Is your hubby or sig. other a neat freak or a slob?

@Caila611 (992)
United States
March 7, 2007 7:41am CST
My hubby is a slob. He will not put away anything and who gets to clean it up? The maid he somehow thinks that we employ. It drives me crazy. And now our tend year old is picking up on his habits. She even said to me (after I told her to put her trash in the trash can "Well dad doesn't do it why should i?" I wish that he was in the room when she said that! Any of you out there have a other half that's a neat freak or a slob? does it drive you crazy?? Vent here!
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@Fishish (696)
• India
8 Mar 07
my husband is not so bad. he is messy but his things are still organised he can place his things, nothing is ever lost . and once in a while he cleans up and settles his things. he is pretty good at settling things when he comes to doing it. he does not do his clothes though but its ok. and it is obvious that your kids will pick up the habits of yoru hubby, u should tell him to mend his ways or else you will be cribbing about your son the same way in no time:)
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
You are so right abou that. I see my daughter taking after him.She won't even bring the laundry down from her room so i can wash it. So needless to say she has no clean clothes!
@cwilson26 (2735)
• United States
8 Mar 07
Oh yes my husband is a big slob! He doesn't put anything away either and doesn't throw anything away. When he's drinking his coffee in the morning he leaves stains on the table and leaves his trash on the table or wherever he can find to put it besides the garbage can. It drives me nuts too! I am constantly cleaning up after him because I am a big neat freak and it gets tiring. I constantly ask him to throw things away and sometimes he will if I ask him but only then. My doctors receptionist once said that we take over for their mothers and I believe that 100 %! No offense to any of the guys on here but sometimes I think men will never grow up, lol! We don't have any kids yet and sometimes I jokingly tell him that with him around I don't need anymore kids, lol. :)
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
try flylady dot net and see if that helps. Your right about us being serrogate mothers. My hubby did not lift a finger when he was growing up. His mother did EVERYTHING for him. And that's why he is the way he is today!
• United States
8 Mar 07
I cant stand when my husband dosent clean up after himself. It drives mr nuts!! If I say something about it he gets mad like why are you yelling at me? I wish he would just get the picture and clean up.
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
It does me no good to get mad or confront him about his messiness. Try giving him a heads up before he goes to work that you would like to discuss the house keeping when he gets home. Then in the evening talk about the way it makes you feel when he doesn't help (crying really works) (darn now the men know our little secret). Show him on paper what you do everyday and ask him to pick the ones that he would like to do to help you. getting angry about it is just going to make him not want to help.
7 Mar 07
Much as I love my partner, he is a slob. He hangs his clothes on the floor He doesn't understand what a rubbish bin is for He leaves paperwork all over the table Yes I do love him but he is so untidy sometimes
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Hanges is clothes on thefloor. .That is such a good way to describe thepile of clothes by his side of the bed. Apparently he thinks that is his closet.
• India
8 Mar 07
jus make him understand wat to do......... tell him that u lov him but he should become tidy......
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
18 Mar 07
My husband helps clean...when we are expecting someone to come over! LOL Okay, it's not *that* bad. After all, he has been remodeling the floor and he has been cleaning as he goes. If only the floor could be remodeled all the time. hee hee
@Caila611 (992)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I wish mine would clean as he goes! Can your hubby come over and show mine how to do that?
@Impervious (1147)
• United States
7 Mar 07
My wife is SOOOOOO a neat freak, I do appreciate that somewhat the hard part is when I am in the midle of something leave to take a pee or something and the tool or whatever i was using is gone. And I start going crazy cause I cant find it. But I will definitely take that over my ex- now she even made me look like a super clean freak
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• United States
7 Mar 07
I guess you figured out which one I am.....CRAP !!
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
HA HA yes that is annoying. My mom is like that. I will have toys out for my kids to play with when they are at her house and if they get up for a snack or diaper change the toys are put up. LOL!
• United States
8 Mar 07
My hubby is kind of a slob There are times he leaves garbage and cans laying around and it bugs me but I just deal with it. He could be worse. I am the neat freak I am constantly cleaning and washing walls and carpets and all that fun stuff. But he does like doing laundry so I will let him leave things sitting around and pick up after him as long as continues doing laundry :)
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
A hubby that does laundry!! I have never seen one of those!! Where do you get one??
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
i have a neat boyfriend and would love to marry him coz he's neat. youre right, youre hubby should have heard it so he'll wake up and clean up after himself!
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
You are so lucky!! Good luck to you!! On occassion though once they are married they tend to get a little lazy. I hope that doesn't happen for you!
• United States
8 Mar 07
My husband leaves the wrapping from things he has eaten on the coffee table. He doesn't change the toilet paper roll when it runs out. The trash can be overfilling and he won't take it out. Things stay on the kitchen table until I take them off. The dirty T-Shirt laying on the bathroom floor is used for a kleenix. It drives me crazy. Especally him using his T-Shirt for a kleenix. He asked me one day when I was picking up his shirt why I was picking it up like he had some kind of disease. I mentioned to him that I don't like to pick up shirts that he has blown his nose on.
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
EWWWWW! I would do the same thing. YUCK! My hubby doesn't change the roll he just sits the new roll on the back of the toliet. This is after he used to put it on the floor and our two year old unrolled it all. LOL! So it's a start. Now i have to get him to graduate to the actual holder.
@rachelzwo (310)
• United States
8 Mar 07
My husband is definately not a neat freak. He refuses to do dishes and I'm always picking up his clothes. I love the guy, but he's so messy. I don't mind picking up after him right now, because I don't work. But when I rejoin the Army and he's the one that's home all day, he better not be as messy as he is now.
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
Yes I do love my husband very much but man oh man i wish he would help me. You should give him a list of stuff you do during the week to keep the house clean. .Take a YOU mini vacation and tell him that at least half of the list should be done before you get back. HMMM i'm might try that. Sometimes I surprise myself. HA HA!!
• United States
8 Mar 07
Whoops, so I guess it would be significant other. But I do the mowing in the yard so I guess we kind of trade off sometimes.
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
That is a good thing. At least you do help even if it is outside. We woman pride ourselves on our house looking nice. Even on the outside! Kuddos to you!!
• United States
8 Mar 07
Mine is a neat freak in the bedroom, The covers have to be straight no cloths on the floor. Dark cloths in one hamper and light cloths in another. The bathroom he cleans up after himself. But in the kitchen MESSY, stuff he drips on the floor, glasses, spoons all over. When he is done with his coffee, little rings & sugar on the counter. He always hangs his coat up. We watch TV and eat in the bedroom, so the living room never gets messed up unless we have company. And he is always cleaning the car & truck up.
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
My hubby won't even keep the car clean. UGH!! Is it just me or do all woman feel this way. . .the cleaner your kitchen is the cleaner your whole house feels?
• United States
8 Mar 07
My husband is so much neater than I am. He gets really frustrated with me because I simply don't notice the "messes" that drive him crazy. I'm making an effort to be neater, and he's making an effort to be more tolerant and kind.
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I love that! Compromse! Now that is an awesome solution! I just wish my husband would listen to me when i try to approach him with my greviences!
• United States
8 Mar 07
My husband ia in between. There are somethings he is neat about, but he is a slob in other areas. For instance, On his side of the bed he has clothes everywhere. When it comes to dishes he is spotless. I would trust his dishes over anybodies dishes. He can also clean a good floor.
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
Can he come to my house! I think that i'm going on strike soon. And when i do. The house will be a dump!
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
7 Mar 07
LOL... Ok so my sig. other is both-- He annoys me because he takes his clothes off at night and hangs them on the kitchen chair! he puts his shorts and t on after showering- His clothes aren't dirty he tells me and wears them the next day! So our kitchen is spotless but his clothes, coat, towels, socks you name it-- his stuff hanging on the back of a chair! and he never hangs it on his! My daughter is getting just as bad-- not picking up after herself! I constantly say- I'm your mom not your maid!
@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
You too?? I feel like the maid not a wife!! I have told him that too. I didn't get a good response. Should have kept my mouth shut!
• United States
7 Mar 07
my husband is a total neat freak!! i guess thats good though. i am in between. i like my house neat but i dont go crazy cleaning eaither. if there are papers on the coffee table i dont mind. but as soon as mu house starts to look like a tornado ran through it then i will really start to get edgey and clean up. it doesnt really drive me crazy except that he is always saying this is a mess and that is a mess.
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
7 Mar 07
your lucky. I just wish that he would at least pick up after himself. I don't mind cleaning i just don't want to constanly pick up his stuff and trash and stuff all over the house! It wears me out especially with three kids.
• Netherlands
7 Mar 07
Well, you are not the only one who felt that way. I told my husband hundreds of times. If he will not help me clean up, at least keep things tidy and neat as it is. It works maybe for 2 or 3 days and after that he forgot the whole thing and back to his old habit until I get mad again....geez.... I'm still working on him and I think it will take looooong time and real sloooowwww.....
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
7 Mar 07
my mom told me once that it took my dad 20 years to help her keep the house clean. I don't want to do this by myself for 20 years. AHHHHHHH!
• Canada
7 Mar 07
My other half is kind of half and half. He does have this tendency to leave drawers and cupboards open when he's done with them which drives me crazy. I either ask him to close them, which he will, or I make a point of slamming them shut at which point he apologizes for leaving them open. I do have to ask him to do the dishes if I don't want to do them, and he will, he's pretty good like that. So long as I ask him to do something he will, and he always takes his plate and cutlery into the kitchen after he's done eating. I can't complain, because I know it could be much worse.
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
you lucky! my hubby will cook dinner once in a blue moon and then say. Oh i will get the dishes later. UH HUH! Right! He conveniently leaves for me to do the next morning. And if i say somthing about it to remind him he gets all huffy about it. LOL!
• United States
7 Mar 07
My girlfriend can be pretty messy. Her apartment isn't too bad sometimes, but other times it can be like a tornado ripped through it. However out of anything that she does the thing that bothers me the most is she never puts her DVDs or CDs back in the correct case. She just tosses them in the first one she sees or if she's putting in a new movie, she puts the DVD that's in the player in the case of the new movie she decides to watch. Then when we wants to find something, she spend 30 minutes opening all her cases up to find it!
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
7 Mar 07
OMG that would drive me batty!!! I get on my daughter about doing that!!
• United States
7 Mar 07
My significant other is less of a slob then I am :) When he's over for dinner, he helps my mom clear the table (Sometimes he does it all by himself) and doesn't mind helping out. Compared to me he does more, and I should probably follow his lead and clean up for himself ^-^ His room is messy sometimes, but that's kind of normal. My mom told me that she wishes my brother would be more like him and try and keep the house clean.
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
8 Mar 07
then he's showing you up! LOL! My hubby will help at somone esle's house just not at home!