What do you think about....

ok well i have a daughter that is 22 and she is living with her boyfriend. i always thought it was fine when other peoples kids did this., but something about it really bugs me inside. i don't like to say it to people, and i don't like to hear about it from her, but its the plain and simple truth-she lives with him... but she sleeps in another room-right?

I think it is a food idea so you get to know everything about the person!! But I was raised to think that is was unacceptable, so when I wanted my boyfriend (now husband) to move in with me I was terrified to ask my parents their opinion. I was a single-mom with a little girl and needed their support-not financially or anything, just having them to talk to. But they didn't have a problem with it at all!! I was surprised!! Just do what you feel is right!!

I am all for living together before marriage. How can you know if you can actually live together unless you've tried it? Some people can't do it, and it's better to find that out before marriage. There needs to be that trial period, just in case. I was convinced I was going to spend my life with someone, but then we tried living together... it was a disaster. All we did was fight. We were completely incompatible on that level.

I have mixed feelings on this discussion. On one hand I can understand the logic of living with someone before the commitment is legal. And on the other hand if your not ready to make that commitment why are you wanting to spend that much time with the person? On the religous aspect if you have already been intimate with this person the crime as I will call it, has already been done so this is no longer a factor. Although I do beleive just because you have sinned does not mean you can go ahead and continue. Ok enough said about that. I married really young at 18 and my husband and I never lived together first obviously but I think our marriage vows held us together that first year. The first year of getting to know someone as deeply as you do when you share the same home is a hard one. And living together first could ruin what eventually would be a great thing. I mean if there is no true commitment holding you together that first year what is the point in really trying? My husband and I have been married for 18 years now and have 5 wonderful children, we are eachothers best friends and even though we fight we find ways to make it right again. I know him better than I know myself and vise-versa but I think if I would have lived with him first I never would have found out how deeply I love him. It would have been to easy to leave in anger. Best wishes to you I hope everything works out the way it should be.

if its not a religion issue , i dont think there is anything wrong with living together,society has changed a lot today than when your mother grew up,and also you may think you know your intented well but believe me you never really know someone untill u live with them.there are many things to discover about living with someone. good luck

Well, I lived with my husband before we got married, and I'm glad I did. I think it would've been almost a culture shock had I not. And prior to him, I lived with another boyfriend, and I have to say that I am so grateful that we never got married. I would've been stuck in something horrible for a lot longer than I was stuck to begin with. Statistically speaking, it is not in the best interest for a long term commitment to just cohabitate, but from my personal experience, I couldn't do it any other way. You never really know someone till you are in the same house as they are. You just need to look within yourself and figure out what you want for you, not what your mom wants for you. You are an adult and are capable of making your own decisions. If it doesn't work out for you, then lesson learned. Good luck in your endeavors.

I am accord, are by now in 2000, certain things does not know any more at random. I think that a trial period is right. I am also favourable to the cohabitation. One says in Italy: "never buy a closed box"

Times have changed when I was younger it was frowned upon and considered very low class to "live in sin" nowadays no-one cares.

Here in the Philippines, they think that it is really horrible and unacceptable to live in together since we are a christian country. However, I highly recommend those couple living together before getting married. In this manner, one will get to know better their partner. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and I really and strongly believe in marriage that once you are in there is no turning back. You really have to work your butt out just to survive and take good care of that marriage.

I lived with my husband for a year before we got married. Maybe that wasn't enough.. but my personal opinion is like yours, you should see if you LIKE living together before commiting to do it for a lifetime!

times have changed. when i was younger it was known as living in sin and was really frowned on. now no one minds. my son lives with his girlfriend and i can't see anything wrong with this, your mum lived her life her way and you must live your life your way.

There is no rational reason why you shouldn't live with someone before marriage. End of story.

I think it is a good idea. There are too many divorces in the US there would be less if people really got to know the person before they jumped in. When you have been with someone awhile you know them but not like you know them after you live with them. Then all the things you never seen that they do come out. On the other hand if you are really in love with someone and get married nothing that they do in their own home would really be that big of a deal.

check him out for at least 3 years before even considering marrying him

Personally I don't approve of a couple staying together before they are married. Why is it that people want to put their relationship to the so-called test and then dump each other if they have differences?! Couples nowadays want to everything under the sun except get married. Call me old-fashioned or just a plain nut, but that's how I am and prefer it if couples were married first and then thought of living under the same roof. I think this is not acceptable in certain religions as well.

Seeing how you have had a relationship with your boyfriend for a year, it would be acceptable to live with him before marriage. It's not like he's a one-night stand and you are attempting to move in together. :-) I am 38 years old and am in my second (and last!) marriage. My first marriage ended after 15 short months and one baby girl. We were just incompatible. but most just too young to be married (I was 18). My second marriage was the result of a 3-year long relationship, in which two and a half years were spent cohabitating with my boyfriend. We went through many ups and downs throughout those first years. It was a good thing though. We were into our second year together when we started talking about marriage, but had to put it off due to unforeseen circumstances. A year later, we were married and had a baby girl together. He was wonderful to my oldest daughter, so I knew he would be a good daddy! Yes, sometimes living together will pull a couple apart, but I support cohabitating when marriage is to be the end result.

Okay giggles, here's what I can advise you. I'm very conservative in dealing with relationship. I honestly have to tell you that it is not a custom in my country to living in before marriage. But I will not stop you from what you like to do. It is your prerogative to think if you are ready to move in with your boyfriend. For me though, you are still young. You have more years to learn about your boyfriend. All I wish is your happiness.

i think it is a bad decision may i know in which country u are residing in

I think it is fine. In fact I think that everyone should try out living together before getting married. This way they know if they can live together before making everything legal. My husband and I lived together for five years before we got married. We have been married for six years now. I wish you and your boyfriend luck!

hey there! i am exactly of the same age as you are and my boyfriend and i are planning to get a house this summer. except that my parfents still aren't aware of that. i thought it would be better if they found out later so there wouldn't be too many debates on the subjects. i know they won't totally agree, in fact i don't know what you think. once my mom said she has nothing against the couples who move in together before marriage because of the same reason;so that they can know eachother better, before making the big step. ok, it's easy for her to say that as long as she is not implicated in such a situation. i have to admit, i'm quite afraid of the moment when we'll tell them we want to move in together. i often think about this and i start imagining all sort of things, and i really don't know what to believe anymore... well,i really hope you and your boyfriend will successfully move in together without any family conflicts! lots of good luck!!!! and keep your fingers crossed for me too!!!