Natural remedies?

@foxyfire33 (10005)
United States
March 8, 2007 9:19pm CST
Since I can't get my s/o to see a doctor or counselor or take meds, I can't leave him but don't want to keep dealing with things the way they are, and I'm getting really worried he's close to a complete breakdown...what kinds of things can I do for both of us? I mean things like foods to help or avoid, household management type tips, books, movies, anything that would help in bringing about at least some healing. I really believe in my heart he can get better and will WANT to get better with the right kind of nudge in that direction. Starting tomorrow morning (Friday), we will have 7 days before he returns to work. The break itself will help but I also want to maximize this time so the effects last longer and we can get on a more positive path.
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@shoelover (896)
• Australia
9 Mar 07
The first thing I would do would be to cut out all things that contain the flavour enhancer 635, 636 and 621. Most foods that contain flavour enhancers can alter a persons behaviour. I would also have some lavender oil burning as that is a calmative. In natural medications there is evening primrose oil that is an antidepressant. There are a lot of useful links about depression on the net they help you be able to have tips as how to interact with a depressive personality. My heart goes out to you with having to deal with it as I know personally how hard it is. My hubby is a depressive agressive.
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
9 Mar 07
Thanks for the tips! I'm hesitant to diagnose per se, but if I'm going to be the one to help I need to get as specific as possible. What do you mean by depressive aggressive? Is that when they're prone to yelling, acting violent, controlling, etc? Are there any other special considerations (besides my personal safety) when dealing with this type as opposed to other types? Thanks for any help you can give. I'm scared but hopeful and excited to try this.
• Australia
9 Mar 07
There is nothing better than a professional opinion on this illness. Self diagnosis is not a good thing to do. He has to admit he has the problem before healing can start. Depressive/agressive is flying off into a rage about the slightest thing. The triggers are always different so it's hard to control. My hubby is medicated but it doesn't stop this fully. He doesn't always remember when he loses control either which makes things difficult also.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I agree about needing professional help too. It might not be the politest what to put put it but for lack of a better phrase, he's "too far gone" to see there's a problem. That's why I'm hoping I can get him "boosted" back up a little and find ways to calm him before approaching the subject of professional help again. Mine does fly off about things that wouldn't normally be a big deal. Sometimes I feel like I'm the one losing my mind because I don't understand what he's even talking about. I wouldn't go as far as saying he gets delusional for sure but he does have an altered perception of things when he's in this state. I'm not sure that he DOESN'T remember things, he just seems to remember them differently. This ends up causing him more anger because he insists he didn't start it, he wasn't angry, he didn't say X, I was acting a certain way...If I don't defend my position, he stays angry about what he perceived as my wrong. If I do defend myself, he's gets angry because he thinks I'm lying when my version doesn't match his. On the other end of the scale (perhaps depressive passive?) he sits at the computer all day or sleeps too much. He can't answer the simplest questions like what he wants for dinner. He won't shower or dress for days. In this state, he can be completely unaware of everything around him. It's hard to explain without giving examples but you probably get the point.
• United States
11 Mar 07
It sounds like someone I know locally, who is with someone, but is not doing well. At one time when this person was doing better even though his refusal to take meds for mental stuff and depression, his mother was making him smoothies in the morning before work and putting the vitamin and mineral supplement "Better than Greens" in it. This was one of the more cost-effective powdered vitamin-mineral supplements. I was taking Barleygreen at the time with great success for depression and lack of energy but his mother needed to find something cheaper so that is what she did. She also had given some to her niece and her niece's kids and it calmed down the ADD/ADHD and the kids didn't fight any more. You can search for good deals on the Internet for "Better than Greens". The nutrient content is: "Vitamin A, Vitamin C, Vitamin B1, Vitamin B2, Vitamin B3, Vitamin B12, Calcium, Iron, Magnesium, Phosphorus, Sodium, Potassium." Obviously, I don't know if it would go with whatever your s/o may already be taking, but I thought I should at least give you the lead. I have taken BTG now too, and it does things that my other supplements don't do because it has different things in it. Other vitamin-mineral supplements I have taken which helped multiple physical and emotional health issues: Superfoods by Dr. Schulze (look it up), Powerfoods (nearly the same as Superfoods but cheaper and has two additional ingredients and it is at the website abnat), and Powerhouse 32 (the address is in my profile as it is obscure on the web. I've taken BarleyLife with kelp when it was called Barleygreen and it is marvelous stuff but pricey. Whatever decision you make or don't make, please know that vitamin and mineral deficiency is behind much illness whether it is physical or mental or emotional or all of the above. The other thing I do for health is to eat as much raw fruits and vegetables and nuts and alfalfa sprouts as possible and leave off the processed foods, and get lots of pure water and fresh air, and do raw vegetable juice, and do things to cleanse my colon (eat lots of salads, do banana smoothies with psyllium powder, or do Dr. Richard Schulze colon cleansing products). A good website about health is www.rawfamily.com. It's very extreme for most people, but I do notice how much I benefit the more raw things I eat. The things I have told you just now have helped me to solve years of all sorts of health problems. I hope something in here will help.
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
11 Mar 07
Thanks for all the information. I do think things like diet and sleep habits can affect moods. The closest he gets to fresh food, besides the occasional meal his mom or I get him to eat, is fast food. His diet is low in meat, raw/fresh vegetables, and complex carbohydrates. It's high in salt, processed sugars and additives. He eats no fruit and doesn't drink anything but soda. His sleep schedule varies from a few "cat naps" a day to sleeping 24 hours straight (he did this yesterday). I'll check out all the info you listed and hopefully find things I can add to/substitute with his food. I think it could make a major difference overall.
• United States
9 Mar 07
I find that Garlicic, that is the brand name, is good for cleaning out the system of cholesterol and is a very good antioxidant. Also Melition just before bed gives you a good night sleep and leaves you refreshed in the morning.
• United States
11 Mar 07
Did you mean Melatonin? just curious. That is a natural aid for sleep.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
21 Oct 10
Well, sometimes its unavoidable that we feel depressed for the day..but for the health its not a good side, i believe in Meditation which will balance our mind and helps to be normal at situations