How do you handle family you don't like?

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I do not like my im laws. Thank God they live out of state, so I only have to deal with visits 2-3 times a year. When I see them on the caller id, I will not answer the phone. When they come out, I try to keep busy and avoid them as much as possible. My reasoning for my dislike, is they are not nice people, years ago when my husband and I were having money problems, they told my husband he was ashamed he did such a bad job raising him, he can't handle money, and basically talked to both of us like children, verbatium "Well,son, I can help you out, but I am not going to give it to you til you ask. If you don't want to ask, I will go buy myself another boat" That's just the tip of years of dealing with them. On my wedding day, while I was getting dressed, my mother in law wanted to see me, and my mother sated I was getting dress, she barged into the room and proceeded to take pictures of me 1/2 naked! They have no respect for others, I won't even go out to dinner with them, because of the way they treat the staff. Anyhow, I know this sounds horrible, it actually pains me to talk to them,even to look at them. If they give something to the kids, they take pictures (which is fine) but they do it to show off to people. Which is mostly some small cheap thing. They just called (they reason for this post) Of course I did not answer, but they are planning on coming out this June, which I dread. If I weren't pregnant, I would spend my days drinking LOL. How do you handle family members you dislike? Or any suggestions? I can't talk to them, because my mother in law will cry, then my father in law will tell my husband I made her cry, and it will cause a big stink. (She is very dramatic) Thanks all.