Do you think a family should have more children if they can't afford insurance??

Thank you for you thoughts. It is people like your cousin that are, as you said, taking advantage of a good thing. I would never look down on a person for using govt. aid if they qualify for it, though, as I think the cost of health care is shocking in this country and the fact that we don't have govt. funded medical coverage for every citizen appalling. However, having babies to get money is troubling to me... and having more babies than you can feed and clothe without that extra assistance I think is selfish.

I have a cousin who was supported by state dollars and was actually tring for another child just to get more money, this about made me sick, luckily she was not successful, they tried for a year before giving up. I can understand people being supported by the state to help you get up on your feet when times are tough....But TOO many people are taking advantage of a good thing. I have 2 kids, badly want another but can't, due to a historectomy I had to have after having my daughter. But we work hard for what we have, and we're proud that we are able to give our kids everything they need, Too many people are spitting out kids when they can't support or raise the ones they already have. It just doesn't seem fair to the kids, who end up deprived of food, clothes, or other necessities.

thanks for your response. I believe very strongly in a few principles.. one is 'do not take any more for yourself than you need'. I think if everyone followed this principle, we wouldn't have super rich people who horde all their goods and on the opposite of the spectrum the starving poor. Take only what you need and leave the rest for someone else. If someone needs govt. assistance, fine. But like you said, to 'abuse the system' is like taking from someone else who needs it.

Thank you for your response. It's the 'trying' to have another that got to me a little bit.. I just cannot imagine a good enough reason to 'try' when you have already been blessed with so many. I am about to have my first and I want to keep it at one child for a good long while because it is hard enough on my husband supporting me and a baby.. It's like the stereotypical 'welfare mom' who gets more money the more children she has, so she keeps having them just to get that cheque in the mail.. i don't think this woman is like that, but just assuming that you can put your kids on govt. aid is abusing the system. There is nothing wrong or shameful about needing a little help now and again, but deliberately having kids you need govt. assistance to pay all their doctors bills, etc. is irresponsible.

Yes, it is very irresponsible! But I found something out about welfare here in the U.S. (I say here because I don't know what country you're in, there's so many different people from all sorts of countries on here!). Did you know that people on welfare here in the U.S. only get money and welfare for up to 2 of their children! Yeah, no matter how many children they have they can only claim 2! But medical insurance is different, they can claim all their children for that if they wanted to. I just thought I would share that with you! I thought it was interesting!

I was raised by parents who were both middle class workers. My father ran a successful farm and my mother worked as a nurse. Some years the crops weren't so good and we had to make do with less, other times things were flush. My point is, BOTH of my parents worked outside the home to make sure we never went without anything, and my parents would have seen not having insurance for their children as a pretty huge deal. There were three of us. My views are likely shaped by the way I was raised... my mother hated not being able to be with her kids 24/7, but she taught me that you sacrifice to provide WELL for your family.... My views are also likely shaped by the fact that she now works with the state child welcare clinic and tells me some horror stories about mothers who continue to have babies they can't afford JUST for the money, and what a drain this is on their state resources. I am not saying you are one of these mothers. I am simply asking what the popular opinion is on this topic, and as you can see, most people feel you should have the number of children you can adequitely provide for. I do not know your whole situation, and I agree with you about the cost of insurance. I am pregnant with my first, I love children, and could see myself with a number of them IF I wasn't concerned with things other than my maternal desires. Namely, the environment and overpopulation. Also, I take into consideration the high cost of higher education and would hate to have to tell my child 'we can't afford it' if they wanted music lessons or something extra. I think providing well is different from merely providing. My best friend in the world is a single mother of three, and when she talks about the desire for a fourth I say these same things to her. All her kids are on state insurance, she feeds them with food stamps, all three sleep in one room, and she is consistantly late paying rent and bills. She gets no child support. I guess I posted this wrong. My real question is why have more when you already have so many?? And what happens when they become old enough to need help with a car payment or school loans? Children remain your children long after they leave your house, and I for one am grateful I have parents I can go to in times of financial emergency. I just don't see how one man can provide well for 7 people... but if I offended, I am sorry. It reminds me of a time when my friend's parent's got very angry with me when I said I was having a hard time getting financial aid for college. Their p.o.v. was that my parents should pay the whole amount for me, or I should pay it myself instead of depending on THEIR tax dollars. I said, well, MY tax dollars go to feeding your grandchildren (foodstamps) and they had nothing more to say. I feel people are very invested in where taxes are spent, and lots of people are vying for that money, and lots of people with ligitimate illness are homeless due to lack of proper medical care.

*stands and applauds* well said that is exactly the same as my situation.

I don't think there is anything wrong with utilizing state services because, in all hoonesty, I would rather use up those tax dollars myself for my families health emegencies than have it go to fund a war I don't agree with. And I agree that providing for a child means so much more than just having health insurance.... I think the part I question is how responsible it is to continue to bring children into the world when you, as their mother, cannot afford to go to the doctor unless you are pregnant. My family is also the type to treat itself, most often using homeopathics or herbal remedies... unfortunately not all families are like that and do use a lot of resources.

I am agree with you definitely, that's not only about irresponsibilities and selfishness, but it can bring to social problem as well if a family can't afford good for coming children. The most important i would say is their education, how one family could afford that many children for good education if they are not rich enough. Piece ^.^Y