Husband changing careers/losing money
By Kittson76
@Kittson76 (10)
March 7, 2007 5:16pm CST
My husband is at a crossroads. Although he is making incredible money at the job he is at, he gets yelled at daily to bring his numbers up. See, he is in the business field and he is in management. It is his duty to oversee the supervisors and push them to make the company more money by having them push the people they oversee to come to work and work all their hours to generate more revenue.
Well, he is sick and tired of being griped out daily and having upper management threaten his job almost daily. He also works the night shift until almost midnight and they call him in on his off days consistantly.
Last month when he was at his wits end, he applied for a state job.. and he got it. It's a wonderufl opportunity to have state benefits and it is a 6-2 shift. The bad news? We will be struggling to get by as it will be over a $1000 paycut.
He really wants it and I want to be a supportive wife, but I also feel we need the extra money to enjoy things with our children, take them on vacations, have wonderful birthdays and Christmases. However, if he isn't happy at his job, it could cause problems in our marriage. I'm not sure what advice to offer him. What would you do?
2 responses
@stinkerbell (38)
• United States
8 Mar 07
Well, my theory is that he won't be able to enjoy your children or vacations if he has a heart attack from the extreme stress he is under. It may sound harsh, but I do know people that have had that happen.
On the flip side, is that the only other job that is available to him? Could he apply for something else that might not be such a pay cut? Or is there an opportunity for him to advance quickly in the state job?
If this is the only possibility of another job, and he's truly stressed, then I think the best answer is for him to take the new job. His stress in the current situation is going to affect your marriage, your kids, and your entire lives.
Good luck-- I know it can't be easy.
@Kittson76 (10)
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9 Mar 07
Thank you both! I think you are right. And yes he has had other job offers, but only in the field he is trying to get away from. There are opportunities to move up in the state job though so we shouldn't be in the hole too long. Thanks for responding!
@spr1967 (208)
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7 Mar 07
Being someone in pretty much the same situation as your husband and having discussed my dilemas at work with my wife, she is 100% behind my decision to move albeit for less cash. At least my sanity will be intact.
As long as the bills are paid and there is food in the cupboard thats our priority.
As for going on holidays and stuff, we travel to the local seasides and have away days now which cost very little so i think you can still have quality time with the family on a budget, just dont go homeless or hungry
Good luck
