Relationships

@sharone74 (4837)
United States
March 8, 2007 6:26am CST
I have finally found someone who I can see myself sharing a life with. It won't be easy and there are a lot of changes and bumps in the road coming, I know this. Most of the changes for me are good positive changes that I needed to make anyway. Though he can be a judgemental pain in the tush sometimes. People are constantly telling me that maybe he is not the guy for me and that I should find someone else. But I tried that and ended up coming home because after 5 months we were still both not happy without each other. My man can be demanding, while I normally am the opposite and try to accomodate him in every way. I feel that there are several inequities that we need to resolve before we ever think about getting married but on the other hand, we do love each other and we have both had to change some perspectives in order to come this far.
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braided
@braided (698)
• Canada
8 Mar 07
I dont know bout all that ... but it sounds to me like a disfunctional co-dependency kind of relationship ... when its a good relationship ... its not all that hard ... it gels ... you dont need to change because he wants you to change ...you change and grow because you want to ...because you see something in him that makes you want to .... and visa versa ... a good relationship, I think, is one where you feel like a plant in good soil and you can grow I could never grow in a relationship with someone who was critical and judemental and posessive ... that would push me so far away .... I was married to passive aggressive ... and he seemed passive but he manipulated the situation to his end in a quiet way ... but he was the wrong guy for me ... he was great looking (real eye candy) but thats all ... it stopped there ... not relationship material but we lived in a co-dependant way for 12 years ... damn what a waste of time ... well, not really i learned what i needed and it shaped me into the person i am today but it definitately has its down side .... well, i wish you luck with this relationship .. but it will be a hard road to tow if you doing all the changing ... stay strong ...
ghoenne
@ghoenne (31)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
getting married is not an easy decision... Maybe we need to think of it a hundred times!!! Its a big decision and obligation!!! That's why we need to be ready!!!
_hope_
@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
8 Mar 07
Take your time and be certain before you make your committment the road ahead for anyone is never a smooth one and there will be some major obsticles in your path as there has been in mine.I`m approaching my 26 yr of marriage in five weeks and i can tell you there is a lot of give and take in any relationship but you need to be content as does your partener and if you are not completelt happy then wait for mr right to come along he is worth waitng for believe me