My girl said she isn't comfortable with me having other female friends.
By docsammy
@docsammy (93)
Nigeria
March 7, 2007 12:29pm CST
Well, I don't think there is anything wrong with a guy attached or married to have other female friends. But my fiancee doesnt really agree to that. She said that things might get out of hand when the friendship seems to last or go further. She also emphasized that guys are always loose when it comes to woman and always seems to fall when a woman flirts. So for some reasons, she is not comfortable with me having any sort of intimate friendship with any woman.
What you think guys and ladies, I know I cant easily fall for a woman when she flirts. Do you think she is right? or she is being jealous or over protective?
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15 responses
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
8 Mar 07
Yes, she is right. I would not like neither if my boyfrined was hanging with girls. Maybe I am jeallous too.
It is because I do not trust in myself. Just like your girlfriend. She is not sure that she is the nicest, the smartest, and the kindest for you forever.
@docsammy (93)
• Nigeria
8 Mar 07
Thanks for the response Dolcerina. I think thats her problem coz she doesnt even like me talking on phone with other girl. The other night, a friend of mine called me and was telling me how things werent going well with her and the bf. We did spoke for too long and the next day, she called back again trying to know how I was doing. My girl told me she isnt comfortable with the lady calling me very night and that I should tell her to stop calling rather she will herself. I know she is trying to be protective and I understand her but I also trust myself and wont cheat on her.
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
8 Mar 07
I do not like anybody call us in the night, or late evening. Does not she think you have your private life with your girlfriend??? I do not call anybody too late, because that is not right. I totally agree with your girlfriend.
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
8 Mar 07
Didn't you already sleep with your ex. Girlfriend sure seems reasonable to me in this case. I gather you have not told her. This is not starting well so I wish you luck. These things tend to come out somewhere down the road. Hope you do better from now on.
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
8 Mar 07
Sorry, went and checked your discussions like I should have before this. Was another friend I have. Sorry!!!! He does kind of prove my point. It is best for you to have your attnetions on your girlfriend. If she feels secure she should begin to trust you more. Good luck!
Sorry for the mistake I made.
@Hamlet333 (724)
• Pakistan
9 Mar 07
She is absolutely right becos man easily falls if woman flirt and even go forward to cross any limit when a man is having relations of any kind like friendship with a woman.
She is showing her deep insight between you and your relation but not over protective or jealous at all.
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
9 Mar 07
it doesnt matter at all untill you are just going with those girls as a frienship sort. now some girls do feel insecured when they see their boyfriend fliting with others and apprehend losing. it all depends how faithful you are to each other. even i have arouns 4 to 5 girls, those are chat friens ofcourse, but i am very close to them though online and far, it doesnt matter for my wife at all since she believes its only a friendship and wont do anything which would be against her. but since your woman doent like it , its her attitude so go with it and be happy.
@luv4one_2 (9)
• India
8 Mar 07
hi...i thnk both th conditions r applied here...she is right to some extent ...as boys do easily fall when woman or girl flirts...thy dont even know i whn they have fallen in love with his frnd who is a girl...nd to some extent she might be jealous..she must be jealous th beauty of ur frnd...or there can be any reason for her jealousy.....so frm my point of view as u hv said u dont easily fall when woman flirt so..u shld go on wth ur frndshp but keep in mind dont ever cross th limits bcoz it will hurt both u nd ur partner...
@littlekitty (23)
• Russian Federation
8 Mar 07
I think she is absolutely right. I can understand her. I usually see men, falling for a woman when she flirts, even if she is ugly or stupid. If you really love her, you should always let her attend, when you meet your female friends. It is important to show her, that they are not woman for you at all. If she still feels uncomfortable, you have to break off with these girls.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
8 Mar 07
She may be being overly cautious. I mean, just because you know a girl does not mean you're going to want to date her or have a more intimate relationship with her.
I have guy friends who have girlfriends, and we usually hang out as couples. Maybe your girlfriend could make friends with your friends who are girls, and then she'd feel more comfortable with the idea?
It's important to have trust in a relationship. If she thinks you're loose, then she is going to wonder everytime you have to go on a business trip, work late, or go out for drinks with your buddies. It's no fun for anyone.
@MsRetro (249)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I'm female, and have many male friends.
I think it's unreasonable to expect you to only have male friends -- my entire social circle is mixed male and female. I couldn't imagine anyone I know having such a restriction put on them.
@havachat (105)
• Australia
8 Mar 07
my wife is exactly the same, i get the third degree, she constantly spys on my phone, we even have arguments over it, in my work some of my crew are female, and doing dive charters, they are not all males, look at a pretty chick in the shops and all hell breaks loose, but if they do the same thing, thats a different story, and i have never done anu thing to make her think i was thinking of having an affair, like i told her once, why would i have an affair, one chick is enough trouble without having two, i think it's they are too insecure and have a natural tendency to jealousy
@koolraj_inlove (842)
• India
8 Mar 07
many girls have many reasons to blame their partners , and non like their partners to be shared, so is ur gal doing, if u would be in her place and if she might be doing the same u would have also not liked,, this is in human nature.
@vsrkm1969 (89)
• India
8 Mar 07
Hi,
There is no problem having female friends even b4 marriage or after marriage. But as was suggested by your fiancee it is better to give up of having female friends before you get married.
Also, you can introduce your fiancee to your female friends and let them be friends. As long as they are maintaining good relationship there won't be any problem.
@velvetprinzess (1064)
• Singapore
8 Mar 07
It really depends on the lady that you are dating. Some ladies feel insecure and worry that their guy might be snatched away by some other women. But there are women who are more liberal and allow their guys to have close female friends. Generally, it would be too much for most ladies if their guy sees their close female friends more than them. I think it would be wise to discuss things with her and continue to reassure her of your love.
@akopoto (177)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
I think your fiancee is insecure of your relationship. In order to have a strong relationship, you should trust each other. It is normal for a girl to be jealous and over protective but she needs to understand that you can't avoid to have female friends. Just make her feel comfortable and make her trust in you.
