What has Happened to Nosy Neighbors?

Well I think I would notice and I think here People would notice because they know that I take the Dog out every Day. If I go to see the Kids I normally let the Landlady know so that she is aware that the flat is empty, so would not expect to see me walk the Dog. But I think it is terrible about them Bodies.

I agree- my moms street is like that- they all moved in about the same time and raised their children together- now they all are getting old together, but they all still watch out for each other and when us kids were young took care of us like their own. My street is just starting to get there- we've got new neighbors and old neighbors getting to know each other and keeping an eye out for each other. Nice to know people care.

Nobody nowadays knows how to define privacy and that's the rub. We want neighbours to check on us but call them nosy parkers when they do, and when they don't, we call them cold and reserved. We never learn, do we? It is a sad development when even next door neighbours don't even know each other, and don't talk to each other as well. Gone are the days when men go to work and women are homemakers and when women gather, gossip (what we call the information highway nowadays)prevails, and everyone seems to know everything about everybody else. Now people call that an invasion of privacy, because you can't bring a man to whom you are not married and not related to, home or else you bear the curse of your reputation being thrown into the gutter. Or everyone knows what you do to earn a living. Or knows what time you go out and what time you come back. Who you hang out with, right down to the color of the car you travel in. Or offer you advice on things before you open your mouth. Meaning, they know you better than you do yourself. You call it scary. But there is an upside to all of these, something the younger generation fail to realise. You'll never get sick and can't get to the hospital because your neighbour will take you there. You won't get robbed because everyone will come out and confront the criminal. You won't be subject to domestic violence because your neighbours will come over and break it up with well founded advice. I lament the absence of such loving and concerned neighbours. I am fortunate to live in an area where neighbours still greet one another and do all the things neighbours usually do - lend you things you need, assist you where you need assistance and we reciprocate all that to them. Me and my family have been living in an area where we literally live by the words, "When you need me, just holler". Literally.

When I lived in Florida, I lived in a tight-knit community and we all watched out for each other. Then I moved to Illinois, and while I know the neighbors on either side of me, I wouldn't know if they were missing or not. I don't think I've lived here long enough to be "nosy" but maybe that's what I should be. Hmmmm...

I would never have to worry about this as a problem. My neighbors are great. They can be nosy, but they really mean well. Those are my direct neighbors who would notice in a minute if something wasn't right. On top of that, within very short distances are many family members. All this media lately is quite sad to me, I can't imagine.

i would be worried.One time i was getting the daylights beaten out of me by an ex boyfriend and when i broke free from him i yelled ou the window to 2 nieghbors to plz call the cops...they told me straight up that it wasnt thier business.I ended up in the hospital that night because i was pregnant.I think its really sad bcuz if that was happening to them theyd want help!!!

I have great neighbours , we all watch out for each other too , I have a key for both my neighbours houses so if they loose theirs there is always a spare ,when they o on holiday I water their plants and the neighbours all wave to each other when they pas in the cars or say hiya when we pass each other walking , I think that is just so nice xx

I think people are just so busy anymore, they don't pay attention. They are so caught up in their lives, they don't have time to worry about other people. We try to watch on our block. There is only 4 of us that do it out of 12.

One reason I like my apartment complex is I don't have to see anybody. If I didn't see anyone I'd think ohh I haven't seen them far a long time. There is only one or two people I see once a month or so and say hi to. I like it that way because I don't like being around people. People on the whole in my opinion are pains in in the butt.

One house changes tenants so often, I would expect that they had moved. On the other side, we keep track of his comings and goings, and visit out back on the alley periodically.My husband would be the first to notice something was wrong with this guy.

I wouldn't mind watching out for my neighbors or be friendly with them because that is how I was brought up, everybody knows everybody who lives in the community. The problem is that here in the US not that many people wants to to get to know you or be friendly with you. I don't want them to tell me mind my own business. There are a few tenants in the apartment complex we live in that more or less I know. If they introduce themselves and seems genuine in being a neighbor, I am happy with that. But majority, when you smile at them and say hello...you just get this stone faced reaction so why would I bother.

It is not because they don't care, it's because people have to work harder to make the same amount of money and they have a shorter amount of time to watch out for anything horrible happening or if Mrs. So and So has not opened her door for a week. Instead of thinking that Mrs. So and So has fallen down and hit her head and is now dying, they think that she's on the computer. Still even though there is no time and they might assume that Mrs. So and So has a computer because the van from Office Depot showed up in front of her house, there should be a general watchfulness because of her circumstances - being old, living alone, being in a wheelchair, being hard of hearing, or whatever.

blame it on today's apathetic and egotistical youth, who don't care about real old values like friendship and family

I honestly think it depends on the situation. In my case, my nosy neighbors only caused me emotional stress, gossiped about us (I was a child) and made our lives a living hell at times. Concerned neighbors are one thing. Nosy neighbors are another. If I think something is amiss, I will call the authorities. Of course, if a body is kept in a house for months or years, then it stands to reason that the person was alone to begin with. Perhaps that was the way they preferred to live. However, I do understand what you're saying and I honestly think that, on some level, we are emotionally devolving. We watch shows like American Idol and get excited when Simon removes the emotional hide from them. And look at our news. Weeks on the sad life of Anna Nicole. Why? Because it's tragic. If misery loves company, then we have plenty of it in this society. Good discussion topic. +

in last responce I said something about nosy neighbor ha h a. I would have to be nosy if I didnt see anyone for a long time!

I live in a small town and there is a certain amount of newsiness here. But I have lived in the city (Philadelphia) in areas that were transient and I can imagine people dying and not being discovered for a long time there. At least not until the rent was overdue. It's sort of a sad commentary on the areas and the times. Oddly enough, in my living situations, it's been the areas where people live in the closest proximity that they also live in the most loneliness. I've lived across the hall from people in city apartments and barely ever saw them but where I live now, I know just about everybody in every house on the block and the houses are not all that close together.

I usually check on them and if I still can't find them,I have the local RCMP come and check too

I think people don't tend to get to know their neighbours anymore and therefore don't take any notice of what they do daily and in turn don't notice if anything unusual! I have one lovely neighbour but the two houses just round corner I know nothing about! Wouldn't know the people even if I saw them! I think people like to keep themselves to themselves a lot more than the old days!

Well Whiteheather I'm glad to say my street is very different - I know a certain special lady won't min me saying that my family are younger than most in our streetbut I have some fantastic neighbours around me! If I were worried I would call family members of the neighbour I was worried about - if that was not possible I would call the police rather than take a chancexxx

i'm usually a loner... so i don't really care... but if it's something serious like someone missing for a long time, i will inform the authorities...