Should Children be corrected in Public?

Child Counselling - public
India
March 9, 2007 4:56am CST
As kids everyone has been learning and tends to commit mistakes. As parents or teachers or other responsible elders would correct the child in public or counsel in private?
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I think it depends on many factors, the child, the age of the child and the offense. A nose picking 7 year old, should be dealt with immediately, but as privately as possible, while a tantrum throwing 2 year old needs no privacy, but a good talking to (or some sort of discipline/distraction). I think it also depends on the child, some children are especially sensitive and need to be handled with extra care, although these sorts of children rarely overstep their bounds. I think any offense that demands attention, should receive attention, regardless of who else is watching. Most children will try to act out in public and challenge mom and dad's authority to see if there will actually be any consequences, and to deter any repeat offenses, there should be consequences. TO not discipline would send a mixed signal, one which would encourage another disobedience at a later time.
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@brckoba (795)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I totally agree with you. When a child does something wrong the parents must reprehend them no matter where they are. That way the child knows he/she is doing something wrong and that he/she will be punished for that offense. This teaches them stability and also helps the parents to establish a more balance way of discipline.
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
they should be corrected but in a nice way. We are so responsible for every mistake a little child can do, so a child that will be corrected in a nice way will learn in a nice manner. They will appreciate it much better.
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
they should be corrected on time, but in a nice and simple way..
@rhinoboy (2129)
9 Mar 07
This depends very much on the age of the child. Very young children should be reprimanded immediately after their offence. They cannot understand being punished hours later. In fact, I think that older children should also be reprimanded in public. If they are embarrased by being told off for bad behaviour, they will be less likely to re-offend.
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@Modestah (11179)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I agree very much with what you have said. A little humility is a good deterant. I think that is why my four year old mentioned above straightened up, she realized the other mother had heard her and not just me.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 07
yes, i agree with you. the element of timing is important here. there should be a here-and-now... as the kids can relate better on what you are trying to say or make them understand.
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@rhinoboy (2129)
9 Mar 07
I think some parents can make too much of a 'thing' about situations. My sister-in-law is quite strict with her daughter. If we'r eall around the dinner table and my niece is acting up, rather than a quick "hey stop that" or "that's naughty, now behave" or whatever. She first threatens, then actually takes her away into another room to 'have words' with her. My niece is only 3 years old. I think it's un-necessary when a 'short sharp shock' is more than sufficient.
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@anij34 (317)
• United States
9 Mar 07
It depends on the mistake. If my daughter pushes someone or says something rude I will correct her on the spot. Usually, its just a simple reminder. However, when she was 2 and started trying to throw fits I would simply take her out of the cart and leave or take her into the bathroom to reprimand her. All out fits in a store are uncalled for and should not be tolerated. If a parent needs to correct a child in public I am fine with that as long as they are not beating their child. I would rather see a parent correct a child then see a child running through the store screaming and they parent just ignoring it...
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• Singapore
9 Mar 07
I would think counselling in private would be better. Children might be children, but they still deserve respect. I do feel a loss of face when I got scolded in public while I was a child! :P
@bigtummy (51)
• Singapore
9 Mar 07
Children should never be scolded or displined in the public, itstead they should only be 'advised' not to. Only when they got home then they will be lectured for things they have done wrong - scold, punishment, etc. The reason is that the children may feel shameful being scolded in an unknown area and public may think the sort of family they have. No matter what,parents want to portray a good image in the public.
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@jolanda33 (720)
• Netherlands
9 Mar 07
well i am not sure, if your kid does something wrong i think you need to tell him that right away! because when you're home they don't remember what you are talking about!(kids below 4 years) i don't mean real punishment in public, but i think you need to correct your child at the time he did something wrong so he knows not to do that the next time!
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• India
9 Mar 07
Considering the sensitiveness of present day children, woyuld it be right?
• Netherlands
9 Mar 07
i guess there must be more going on then just a teacher scolding the 15 years old one! and yes they are sensitive, but not at the moment they do something bad! so a little correction in public is not wrong! i mean my daughter is 2,5 years now and she always walks with me in the store, when she takes things that i don't want i tell her twice and the third time she goes in the shoppingcar and stays there! she can scream cry or more, but i stay calm and tell her she didn't listen to me and that works! so i think this correction was the right thing to do!
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@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
9 Mar 07
It all depends on the action that needs to be corrected. If it is something like your child throwing a fit in the middle of a supermarket. I would correct it right then and there. If it is something minor. I usually wait and when we get home deal with it. I think it is important to deal with tantrums when they happen so that they don't continue to happen.
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@tiaramas (207)
• Indonesia
9 Mar 07
Part of teacher training is to reduce or eliminate any social prejudices the person brought with them. This includes formal diversity coursework (multicultural education, disability information, multicultural curriculum methods, education history and law, etc.), as well as informal monitoring by professors and class discussions. If a teacher manages to get through all that and STILL have prejudices, concealing them from professors, cooperating master teachers (observations and practicums), and during hiring interviews... if they demonstrate prejudice in their classrooms and are caught out at it, any good principal will step in and put them on a Professional Growth Plan focusing on tolerance and sensitivity. If they continue to fail to control their feelings to maintain professionalism, they will be fired. There is plenty of racial and other diversity in teaching. There are teachers from all races (I've been in two different districts and seen it clearly), religions, socio-economic home backgrounds... and teachers with disabilities who have overcome them effectively and are able to teach in spite of being in a wheel chair, legally blind, having their own learning disability, ADHD, health issues, etc. There is plenty of diveristy and tolerance in the schools. Beware of a child claiming the teacher is failing him/her or "picking" on him/her due to racial or similar issues. Often, the kid is trying to divert blame for his/her failure... and knows that by pushing the "prejudice" button will turn your attention away from the lack of effort he/she put into class... AND get the teacher into trouble... hey, that's cool!!! Two birds with one stone! If you have a teacher who is clearly and truly demonstrating racial, ability, or other prejudice in his/her class, go to your principal. Be ready to have clear evidence... not just your kid's word.
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
9 Mar 07
no i do not aagree that children should be corrected in public tell me one good reason that it should be done publiclly a chuld will carry on this trauma to his older years the best think is to do this in a private manner
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
9 Mar 07
that is a tough call. I think it depends on the degree of the punishment/reprimand, the age of the child, the locale of the public place. I think a teacher should take discussion/correction outside of the classroom. But, I am sure there are times that public correction of the student is warranted. a few weeks ago my 4 year old was pitching a hissy fit in a store. I asked her older sister to gake her out to the car so I can finish shopping. 4 year old did not want that at all.... so I gave the ultimatum, if you want to stay in the store with me you must stop that noise, if you want to cry that is okay but you may not do this screaming. You are not injured. "sob sob sob, can I have XXXXX then?" I simply told her, I will not reward this bad behaviour she has displayed. Another shopper who was standing very close by turned to me and said "you are an awesome mother" I replied, well I can think of one person who does not agree right now (my 4 yr old!) at that point the 4 yr old became sweet as can be. In this situation I think the correction was warranted, even though it was in a public place, it was not made as a public display (her bad behaviour, though was) having the other woman's affirmation was pretty cool.
• United States
9 Mar 07
I think that kids should be punished in privacy. There is no need to do it in public. Its not only embarrassing for the person doing it, but it is also embarrassing to the child. If your child is causing that much of a problem, take them in the restroom or to the car to deal with the problem.
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• India
9 Mar 07
no,,its not at all good to correct a child in public,,no matter whatevr be his/her mistake.it will badly affect the child which may create an inferiority complex in him/her and not only that he/she will be more bothered about the circumstances than the advice and that it create a revench in their mind.
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
depends on how you correct the child. i don't believe in violence. and it won't get you anywhere. when parents inflict force, just to make children understand that they have done something wrong... children tend to remember not the lesson or reason why they were spanked or hit or pinched or raised voice with or shouted at. they tend to remember the act itself. sad to say, but for a child, pain is felt first... and understanding may come later... worse, it may not. parents can correct their children in public, why not. but they have to make it in a proper and non-abusive way. call their attention, but never in anger. explain why and try to make them understand... to their level of thinking and capacity to understand. committing mistakes is part of learning. but no lesson is ever learned thru a violent act. as adults, parents should know better... and be a better example to the kids. private counselling works depending on the age of the child. again, it's in "how you do it" that matters.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 07
thanks. :) im not yet a mom, but i get plenty of experience from my 11 nephews and nieces of varying ages. i've read your comments as well. you must be a firm disciplinarian, huh? firm, but never out of place, i think. :)
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I think it depends on the circomstance. If it is something that is better to be delt with at home in private i say do it. But thier are some cases that the child needs to know how to act in public. That means correcting them there.
@ackars (1942)
• India
9 Mar 07
no never..They should never be corrected in public.It always going to put a negative impression in thier mind especially if its a an elder child which will remain thru out their life..May b in case of very young child u can correct him in public as his memory power is low to keep such incidents in his mind for long time...
@ackars (1942)
• India
9 Mar 07
never..They should never be corrected in public.It will put a negative impression in their mani which is going to remain there for life long..u can always counsel them.Child feels better and he/she will surely give a positive result...