Why do people feel this way?

Honestly I do think it has to do with low self esteem. I Have had 4 kids and I gained a load of weight. I went from an average 135pounds to 225pounds. So if you think you look bad just imagine how I feel. My husband yelled at me the other da because I made a fat joke and geared it twards me. He told me that I am not fat there is just more of me to love and he loves having his "fluffy pillow" to cuddle with every night. After he said that about me I began to think that there is nothing wrong with me, but there is something wrong with the way I was thinking. So my goal is to change the way I think not to change my body.

I sure know how you feel on this one. I had my daughter 15 years ago and my body shape and size hasn't been the same since. I wore my regular clothing all the way up until I was 7 months prgnant. All of a sudden I blew up like a whale and started shwoing in my belly alot. I grew so quickly, it stretched my skin and left marks. I have also had 2 surgeries since then where they had to cut throgh my belly button. My belly has not took it firm shape back over the years and I guess it never will because of swelling so quickly and having two surgeries after that. I can't stand the way I look either since giving birth to my daughter. Alot of people have children and they go back to their original shape. I wish I could have but it is 15 years later and I still look the same as I did right after I had my daughter. My poor body will never be the same.

I haven't had any kids and feel that way! I have tried every diet pill imaginable and can't seem to lose a pound. Everyone else tells me I look fine. I don't want to look fine! I want to look great. I want my only pair of jeans to fit comfortably instead of binding. One of my friends at work, one of the other nurses, suggested that I have body dysmorphic disorder. That means I look in the mirror and see a distorted image of myself. I just want to have a flat tummy. I want to see a flat tummy in the mirror and I want to be able to run my hands over my stomach and not feel a bulge. That would make me very satisfied. PS. From what I can see in the picture, you look fantastic!

First of all, let me tel you that you look real great considering the fact that you a mom to 5 children. I know that a lot of moms would be jelous at you. Moms after birth getting fat, and you are so thin, and looking great after births! AMAZING! The problem is that you have low slef esteem. You should admire yourself on looking go great after 5 births! I admire you :)

I think that it is low self esteem in some people, but not in all. I believe that we, as women, are NEVER satisfied. I bet someone even as beautiful as Halle Barry or Angelina Jolie has something they don't like about themselves. :) I think we have too many expectations from ourselves. We see something on someone else that we want and when compared, theirs is better than ours so it makes us self-conscious. :)You are beautiful...find things you LIKE about yourself and concentrate on those things instead of the negatives that you find. :)

The question of the ages! We are our own worst critics. I too look in the mirror and only see what is wrong with my body, never what is right. I am overweight and very insecure about it. I am a very confident person in all areas of my life but that is my secret insecurity. We have been conditioned to want to look like models or actresses. When truthfully they are air brushed to look like perfection, we just don't realize that. My friends and I do the same thing as you and your sister. We think each other looks great and what does she have to complain about but when we look at ourselves in the mirror we think what is wrong with me? I think it is a mix of so many things that puts those thoughts into our heads!

because you have kids. emotionally you know how it feels and how it looks when you have kids. there are sme insecurities within you. you feel that you no longer look like how you do before and that saddened you. you ten compare yourself to others' and feel not so confident that you look really ok still.

People can't be satisfied with themselves. People think I am a nice person but I think they are just nuts. People rarely show who they are. As ahuman beings we are always looking down on ourselves because we are our worst critics. It's just human nature I guess.

its our nature as human that will not be contented of what we are or what we have..its sad really

i think you should exercise if you want to gain some self esteem, i think you are not satisfied with your figure yet, but if you exercise, you will figure it out after a month that you are in a great shape.

After living life at 300 odd pounds for years, I think that changing the way you think is the correct way to go. I had gastric bypass surgery and my way of thinking has changed so much. No longer do I wish to be at 112 lbs. I weigh 155 and I am very happy. I thank God everyday that it's not 322lbs!

It's definitely low self esteem. I've had three kids and I KNOW I could look way better than I do. I've gone from being a 98lb nothing who loved to wear bikini's at the beach to a 135lb woman who refuses to even exercise at the Gym for fear of people laughing at her body. I'm determined to change this though, and am using my Mylot earnings to buy myself a rowing machine 3 in 1 so I can at least start a regime here at home and then start exercising at the gym and outdoors more when I've gained some of my confidence and self esteem. I eat healthily so it's not that I'm necessarily fat as such, I've been told that I just need to regain tone. Hopefully that won't be too hard.

People feel this way because they think this way too. Thoughts control your thinking, emotions and feelings. Change the thought and I think it will go away.

ok dont think that much we can control our body dont feel shy if u r fat y do u feel shy its u r body and let it be however its is u know people dont look our fats or we r slim peoples lokks towards our money so be happy in world u look nice however u look me to i m an avarage mine weight is 78 kg then also i m happy with my life and i have that confidence whoever teases me now after somedays see where i m and where he is i know very well bocz pepol were back of my money and i didnt come to know one day i got a nice efrnd she toll me that u stupid cant u see that pepols r behind u r money u r so fat who will like u and from that day i started improving she gave me tips then see now i m now my weight is near about 67kg , 2pounds=1kg , she helped me lot i m thank full for her so much i love her very much now i m in love with her but i dont know about her ok leave it see in 3 months how much weight i loose so u can also do that my the same method" look towards u r food u can control u r self and dont fee shy for u r body its perfect as it looks in photo u r kids r so beautiful "

A round shape doesnt mean you dont look nice, on the contrary, most women look nicer like that, maybe you should choose the right clothes for you and you will be wonderful. Anyway, congratulations for your kids, they are lovely and even with body changes they were wrothy.

This is a thought pattern that has been programmed into us by society. We look at touched up photos,and we see all the popular shows, and all of the magazines are filled with articles about how to make sure we lose weight. It is hard to have a real opinion of ourselves that is not tainted with what we are "supposed" to think. Maybe it is primitive "magical" thinking--If I consider myself lucky, the "gods" or fate will strike me down. I had better not bring bad luck by liking myself too much. My brain can go on overtime as well.

Honestly I have had only 1 child-- And my body has changed.. Hips a bit wider, etc. I don't look the same as I did back in high school- and probably never will again. I too look at myself and say YUK on some days-- and some days I look and say darn I look good for being 34! I'm guessing everyone does this- whether it be body size, height, hair color, acne, hair cut-- It's pretty normal! I say just be happy with yourself-- and If you aren't then work on what you're not happy with- Exercise more-- that way you will feel like you are taking a step in the right direction! Good luck! and I'm sure you look great for having 5 kids! Wow-- how do you have the energy??

5 kids?!!?!?!? You are superwoman girl! I've got just the two at home and they drive me round the bend somedays. Congras on the family (they are really cute kids!) Anyways, I'm one of the lucky people I guess. After each birth I was able to fit into my regular clothes right away. I never retained any of the weight that I'd gain during the pregnancy. I'm a pretty tiny girl though and never did get that big with any of my kids. I almost didn't respond to this because I'm thinking that what I'm going to say is going to make me sound so conceited and really I'm not. I realize that my body isn't perfect by far and of course I've got my issues with certain parts but the one thing that I've never really had issues with is my weight or my perception of myself like that. The only time I've ever thought of myself as "fat" is when I was pregnant and I was always so happy to be back to normal. I'm short too but I don't really have an issue with that either.. It's just something that I've gotten used to. The only time I wish to be taller is when I'm hunting around for something to stand on so that I can reach the top shelf of my cupboards.. LOL.. I have issues with my teeth and would love to change them but otherwise I'm pretty happy with the way I look.

I don't know, I wish I could be happy with my body, my husband thinks I look great but I cringe when I look in the mirror. I have two kids and they are worth the ruined body =) But I still wish I was toned and less flabby!!

if you can try to love your body as it is, when you look at yourself tell yourself that you like your body and you accept your body. look at the bits you have most problem with and tell yourself, lets say it is your stomach, say i accept my stomach as it is. Once you learn to love your body as it is you will feel much better and anyone with a weight problem doing this will find that when they start doing this that they will natuarally become slimmer and healthier as they will look after themselves better as they will like themselves more.