I'm invisible
By asuzie
@asuzie (21)
Singapore
March 6, 2007 10:54pm CST
*sign* its driving me nuts! He can actually ignore me as if i'm not there! He can bypass me without aknowledging me. How can that really be possible. No, we've not quarrelled or have a misunderstanding. It's like 'cold war' but not cold war, cold war if you know what i mean. He has always been like this. Communication's never in his dictionary.Oh yeah, the only time he's chatty is when he's gonna have a game of mahjong so that i wont get so angry (he knows i hate it if he plays mahjong).
We can sit down having dinner w/o a word. We can travel in the car w/o saying a word. We can go to church w/o saying a word (unless the priest encouraged the parishioners to greet good morning to 1 another before he started the mass) We can be practically holding hands strolling in the park or on the beach or while shopping in the mall w/o saying a word ARRRRRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!!! Cant take it anymore!!!!!
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6 responses
@ScrappinHappyMom (914)
• United States
7 Mar 07
That is a terrible way to live.
I would say have you tried talking to him but that would obviously not work. Perhaps you could put a letter in his brief case or lunch box then he could read what you have to say.
I would have to agree with you that this is not a good way to live. Maybe you could even try bringing it up with your pastor.
I hope everything gets better for you.
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@asuzie (21)
• Singapore
7 Mar 07
u know what, that is something i've not done for quite a while. used to do that. i do gree with you. by writing a note or letter to him did knocked some senses into him,but just for a while & then he's back to normal.
thanks for ur response scrappihappymom:-)
@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
7 Mar 07
I'm sorry but that does sound really bad. I take it this is your husband?
Does he know you feel like this? Maybe you need to actually have some time set aside just for talking? Even if he is not much good at communicating he should still have an understanding of what you need from the relationship, just as you should understand what he needs.
If this isn't happening then unfortunately it doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship. I hope things work out for you.
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@asuzie (21)
• Singapore
7 Mar 07
yeap! he's my husband alright. thing is, he prolly taking this marriage for granted. see, we've been together for 21 years now. known him since in my early 20's. married only 8 years ago (yeap, it was a loooong courtship). our kids are still very small, 4 & 6. Each time when i bring up the matter, he'll just say, its better than those couples who's constantly fighting. Less talking, less arguments...HUH!
@Aurone (4755)
• United States
8 Mar 07
Could it be that he really focused on something at work or something at work is bothering him? My husband is just like that, but he is a PhD student and is so focused on work that I sometimes think he forgets about me. But it is just beacuse he total focus is on this project he is doing and he doesn't have time or energy for me. Perhaps it is the same for your husband right now--big project at work or something?
@diegaoalmeida (37)
• Brazil
7 Mar 07
don't worry! evrything will be fine! Sometimes I feel the way that you're feeling right now! but it's normal! just be happy!!!!
@asuzie (21)
• Singapore
7 Mar 07
Dont get me wrong. we lead a normal healthy & happy life as a family. We do go out as a family, we bond & play with our kids everynite. He comes home early everynite. he eats home everyday. its just that when it comes to just the 2 of us he's like a total different person. But come to think of it i know he still loves me & i shouldnt be worried. its probably normal. but sometimes i just need to get it out of my chest.
@lissienpaul (478)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
Really? Did you try asking him why or is there any problem or did you tell him that you like the two of you communicating? try extra sweetness. Or maybe, he doesnt like you or love you anymore? If he wont talk, you do the talking in a soft and sad voice.
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
talk to him abt it. or if everything seems to be so not right, i suggest u guys see a marriage counselor.
