have you ever dated someone you met through text meesage or internet chat?
By fianne
@fianne (1057)
United States
March 8, 2007 12:23am CST
i met my second boyfriend through internet chatting. of course we are of the same race. but since it was on internet, we felt like we knew each other for a long time. but when we are personally togethr, it felt different as if i don't know him.
have you experienced this?
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13 responses
@blushnpixie (216)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
I had this text mate before, and we did meet once. If that's to be considered as a date, well, I guess I have gone out on a date with a total stranger since we've been only texting for 2 months. When we were exchanging text messages, it felt like we had a lot to talk about and there was connection between us. But when we finally met, there was nothing there. The meeting lasted for an hour, we just finished our food and went our separate ways. It was weird. Maybe you can really pretend when you don't see the person you're talking to. In my case, I let him see the real me. Oh well, I guess it wasn't meant to be.
@anne_143god (5387)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
Nope, I have not tried online dating but I know some friends who do online dating and they met their partners through that. I'm glad for those people who met their partners through online dating.
@brckoba (795)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I used to meet and date a lot of girls through the internet. I learned that some of them lie about their looks and some are very pretty. It was a very safe way to date, since I don't really have to look at them face to face. At the end, I got married to my high school sweat heart.
@shenzhouplaza (1676)
• China
9 Mar 07
It is a very strnge experience, isn't it? I have never done that. Maybe in the future i will try...lol. Actually, i think it is ok for people to make friends in this way. If we have some common interests, we can be friends by all kins of means.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
9 Mar 07
I met my husband though an internet dating site. As first we only corresponded though emails, then it graduated to phone calls. Eventually we met for coffee.
@Kicker55 (243)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I did some internet dating a few years ago. It was an interesting experience as sometimes you don't even know what someone really looks like. Sometimes people throw up fake pictures, sometimes they throw up pictures of themselves 10 years ago, other times they have no pictures and lie when describing themselves. Of course then their are people who are completely honest when describing themselves.
Personally I prefer to meet someone in the flesh and not over the internet, but it doesn't mean you can't find someone good over the net, just be careful.
Their was one experience that stood out and it was just weird. It goes along with what you said at the end "we felt we knew each other for a long time, but when we were personally together it felt as if I didn't know him". I met this girl online and we talked and had a good time for about a week. I felt like I connected with her and vice verca for her. But when we met it was completely different. I had in fact seen her photo and she had seen mine so it wasn't a shock of her lying because she didn't. She looked exactly the same as her photo. It was just different, as if we had never spoken before and the experience was very odd.
She brought her friend with her, and this is bad. I had actually started connecting better with her friend then with her which was also strange. After the date she never even said bye to me and acted as if she was ignoring me. So the next day I saw her online and said "HI". She quickly responded and quickly jumped off line. LOL
I think in the end she was mad at me for having a better time with her friend, but it wasn't that I was attracted to her friend. It was because her friend was more personable then she was. Go figure I guess, I stopped looking for relationships on the internet after that and eventually found my love a year ago.
:-P
@simran1430 (1790)
• India
8 Mar 07
IN the unpredictable, oftentimes turbulent world of dating, with its ups and downs, twists and turns and momentary fluctuations of the heart, a growing number of tech-savvy singles are turning their attention (and their hearts) to the Internet for their custom-made version of Mr. or Ms. Right.
@mansha (6298)
• India
8 Mar 07
I personally do not trust online dating. You can never be sure if ophter person is telling you the truth or not. I have always met really sleezy people online and I do not like them. I prefer people who are true and do not harrass you. Net is the easiest way to hide your real self so no surprisews there if you feel you do not know that erson when you met him for real.
@neilf49 (809)
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8 Mar 07
I met my wife through the internet. Neither of us was looking for a relationship as such at the time, we just wanted to have chat mates. We chatted, we chatted more, we chatted daily, we fell in love, we got married, we are very, very happy.
It doesn't always work though, I've dated a few through the internet and most were people I would not normally have associated with.
@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I met my husband online. I have always felt like I've known him forever because we got to really get to know each other's personalities before we ever met face to face. I know internet romances don't work out for most people, but it was surely a blessing to us!
@MissMo (170)
• United States
8 Mar 07
Yes, I have experienced that feeling before, and it made me really uncomfortable. I only met someone from the Internet for the purpose of dating once, and I'll never do it again. But to each his own.
I'm just wondering why you felt that it was necessary to include that of course you're of the same race?