Help me (Brother turned boy friend)

You are 22 years old and your teacher 15 years younger to you. Meaning 7 years old kid proposed you. You want me to beleive this ?

I don't think that anyone can tell you exactly what to do in this situation, but advice is always here. If I were in your place, I would have to think deeply about my feelings for this man. Age is only a number, so if I had any feelings other than a "sister" should, I would have to consider it. I would date him for a while and see if anything blooms. If I truly didn't have feelings for him any other way, I would simply explain that while I was flattered by his proposal, I have to decline.

Well..i know that many friendships can build into the nxt step..it happens alot..and maybe he didnt mean to deceive you..but it just happened.. needless to say that how do you feel about it? You may be in shock now and are totally against it..but who knows? it may work out and u could end up the happiest woman in your town lol.. So i would just take your time and think it out..and tell him you need alot of time to think things threw..and if y ou say no..i hope u remain friends..real friendship is soo very hard to come by these days..")

It depends largely on your feelings for him and it sounds to me as though you find this quite a frightening situation. You feel secure having this guy as your brotherly friend, and are somewhat surprised by his proposal. He obviously loves you for your personality and companionship, so he sounds to be quite an honorouble man. Maybe if you're not too sure, you ought to ask for time to think about it, and maybe, in the meantime, date him as a boyfriend a few times, so that you can find whether your feelings for him are that of a sister to a brother, or whether there's something more. I would say he's trustworthy but you need to have some physical attraction to him before you answer yes. If that isn't there, it probably never will be, so plan some romantic evenings together, and see how it goes, is my advice. I hope this has helped, and sooner or later you'll know which answer to give this guy. Brightest Blessings.

well.. i think you deceived yourself in the first place. the sister-brother relship was just your own reality and not his. Or maybe he realized that he loves you more than what both of you categorized yourself. from now on you have to think outside the sis-bro reality. let him court you like any other guy that courted you before. let love bloom if it will. good luck!

Dear jasmeet.. 15 year gap is too much...and since u dont have the same feelin like him.. u better tell that to him so that he can change the approach towards u!

you are telling your age is 22 years then how your teacher 15 years younger than you it means your teacher age is 7 years hahahahahaha

Well I guess he was pretending with the brotherly feelin all the while, else why would he switch into being a bf next? But its very difficult for a guy to be just good friends and not fall in love...so I guess that'd explain. But what matters here is You, I know you have felt awkward at his proposal, but maybe you should date him like a normal guy and get to know him better, if you thinkj he's worth you, go ahead with the relationship. good luck! :)

Well go ahead if you see, love stands ahead of relations and traditions of your locality.

Hi, I prefer If you don't have any such feelings towards him better tell him that you consider him as a brother, I think if he is a good person he will consider that . From your words I think that he is a good person. Any how you don't have to marry a person who is 15 years older than you ( I am here just 3 years older than you) lol... ha ha

Ur argument has no logic do not fool

By the way jasmeet, the case seems to be quit complicate. I rathere suggest you that what u feel and what your soul tells, see if you both have a good understanding and if you know u can adjust your life with the guy who is younger then you then the thing could be solved immiediatly. just think once you decide the case seriously, differenciate it both the marit and demarit of it.

Go with your heart that will never lead you astray ;)

Your statement seems not correct. You have given your age as 22 and the boy is 15 years younger then his age is ony 7 years. So please check up what you type and then proceed. As such I am unable to give you any suggestion.

See its your choise,if you like this guy,say yes,or say no...simple.

At the age of 18 you met with your teacher some how I assume that you didn't have any feeling about him at the starting period. Means no brother feeling or no other feeling. He is only a teacher for you. Anyway i think he had some talent which admires you at that time and make you like him as a person talented. Somehow you have been clearing all your doubts by asking him. I think after some time the age difference between you created a relation like brother and sister. In your story u said that he considered you as his sister. I don't think so. May be it is your feeling that taking into consideration of his age treating him as a well wisher. It is quite natural that in the indian culture any one who is younger, calls the elders with a quite good relation such as if he is at the age of 50+ may you call him as granpa. In your case he is older than you but not so high. Means there was no relationship other than 'brother'. And also in case of friendship also after a long time of friendship it happend to be sharing all the things that too with personal things also shared between best friends. As you have attained the age of 22 after a long long four years of relationship its ok as a brother and sister it creates some special intimacy between both of you. As there is no hurdles for both of you such as you are not married and he also a batchelor make him thinking about you as his life partner. I think in the meantime if he get married you also attended his marriage as his 'sister' only. Now think about the intimacy between both of you. Is it that bigger as you both become life partners. Think about your feelings. If you both natural brother and sister then there definitely should not any romantic feeling between both of you. never and never. In these four years may be he should telling all of his freinds and colleages that you are his sister. How could he said that he is going to marry with his sister. I think he never told to any one as you are his sister. It's upto you now to take the right decission. May be can I also call you as a sister for some time. Who knows what will happen in the future.

hi jasmeet, first of all u make your self clear what are your feelings towards him.if you feel him as brother tell him clearly and ask him what led him to propose.if you are feeling uncomfortable avoid him slowly and tell curtiously not to give names to your relationship and remember this in future also.

It depends on what you like to happen with your relationship with this man, jasmeet. He may be 15 years older than you and you've been friends for 4 years. He may finally realized that his feelings for you went deeper than friendship. Both of you have been sharing confidences with each other for four years already. Within that space of time, I'm sure you, more or less, knew a lot of things about him. Why not try to open your eyes more and look at him in a different perspective rather han being your friend. The decision will always be yours to decide. We are here to give you advises only. All the best.

You seem a little bewildered by this proposal and to be honest I don't blame you. Obviously it was unexpected and with you looking upon him as a brother, then I understand that you find it disturbing. Why not ask for a little bit of time to think about it, and go out with him for a while. Love will bloom naturally if it's meant to be. If it doesn't, then you'll need to turn him down. Good Luck.

your statments has ambiguity.You are indian and as far as i know indian are most famous becouse of their culture,their understanding towards the relationship.Your teacher and you has been siblings since last four year and suddenely he proposed you,dont you know the meaning of relation b\w brother and sister.Its the most holy relation in india.You would better to refuse him and tell him that we are sibling.Else upto you.