Is your family this way?
By Mollyjo
@Mollyjo (266)
United States
March 7, 2007 12:48am CST
I have a family that some like nothing more then to talk bad behind your back. They are lovie dovie in your face and when they want or need something and then turn right around and run you down for any thing and every thing. I guess they feel like if they are talking about someone else in their family then they are keeping the focus off of themselves. I really don't understand. Yet I always forgive them and still love them in spite of it and they still take advantage of me and continue to do this! What are your thoughts and do you have the same problems?
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4 responses
@arnboy (357)
• India
7 Mar 07
I guess you should confront them if this goes on, other wise
you would feel worse. Blind love never gets you anywhere in life. Also, look inwards is there something that they do not
like about you and can you do something about it??.
Sometimes, we become so set in our lifestyle that we do not want to change the way we are used to behaving all our lives. If you feel you can change yourself for the better then it would be better you get started now.
However, the truth is that you got to do something to preserve your happiness, else you will feel more worse.
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@Mollyjo (266)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I have, I have even had set up a time with my sister to do this and to find out why she was so mad at me. When it came down to it she was blaming me for something that she had said and it wasn't my fault. When she realized what she had done she was even more mad and just said lets just forget it and wipe the slate clean and start over. It did not accomplish anything but, make me feel as if I was still taking the blame. I mainly just keep to my self any more. I don't bother going to family gathering and such we stay home and enjoy our kids and spending time with them.
@littlehoneymonster (383)
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7 Mar 07
yes i deffinately have the same problem and i hate its its dreadful. i can go around to vist and their whispering about others and when i walk out i know their saying stuff about me.but i also still love them, i just hate their way of life and the interfereing in other peoples lives.
@Mollyjo (266)
• United States
7 Mar 07
You properly get the same result when they say "oh it is because we love you so much dear" I just hate that. Here I am 32 years of age and I am still treated like I am 10. I raise my kids and do a good job. I have a daughter that is very sick and has been out of the hospital for over 3 years now. She has Cystic Fibrosis. For a long time my mother in law blamed me for her illness and I still think she still feels this way. Doesn't make us feel any better though.
