As a parent, do you think your actions affect your children?

Every action we have in life will always have a good or a bad influence on my kids. I used to smoke, though not in front of them, and although they knew I smoked, I preached about the health issues caused by smoking. I've never been a one for having parties anyway, although we have friends round for dinner sometimes. I allow the kids to sit and eat with us as long as they are well behaved and I've never had any issues with them. They go to bed when they're told and my friends comment on how well behaved they are. It reaffirms that I'm doing right by my kids. I spend my time online when they're at school, and when they're in bed. When my kids are at home, I'm a mother. When they're out or in bed, I'm an adult and a partner. I've learned to separate the two.

I think that it's impossible to know how actions will effect our children. Especially at the extremes, sometimes a child will rebel against a drunken parent by choosing not to be like them, but who really knows? I think it is pretty obvious which behaviours should be moderated by parents in front of their children, you list a good number of them. But children who are raised to value themselves and to know they are loved unconditionally will quite simply be strong enough to appraise the behaviours around them as they grow up. They need love and support and real engagement far more than they need a sanitised or dishonest act from their parents.

hello 768, well..im a mother. i hve a son sho is a very active lively child.since he learned how to react towards anything, i noticed that he is a fast learner.evrything he saw ,heard,listened, touched..he could adapt it into his own attitude..performances..speech..interact and communicate.me and my husband even made boundaries to what we should do and shouldnt do when he is around us..that is when he is not sleeping..but we can not control all his movements..he learned something else from my siblings..and his other cousins.. i agree that our actions can affect our children behaviours.

Somehow what they see will really affect them. But if you cant help it, you should just explain so they can hear you out. most kids are smart, when you explain to them, theyll understand what is right and wrong.

I sincerely believe that everything we do is a matter of cause and effect. For starters, my parents ways has affected me a great deal. Not only with the way I look but as well as the way I treat people. My mom is a kind woman. Even if she has only a few pieces to spare, she would sacrifice her share to give to a much needy individual. As much as possible, lessen the material things but never on food. Health is wealth for her. This I picked up from her coz now that I am a mom, I'd rather save up and invest on my daughter's milk formula and baby food rather than buying her cute clothes and matching accessories. My mom is also an achiever, she never settles for second best. This is always about doing things your way. Meaning, making sure you did your best. When doing a craft project, everything should be in order and the seams should be clean. Make sure that its quality and can survive a fall. When I was growing up though, my mom had to go out of the country always for business. I never understood why she would leave my 7 month old brother to the maid because she has a business trip. She's really successful in her career but that definitely made me hate going overseas. I feel like its leaving important people or abandoning them. I vowed to my daughter that if I have to go out of the country because of business, I'd make sure she goes. Of course, that's not always possible but I would take her as much as I can so she wouldn't feel how I felt. On the other hand, my dad, a religious and noble man. He's very simple and practical. Once in a while he surprises us with luxury but he would always exhibit simplicity and humility in everything. I guess I learned how to be patient by merely observing my dad. Everything I wish for, he'd just say, "Pray for it." Now that I am married and have my own family, I catch myself saying the same words to my hubby whenever he consults something to me. Say for job offers, I simply utter "pray for it. or Pray, it works." Also, I am not humiliated accepting my mistakes. In fact I would even tell people that I made a booboo over something. Both my parents enjoy sports. When they were younger they have competed in their respective sports but career engulfed them to enjoy those sports only in their allowed vacations. That's why I never got into sports. My few attempts had all ended up into me enjoying a game of volleyball on TV. Now I watch them with my dad. Although, my siblings enjoyed competing. I just support them. :)

You are very very very right.... Sad but it's true, it's making me feel guilty when most of my time is devoted to work and I only have an hour in the evening to put my baby to bed. The rest are taken by work work work....

Wow-- those are pretty bad parenting skills there! How about if you shower your child with hugs and kisses everyday- Will your child feel more loved and have a higher self-esteem? If you read with your kids daily will they become great readers? Will they become scholars? If you only drink milk and water will your kids never drink? I seriously think that everything we do as parents affect our kids in some way or another- so if we do positive things hopefully they will be great kids and great adults.

I truely agree witrh your conspect and I find it hard when a parent pushes there kids off while they are haveing party or escetra and holloring at them constantly will not help either that is the way the lady I babysit for does her kids and always telling them to wait

yes, definitely our actions will affect our children's activities. Not only smoking and drinking. Even if we ask them to tell a lie over the phone, it will have a bad effect on them. Try to be a good example to them

Of course our actions as parents affect our children. Parents are the molds our children have to grow up and be responsible adults. Our children are a reflection of the people that raised them, be it their parents, their environment, their education, their community. Everything affects how our children will turn out in the end. Some parents are absolutely wonderful and yet their children can grow up to be murderers, so it can be other things around that child that influences them to do certain things they do in their lifetime. Parents have the ultimate first chance at as to how their child turns out, be it good or bad.

Well I thought about it for a second and then wondered if i could come up with some posts that earned me money for simply stating the very obvious.

If I ever have children, I am going to seriously monitor my actions and words around them. I know that what my parents said and did when I was younger affected me. I have seen many negative things, but fortunately I have been able to tell right from wrong and have made better life choices than they have. I owe them a lot, because their good morals have rubbed off on me.

I think in in a way you are right but on the other hand I grew up with parents who were drinkers very bad I am not one I think if you are a strong enough person then you can look back on how your childhood was and no what was done in it was wrong and know that you dont want your life or your childrens life to be like that. I also think there are alot of lazy parents out there that dont care and should. What you do in life will effect who ever is around you. I dont think that just because you have children your life is centered around them and what they want. I think it is just like see it has"Do unto others and you want done to you"

I do think our actions have an effect on our children. Kids learn by example. I've tried to raise my boys to be able to come to me and tell me about whatever is bothering them. They don't tell me "everything" and honestly, I don't want to know everything. They do, however, tell me the important things. Bottom line, kids are line sponges. They soak up everything around them. It's up to the parents to make sure their environment is positive.

Most definitely our actions affect our children. If they see us hit walls when angry, they will hit walls when angry. If they see us forgive, they will learn to forgive. If we treat the environment with respect, they too will treat the environment with respect. It is endless. That is a part of parenting that many do not see.

Yes, parents should be the role model for their childrens. We should be the one who will do best and good things so that our children will follow. Family is the basic foundation of the society so it is in our home that our childrens values and attitude will be develop. Mostly if parents are good children are also good. If parents are bad children are bad but not this is not applicable to every situation.

Job stress cand affect your children working parents often bring a bad day home to their kids. Working parents might think they leave it at the ofiice, but kids know better. Whether adults realize it or not, their job-related stress affects their children

That's the absolute truth. All our deeds and actions have an influence on our children, as well as on other people around us. The examples you've given clearly show it. Unfortunately, not many people remember about that. There are things which we do and say unconciously, automatically. without thinking about the after-effects. If a daughter constantly listens to her mother complaining and arguing with others, be sure she'll be the same when she grows older.

I do think that my actions can affect my children, both good and bad. Litle things that we as adults tend to do without thinking can have a huge impact on our children. They are little sponges, absorbing everything we do and say.

First of all, parents should set a good example for their children because children see their parents as role model. Toddlers are usually copycats. They will do the things that they see their parents doing. A good parent will always consider their action when in front of their children.