Compliment or insult?

It is a shame that you cound not get a sincere compliment without the added insult. I am a large girl too. Larger than you. I had a similar comment from an Aunt. I was in High School and not brave enough to tell her how much she hurt me. "You have such a pretty face, it's a shame your so fat". Kind of puts a big damper on a shaky self esteem. I got over it and I am tougher now. The comments still hurt. I don't have time for small minded people who don't look past the exterior and dig a little deeper to find the wonderful person inside. Don't let small minded people bother you. I had a teacher once who told me that the other kids that teased me really liked me and they just didn't know how to tell me. I kind of gave me a little secret to carry with me and make the nasty comments not hurt so much. Treat people like you want to be treated. The ones who don't get the message are not worth your time. I don't know you, but I would say you are an intelligent, caring person. Just be the special person you are. Don't stoop to their level.

Some people simply don't realize how badly their words come across. Is she a nice person? If so, then I would think she meant the compliment and her mouth just didn't stop with the rest of it. She probably realized how bad it sounded after she said it and didn't know how to fix it without making it even worse. I would accept the compliment and not worry about the rest.

I would take that as an insult That is very rude of her to say. I would of told her that i didn;t appreciate that comment and it was very rude to say

They refer to this as a 'left-handed compliment'. Yes, I would consider it rude, as most left-handed compliments are. And sizes 16-18 aren't really 'big'. There is nothing more envy envoking than when someone has confidence. Don't let this snooty witch get under your skin, rather, swing those hips a bit more when you sash-ay by her!

I would take that as an insult . That is terribly rude to say to someone . Just because of a person's size does not mean that they should have a harder time trying to find something nice . And a 16 to 18 is not that big .

Insult, I guess. Maybe you are really wearing a nice dress but it doesnt look good on you. Its not the dress or you Im after at now. Its you colleague that needs a makeover!

complete insult, but maybe they didn't mean it that way, but i was still insulting because you never mention somebody overcomming their faults inside of your complement, ya know?