Age Gap?
By SilPhil
@SilPhil (267)
Australia
March 8, 2007 12:33am CST
What do you guys think is the best age gap between kids?
My sister and I are 20 months apart, and I thought that was a good gap. I don't want too big a gap, but at the same time I don't want to take on more than I can handle....
Those of you with more than one kid - what are the age gaps? What do you think is a good gap?
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5 responses
@kaiyascloset (372)
• United States
10 Mar 07
My brother and I are 22 months apart and it was extremely difficult for my mom. I think 3-4 years is a good age gap. The older will understand more and can help out when needed.
@cttjj2312 (69)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I have 3 boys going on 4. The age gap for the first 2 is 11 1/2 months apart. They are like having twins. They get along so well and are really each others best freind.They are 10 and 9. My youngest is 5 going on 6 in May. They get along ok too. Sometimes I think they get aggravated easliy because "They NEVER did that when they were his age." is often said. I calmly remind them Yes you did! But for the most part they get along well. Not sure how the next one will be so I will let you know when he is here!
@jolanda33 (720)
• Netherlands
9 Mar 07
i think it depense on your child! i have 22 months between my two girls and yes sometimes you need to get organized. but i love the reactions from my kids to eachother!
so it is up to you! if your first one is an easy child like mine go for it! (maybe you're not pregnant within a short time, it took me 13 months)and yes sometimes i am happy when both of them are going to bed, but i didn't regret it!
@brckoba (795)
• United States
8 Mar 07
In my opinion 6-7 year gap is better. This way the first child gets to enjoy being a kid and then when the time is right to have a baby, the first born will definitely understand that there is a new member of the family coming and also he/she will enjoy the excitement and joy of having a baby.
@oarnamav (2708)
• India
8 Mar 07
The survey in this subject always mentions a age gap of 5 to 6 years is very very good from all angles.
The main features you have to consider in this are...
1. Proper nursing of your first child.
2. Health of the mother.
3. Couple needs a mentle preperation.
4. To attend financial needs in the educational years of the kids.
5. Keeps the first child psycologically happy because an early attempt for the second child becomes a curse for the second one.
Looking towards these importent aspects one can not think of the second issue, is what experts in this field who have made a rigorous survey in this field say.
Wish you a happy life.
@silvermoonmyst (943)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I like the 2-3 year age gap. My older son will be 3 yrs 1 month when my second son is due. I think its a great age gap. Ive had 3 years with my first child, he has a full vocabulary, is 100% potty trained with few accidents, hes had alot of time with mom and dad. When this baby arrives, he will be a great helper and big brother. On the other hand i can see a bit of jelousy from him over the new baby, but im sure it will pass. I like that he wont be a baby anymore, but a little boy and has had a chance to be a baby and be THE baby. I wouldent want to have two babies at once.
