just say no

I agree with the first post. You've got to stand up for yourself and let your voice be heard, or the current situation is just going to progress. I hope you have the courage to do it! Good luck!!

I would tell them that I didn't want to do these things or that I really didn't feel up to doing them. And if they don't bugger off shack them lol jk (i think)..

Ahh the in-laws, I think it must be written somewhere that it is of the in-laws duty to drive the new family member crazy. The fact is they don't truly know you. Unless you open up and be honest about what you really like and don't like to do they will never know who you really are. I know you want to impress but lets face it they are stuck with you now...lol.. Be polite and explain that you don't want to do certain things and maybe suggest an alternative. Be firm it wont be easy but we are talking about a long time of dealing with these people and if you don't show them honesty now it could get to be to late. I had some problems or more like irratants with my in-laws at first. They use to just pop over at anytime and expect me to drop what ever it was I was doing make them coffee and sit down for a chat. They didn't seem to care if I was in the middle of something or even if I had some place to be. It went on as an ongoing joke between us for some time. They would say things such as "oh you turn off the lights and pretend to be gone when we come over don't you" or if I was on my way out the door with shoes and jacket on they would say things like "oh yeah sure you really have some place to be right now, you just don't want us to visit". Finally I had enough and told them that although I enjoy there visits when I have the opportunity to actually visit with them without it interuppting my day but I would appreciate it if they would call first and make sure I was not to busy at that time. I got raised eye brows and some sour looks and they actually didn't come to visit or call for a few weeks after that but eventually they came around and now we schedule or visits. Standing up for what I needed was the best thing I ever did now I can enjoy their company instead of resenting it. Best wishes...

Look there are certain things, which are beyond your control. But, always remember that we should not let others to take us as granted. And, as you know Respect begets Respect. Hence, it someone pays you the equal attention then you are suppose to do the same, but if its one sided commitment then you would really regret this thing after a while...Just take it easy, but don't feel bad...things will be fine.