Hated Mother in-law??

I can understand ur pain.I would like to remind you of one thing"No one in this world is perfect and it is impossible for some one to be perfect". Every human expects the best thing for their life.And you also wish to have the best thing in ur life.And u dont need to mention your self as not perfect.But it is our duty to take a perfect decision about our life.The main mistake you did is leaving ur parents.When you can't trust ur parents then who else can you trust in this world.You are in this world because of them.And about your partner atleast for now you realise that he is not made for you.You have your children.Take care of them.Have plans about your career,try to be financially independent,make yourself busy and make your children have a good future in their lives.Make them to focus on their studies.And forget him who left you for his mother.All the best.

your man needs to cut the apron strings with mamma, its time he grew up and became a man. she dosnt have to like you but you are whom he has chosen to make a life with and he should make it plain to his mother that he can accept you or not, but you are his family now. makes me wonder what she is holding over his head to make him jump like a dog when she speaks.

Well it is too bad you are pregnant again. With the attitude of your boyfriend and his mother you may find yourself a single mother with three kids. My dear, you ask how you can make his mother like you. You cannot make anybody like anybody. Either they like you or they don't. You have given up a lot for this man. So ask him to move with you and your children out of his mother's house into your own place. The whole world is not against you. You have made some decisons that turned out not so well. Now you have to find the strenght to cope with the outcome. Maybe you can reconcile with your family, call on some friends, your church or social services to help you deal with your dilemma.

The man that you must be with must be strong enough to stand on his own and to fight for his love for you and your children. I know that families do get in the way of relationships but his parents may also want the best for him. However, what they think is best for him may not be what he really want. There are always two sides to a coin. Your situation is really difficult because its compounded by you being pregnant for the third time. If ever your relationship has to end then, then I hope you may find comfort in the thought that a greater man is meant for you and that whatever experience you may have with him is just part of you becoming a wiser woman for the man that is really meant for you and you still have to meet. We are with the people that we are with at certain points in our lives, because that is where we should be so that we get to grow and evolve into the person that we ought to be. God won't give you also any trials if you cannot handle it. You are stronger than you think. So if you feel like fighting for the two of you, then you go girl and fight for your love...but if in then end, he would choose otherwise, then he is not the man for you.

It sounds to me like this boy needs to grow up and his mother needs to cut the apron strings. Maybe you need to find a way to get out from under her.

Ever heard of same poles repel like the magnet? Most women are like that. When one party is feeling insecure, she will go all lway out to destroy whatever in her way. In this case, your mother-in-law felt the threat from you. She thought that you are robbing her son from her. She doesn't know the different types of love between mother and son and husband and wife. In this case, it is your husband's responsiblity to assure her that his love for her won't be reduced because of his marriage to you whereas, the mother-in-law, if she truly love her son should regard her son's happiness as her priority. Three of you need to sit down and talk. If you know somebody whom your mother-in-law respect and look upon, rope in his help. If things still cannot work out, it is wise to move out and come to visit her regularly so that your husband won't feel bad. Try not to quarrel with her, that will give her no reason to quarrel with you, know the theory of single hand clap no sound. When your husband is home, try not to mention about his mother. He comes back for peace. Let him have the peace and he will appreciate you more. If you keep silent but your mother-in-law keeps barking, it will come to a time he will appreciate you more. Just imagine, if you keep hearing someone (A) keeps complaining about the other party (B) when (B)never complains about (A), what will you think of (A)? A trouble-maker, an unreasonable person. Don't fall into her trap by making her the core of your life. Stop talking about her, keep your silent and talk about the beautiful positve things whenever you are with your husband. Afterall, that is the main purpose of your union. Remember this, Silent is Golden.

Ok if I were you here's what I'd do : I would go and speak to his mother and ask her what her problem is. Be direct but not rude and make it clear that you won't be fobbed off and that you won't stand for any interference in your relationship with her son. Then I would get a hold of him and tell him straight that he can be as much of a mummy's boy as he wants but he needs to grow up and realise he has you, your children and his unborn baby to consider now and THAT should be his priorities. By the way - you and your children come as a package - he must have realised that when he got involved with you. I would tell him it straight - most mummy's boys like domineering women so he may well look at you in a new light from now on! This all assumes of course that you want to keep going with the relationship - I understand you're pregnant and need to ensure he takes responsibility for his child - but he sounds fairly pathetic I have to say. I'm fairly sure you could do much better for yourself! Oh and another thing - you said in your question "we are different. He's single and I am a single mom". Um excuse me he is NOT single - you live together and are expecting a baby!! Make sure you emphasise that point to him!

It sounds to me like someone has not cut the apron strings yet. One of the hardest things to do when in love is deal with a "mama's boy". One day this guy is going to have to realize that his mom is not his wife or girlfriend, but his "MOM". There is something seriously wrong with this man if he has a pregnant signifigant other and he is still hanging on to mommy. Keep your head up and realize that some guys just never grow up. Maybe one day he will come around, but personally I would not wait around relationship-wise. But when the baby comes, I would 100% make him face his responsibilities. Good Luck!

you and her son will be here long after she is gone. it doesn't matter if she likes you or not. it would be nice if she did. but oh well. i am a motherinlaw, and i don't think my daughterinlaw cares much for me, and i really don't give a hoot. what matters is your relationship with your man.

Devern, this is how it normally works. I am not a practising christian but I would still like to say this, the Bible says "When a man marrys he should leave and live separate." I dont know the verse or chapter. The reasons are the wife is always a threat. you are taking away what she has nutured for all these years and it is a difficult thing for the man to go against his family so he always would feel that his wife will 'understand' Your mother in law does not (probably) have anything against you, its against the wife of her son. It would be the same with any other woman who married her son. The best thing would be for him to be away from his family and with you, and quite seriously if he cannot then you have to take a firm decision

Things can get a little rough with the in-laws at times. Don't give up. Talk to your husband and explain to him how you really feel. He just can't leave because mommy says so! He is a grown man and he is about to become a father for heaven's sake! If you weren't pregnant, I'll tell you to go over to your mother-in-law and tell her exactly how you feel. She has no right to treat you like that. Just because she doesn't like you doesn't mean she has the right to throw her weight around and destroy your marriage. Fine, she's the mother of your husband and it is but normal that she feels protective towards his son but the thing is, she's gone too far. I've heared a lot of stories about mother-in-laws destroying their son's marriage and it's really irritating.

I can't stand my MIL either. I think the worst thing she ever did was kick a gift we gave her back across the floor at us, saying she already had one and asked me loudly (it was a gift from my husband and me) "don't you remember I told you about this, I already have one". She's Satan incarnate, that woman. Oh she also has given my hb specific things to take home when we visit ("here's a cake for, here's a canteloupe for" hb). Oh and 6 weeks after I had our second child she told me my weight was "off" and that was why I had been ill. I about slapped her. Honest. She has been to see our two children (she lives 2 hours away) 8 times in 3 years. They never ever call to find out how they are. She isn't smiling in any of our wedding pics, not surprised, are you? We were visiting them one time and she told me to get up and make my hb eggs. I told her that if he wanted eggs, he'd get up and make them. She jumped up, called me lazy and proceeded to cook him eggs over his protests. She is just a hateful woman, just like your MIL...just take comfort in knowing that on Saturday I will be spending an entire day with that witch....ugh. Oh well, it's over until next year.

how sad..... will maybe his mamas boy, u should find out first what kind of man u will be with...

no parents would want to disown their children. i know, in time your parents will understand your situation since, they too were once young people. as for the guy, well, he will miss his would-be son and i think that will lead him back to you.

If it helps, try to talk with his mother and explain her that she's not just doing you miserable but also her son and grand-son to be. If not, forget about her and tell to your matte to be a bit mature, see the things for himself and face her mother or else, he will be alone for the rest of his life or unhappy. Good luck

sounds like your boyfreind needs to grow up an get out from his mother dress tale.an he has no respect for you an your kids.i dont think its the mother-in-law thats the problem. its your boyfreind.if it was me i would get out of that relatesonship.an find someone else.you dont need to be going through this kind of stress being pregant.just give him an option you or his mother an stick to it.tell him to come back when he grows up!

well this is the case with many ones actually most common trend in case of countery like india where there are serials based on that thing. so you can actually imagine how vast has this hate phenomena has been spread. well it seems that it is your first question .? and still yiu had managed to get so many reply well congrats for that thing

I have to say I can agree with you and I hope what I say helps I had the sme problem whn e and my husband got together I had ony been out of a bad relatonship with my x-husband for a lil while I to have a child and when me and my husbnd now got together I new right form the start that his mother did not like me he was her baby the youngest of five we constantly fought (me and my husband and me and his mother) we have been together for 4 years this month and Idid try to make her like me and I really don't know why she didn't I even gave her her first grand child he is almost 2 now but all that is in the past now because in Nov. 3 days before Thanksgiving and 7 days before my husbands 27th birthday his mother passed away suddenly of a massive heart attack our son will not remember the days that he spent with her he is to young although we have memories and pictures to share with him and there will never be the day that we fially call it truths and get along for my husband and son's sake she was not sick and no one could have known that this was going to happen but if I could go back I would and I would talk to her woman to woman mother to mother and tell her how much I truely love her son and plan to spend my life with him and our childern and hope that we could just get along for the children's sake and her son's sake. Sorry to drag on but you never know what the next day will bring you and I think if you truly love this man and want to make a life with him then you should try to find some soild ground for you and his mother don't give up trying

as the reason to u is not clear that why she doesnt like you so what you can do is just love her and her family as much you can because hate can only be removed my giving love.so,love yhem as much as you can n i am sure you will see positive results very soon.as your children loves you very much and you love them too in the same way your husband is also ones son and he also places his mother before anyone else.so have patience and hope for the best

You have not married him legally til now...Even if you had,you are not mentioning anything like that in your say.If he really loves you and kids,he cant go leave you like thet and go.Mistake is their on your side too.You should ve asked him to marry you before anything worse like this turned out...