Is falling love insane?

I completly agree with you except that is not love, it is lust, infatuation, co-dependency, and all of these are traits that are a form of addiction. As for insanity, yes you are right, we tell ourselves that is not really happening when in fact it is, or that the person of out obsession will change after we have: made love, married, settled down. it is absolutly insane thinking, but it happens all the time and to a lot of people that are either desperate for love. or the people with little or no self esteem, or are damaged in some way, and instead of learning from the experience they go forward with it and that is why people that are charged with abuse have been doing it for years, as well as allowed to continue. This is not love, love is when you respect your self as much as you respect your mate. it is freeing not ever enslaving. and it brings joy, never pain. Some where in one of my books I read the definition of insanity is when you bake an apple pie, and open the oven and expect it to have changed to a chocolate cake.

Yes what you described can be categorized as a form of insanity but it's not the healthy kind of love.. this is when love is "blind" and people who fall in love this way are not emotionally stable, real love can be exciting and change a lot in someone's life but in a positive way:)