Asking out/talking to girls if you`re shy?
By Barbulex
@Barbulex (40)
Romania
March 7, 2007 9:44pm CST
So I`m just wonfering... how do you work up the courage to talk to girls if you`re shy. I mean I`m really nice and I`m fine around boys, but I can never seem to start a converstation with a gir. If i get to know them, like a few of my neighbors that are girls, I can be really nice and friendly, but I have a hard time getting to know people in school. For example, I went out this girl that lives near me because we saw eachother everyday at the bus, so it was easy to get to know her first, but I just can`t seem to get to know girls at school. Sure I can talk to them, but after saying a couple things, they always just lose interest no matter how hard I try. Any1 know the best was to ask out/talk to girls if u`re shy?
1 response
@DesignDiva (379)
• United States
8 Mar 07
The best way to get people talking, if you're shy (or even if you're not!) is to ask them questions about themselves. I mean, what do you know the most about? Yourself! And trust me, most girls are very into themselves and love to talk about how wonderful they are to anyone who'll listen.
But hear this: there's a friendly way to do this and a creepy way. Start off slow. Ask a girl maybe one or two questions at a time. Don't rattle off a whole string of them, or it'll seem too forced. Ask a question or two, and if a conversation develops, then go with it.
Here's another tip. If you do get her talking, don't overstay your welcome. Everyone wants what they can't have, so leave her wanting more. Don't wait until there's an awkward silence to leave, make your exit way before you run out of things to say.
Most important is to be yourself. If you're trying to hard, or it sounds scripted, she probably won't want to talk. And some girls are just b*tchy, so don't get discouraged if a few are mean. That's life, there are mean girls, so don't take it personally.
Good luck!
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