father and son

Yes I believe a father figure is important in a teens' life. But given that that father figure is the right one. A man may be the biological father, but if he isn't treating the teen as a father should, then that's not what's good for him/her. The presence of a father or the lack of it, would certainly do a person good and harm. Anyways, here's a joke about father and son, enjoy: An Amish boy and his father were visiting a mall. They were amazed by almost everything they saw, but especially by two shiny, silver walls that could move apart and then slide back together again. The boy asked his Father what this was and the father (never having seen an elevator) replied, "Son, I have never seen anything like this in my life, I don't know what it is." While the boy and his father were watching with amazement, an oversized older lady in a wheel chair rolled up to the moving walls and pressed a button. The walls opened and the lady rolled between them into a small room. The walls closed and the boy and his father watched the small numbers above the walls light up sequentially. They continued to watch until it reached the last number and then the numbers began to light in the reverse order. Finally the walls opened up again and an extremely attractive 24 year old woman stepped out. The father, not taking his eyes off the young blonde, said quietly to his son, "Go get your mother." =)

communication is important. when i was in hi school, i dont talk to my father that much. we are like strangers to each other because he live in our farm and i live in the city to study. now i have my own family i started talking to him, to ask advice on how to handle a business, how to handle family issue. today i am happy that my father give me moral support with my family. if only i talk to my father when i was still young i could have done more in my life and make him proud of me.

We can't choose what life throws at us. All we can choose is with what attitude we meet what life throws at us. Any improvement in your situation is going to have to come from within yourself, and would be helped immeasurably by getting some physical separation from what you describe as a worse-than-negative home environment. You can choose to wallow in it, or you can choose to remove yourself from it and rise above it.

I guess it would be as your turning into a man. I didnt have the luxury of this coz of 2 reasons, our family wasnt really as close as i would have like as i have a better relationship with my in laws than my own folks The other reason was at the age of 16 i had enough and left home to join the Army and ever since then never really looked back. But in saying that i am always there for them whenever they need anything