Why do people request to be my friend yet they never respond to my discussions?

I think people think Mylot is a popularity contest as well as a forum writing deal? I have no idea-and for a while, I added anyone who sent me a request. Just recently I deleted over 100 of them. After looking through their profiles, and realizing I honestly wans't intersted in anything they had to discuss. I am down to under 20 now, and I am very selective with who I will add in the future. The ones that I truly communicate with, I will add. Those who just add to add, are automatically deleted.

don't worry about the ones that don't responsed just be grateful for the ones that do. those are the ones that help you add up those pennies! so don't worry and just be grateful

I can't figure it out either. I get some that have only 1 or 2 posts made at all and neither to any of mine. I can't see why they would pick me let alone even find me. They only thing I can think of is there going after those who have high number counts figuring we must post to anything. I've gotten very picky about accepting friends now. I had a couple spam me with things and I can't see adding anyone who I can't post to any of their discussions and I doubt they will post to mine. So I deny quite a bit now. I've learned after accepting everyone that it isn't always the best thing to have that many.

I have had this happen a couple of times as well, and I have no idea on why people do this. This is rather annoying though isn't it?

I think they get your friendship and then realise they do not have anything in common with the topics that are posted. I think alot of them just like to add alot of friends to their friends list too. Some of them request friendship and then spam you later. I request friendship with those I can relate to. I accept many friendship requests also but soon find out, I don't have much in common on discussions they post. I guess it is just good to have alot of friends, regardless??? I'm not sure, but I hate to deny any requests for friendship here.

There are many reasons, my friend. Please don't blame me if I do not always respond your discussions. There are reasons I can think of: - the person is too busy - the person forgot to set your notify to on - the person forgot to check discussions started by friends - you started too many topics within too short a time, resulting in "spamming" - your topic is just not of interest - they want you because you have made 2000 posts so you are something like a celebrity (they think it's cool if you are friends) PS.: It could also be that people ask to be your friend because they want your "seal of approval". Look at your avatar and you will know what I mean. :P

I thought the same way when I started this. My Lot don't interest me as much as it use too a few month ago. There paying system has gotten a little ridculious. Also I still try to refer people here, it's just not with as much enthusium anymore. I have friends as well on my list and there is no interacting with them either. But really to asnwer your question, I couldn't tell you why...

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I do found this very odd-- Perhaps they want you to respond to theirs.. I pick my friends by their discussions and their intetersts. I am always looking for good quality interesting discussions to respond to- So I try to respond to all my friends-- Not every discussion-- but the ones that interest me. Maybe you should go through your list and weed it out.

Hi: Since you have so many friends here,you could pm them and ask why this is so.If they still don't reply, you can do a little research right here and find topics that get a lot of responses and possibly start a discussion using your own opinions and interests.You could also start a discussion on things that are going on in the news today, popular entertainment programs,celebrites, etc.I sympathize with how you feel, especially since you mentioned doing "something wrong" I don't feel this is the case at all.People have various opinions and interests, find out what they are and keep at it.I'm sure you'll see results.

Hey hi,yeah same thing happenes with me too, daily i get so mnay friends request even if they didnt respond and morever if i respond to their discussion even didnt bother about comment that, so i guess it must be happening with everyone, and in that i accepet everyone's friends request, just for dont wanna be rude to anyone,best luck and happy earning!!!...cheers!!

Hi yanji, I think that a lot of people seen to think that they must get as many 'friends' as possible yet do nothing about them after that! Some people have hundreds of 'friends' so how on earth can they keep up with their posts and their own discussions - there's no way they can. I'd say the best thing to do would be to go through our friends list every so often and just delete the ones that have not responded to any posts, after all what's the point of having them as 'friends' if you never communicate with them!! And by the way your discussions are NEVER boring haha!!

i am sorry about your problem.but at least you have friend.

I don't know! I think that everybody think only in the money that they're winning

LOL, well I got the same thing happening to me. I got more than 80 friends but I never really get any responses :-D Odd...

Actually I have only a couple of friends here but they never responded to any discussion I made, so you are not the only one.

Some don't have time to respond to everyone. Maybe they have nothing to offer to your discussion. I don't respond to all my friends discussions. If they start one that I know nothing about, I delete it, to be honest about it. I haven't checked out your previous discussions to note on this, but if the discussion question is too long or complicated, I don't spend too much time on that either. Try to start discussions that can relate to everyone or on a subject that you really want information on. I have rec'd some wonderful information on mylot.

I completely understand where you are coming from. I have had people on my friend's list that do the same things. And i personally try to respond to as many of my friend's discussions as i possible can. I have you on my friends list, and i have responded to many of your discussions. and no i don't find them to be boring. Something things that you post i don't know about so i don't respond to those. I have noticed myself deleteing the friends off that don't respond to any of my questions/discussions at all. You should put that in to thought. good luck, and happy mylotting.

I think you should make use of the delete button in the friends tab. I have deleted a lot of friends. Now I have around 10 but I am very happy because I know them a little better since they respond to most of my discussions and I respond to their discussions. It is better to have a small number of people about whom you know something than to have a large number of so called friends about whom you know nothing. In my case the situation was slightly different. Most of the requests I got was from people who had more than 1000 posts. I got them after I responded to their discussions. They must have thought I was blessed to be one of their friends because they didn't bother responding in any of my discussions. I think it is better if you make friends with people after you have spent some time responding in their discussions. I have done this and found out that friends made this way will really be your friend.Regards

dont be upset dear. there may be many reasons. one of them may be that, its really difficult for them to reply to all of their friend's discussions, snce at mylot most of people have over 50 friends. another reason maybe that they are unable to spend more time at mylot due to their work-load or some other reasons. currently, i am very busy because my 'pending' chapters are just piling up & i have to deal with all of them before the semester exams. (computer engineering is never an easy job dear! i am really working hard to get above 9 GPA(Grade Point Average))