave a bad effection on you . don't make my mistake... its up to you