Do you have a favorite child?

Actually I really and honestly don't have a favorite . I do love them all equally but for different reasons . They are all such a big part of my life and I don't know what I would do without all of them being in my life . They all know that they are special to me for a different reasons and know that nothing will ever change this but it makes each of them feel special in there own way as it should as they are all different . Even when I am upset with one of them , I don't change how I feel for them as I don't feel my feelings can be turned on and off like water . I love each of them for them and no matter what they do in life , I will always be there for them and will love them just as much as the next one . I can't imagine ever loving one more then the other as even though the little one's are cute there is something that the older one's do that makes me so proud about .

I am not a parent, but I want to say that I do not agree with telling each child that they are your favorite. If my mother had ever told me that she preferred me over my brother, I probably would have been angry at her. I think children should always be told that their mother loves everyone equally and in their own ways for their own reasons.

I can honestly say that I do not have a favorite. I love both of my daughters equally because of their individual personalities and quirks. I cannot even begin to imagine how life would be without one or the other. They are a "package deal" and complement each other perfectly. Where one is loud and energetic and full of life, the other is calm and laid back and content to observe. It's not that I am afraid to admit that I prefer one over the other, I really don't. In fact, if I were to sit down and compile a list of qualities that they have that I like or dislike the lists would come out the same. They both take up the same amount of space in my heart and I love them both equally.

At the moment I think my daughter is my favorite, because she is 2 and actually helping me type right now, and later when I spend the half hour with just my son playing video games, then he will be my favorite. I really do love them equally but when we spend our quality time together, I enjoy it so much I think that that child is my favorite. they are so different in so many ways you can't compare them, and so you really can't love one more than the other, but sometimes when it just me and my daughter, or just me and my son, I get lost in the moment and think they must be my favorite.

bah...what a bunch of goodie goodies. "I love all my children equally!" blah blah blah. Not me. There is a pecking order and whoever is giving me the hardest time that day is on my sh*t list. For the longest time that has meant the youngest has been the hands down favorite. Now he is 2. I still love him dearly but he has taken to screaming for no particularly obvious reason. It would be better if he told me what was wrong, but he just cries. Very Loudly...ALOT. grrr. The other two I pretty much know what to expect from and I have a habbit of falling into a pattern with them. It's not always great but it's consistant and I understand that consistancy helps make kids feel secure, so I guess that's good. My oldest boy is a pain in the butt, he has a smart mouth that will get him in lots of trouble. My daughter is pretty lazy. She takes more time to do anything than anyone i know. I wish the youngest would communicate. It's so frustrating. I don't believe you people with your equal love. Of course it changes from day to day, moment to moment. That is precisely why it isn't equal. Tell me one came home with an "A" and the other with a suspension and you wouldn't have a favorite that day? Of course your love is unconditional, but your favor varies as a direct response to their social skills. You nuture the good behavior and inhibit the bad. What's so hard to understand about that?

You're absolutely right. I have a favorite but it definitely changes depending on the situation or occasion. It is not right to tell them that you have favorites but it is okay that secretly you tell each and everyone of them that he or she is your favorite. This will be helpful in raising good human beings.