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Ei there meg, i don't think that would be a big hindrance really to your happiness. People nowadays are soo broad-minded when it comes to situation like yours. . Someday, somehow you'll find the man of your dreams again. Someone out there will accept you regardless of your past really. . Don't make yourself compare to someone who's got 9 kids okay? We all got different lives were living in.. guess that's exactly what she's destined for. ANyway, she's got 9 kids and happy with it really. And for you? .. it will come my friend. For the meantime, chill out! Have fun with your baby and have fun with the remaining days ur living with your partner. hehehe!! lol .. on a personal note, if i really love the man i'll accept him wholeheartedly even he has a kid (take note my dear, just a "kid" not "kids okay? LOL ... that won't be a big problem for as long as he only got a child really not "children" ... hahaha!! .. take care now. hugs en kisses! (",)

in having a relationship w/ a family man/woman is dificult coz you have to accept first the childrens of your partner and vice versa, but it is an advantage to your partner coz it will test how much do you love your partner. i am also a separated woman but after 3 years i met a guy who accept me and my 2 children and unfortunately, he is single, and he loves my chiildren so much and vice versa, and now that we have our own baby, nothings has change with that kind of love

Ok Meg now this is only me ok. The way I see it if you really love someone then you will accept anything. Even 9 Children. I would as long as I would know that I love this Person and that this Person loves me and is not just looking for someone to look after his Children. If you meet someone and they decide to get serious but then back of because you have a child it is not worth it, that Person was not dedicated to you. That is my way of thinking though.

I think nine children would be a bit much to expect any man to take on. It would cost quite a bit of money to keep them, but I should leave that for the men to answer. My daughter had two children when she seperated some years back and she had no problem finding a new partner. She is now happily married and her husband loves the two children. I hope you will also find happiness with a new partner. Best of luck.

here its no problem to get a partner when you have kids. important is, you dont hide your children at the beginning. i saw that many times and then its not a true relationship. i think the number of children doesnt matter. more important is, if the man with children loves you really or if he searching for a new mom for his kids. and you should in no way have a problem to get a new partner megan. ;-)

My husband married me and I had two children when we met. Your family member is having a hard time because the number 9 is a lot more intimidating than 1 or 2. Currently my husband and I now have 4 children (we had twins together). I am almost certain that if we broke up, it may be hard to meet someone new having he 4 kids. In my opinion, it's only fair to understand those who choose not to get involved. Some people never want to have kids, and some people want kids of their own. I respect anyone with those wishes. However, I don't think it is fair to get involved with a person with kids when you know that you don't have any intensions on gettintg seriously involved. When a single couple may date with no intensions on getting seriously involved, it's hard for a person to expect the same from a single parent. I believe that even if a single parent denies wanting to get serious, deep in their minds the do want a relationship. Therefore everyone invoved should be careful not to hurt each other or the children. You mentioned that you have 1 child. In today's day and time 1 child is nothing. Blended families are very common. You may not even struggle finding a mate or companion. Remember you relative with the 9 kids is in a far different category than you. It is hard for anyone to accept 9 children. However, there is someone for everyone. It is possible that she won't meet that person unil her children are grown, but that doesn't mean she has no purpose until her kids are grown. I am certain that she is a wonderful mom, and perhaps she should just focus on her kids now and men later. The right man will come, trust me.

I can't speak for any guys out there but in my opinion as a female.... I would not get involved with a man who had children. Especially ones that live with him. My reason is simple: I don't desire children and therefore would not like to have to be in the lives of children in whatever way. I also think there could be trouble with the mother of the children and that is the sort of drama I want no part of.

It depends on the culture and the maturity and love the two people have for eachother. My husband accepted my child and me. He even adopted her. I would have done the same.

It depends on the person- If I founf a great man (if I was looking- I'm not) and he had children- I'd gladly accept the children also. I too was a single mom-- with 1 child- The man of my dreams (My sig. other) was great! I told him that I had a daughter-- This might have scared some men away- He was very accepting- I'm not saying all men are that way though-- Just depends- I think one thing you need to be sure of- Is really know that before you introduce a new man into your childs life that the person is the right one-- It's not fair or healthy for kids to have different men or women move into and out of their lives. So just be sure and I'm sure you'll find a great man when you're ready! So My answer is- Yes I would be willing to fall into love and be happy every after with a man with children!

If you love someone, then you have to accept that if he has "baggage" so to speak, that you have to accept that baggage too. I personally would have no problems taking on a man's children, especially if they lived at home with him. I don't have a maximum number either. No matter how many he had, I'd love them the same as I love him. I would treat them as my own. I don't think it's that hard to find a man willing to take on someone who has a child - although I do see your sister's predicament LOL! 9 children at home?? Sheesh! I say take it slow when you meet a new man. Let the relationship develop, but make sure you're upfront about the fact that you have a child. Good Luck!

I wouldn't mind children, and I certainly would treat them as my own-if the man was part of my life(my own),his children would be too.

OK lets start....I'm a man- I would take a woman with children, I wudnt question her abt the children, nor i would give a thought abt it as som1 else's child, I would treat the children as my own.........only if i really loved that woman, otherwise I wudnt take a woman with children

as a man,I think it is not good. first ,if he have a children,i guess he has a not good love story,this may effect yours relationship.

I would take on a man with children. I'd probably prefer that 3 be the maximum, really, but I would take him. It may make doing things together a little more difficult b/c he will have to tend to his children too, but I don't think it would necessarily have a negative effect. And at least you can assume that he's responsible if he has taken on the responsibilities of raising his children alone. I would treat the children as my own, to a degree. I wouldn't want them to feel like I was trying to replace their real mom. I would want them to feel like I care about them, want the best for them, and that they could come and talk to me whenever they needed.

i think it is not a necessary thing that whether the girl is ready to accept ur child or the boy is ready to accept ur child but the necessary thing is that whether ur child is ready to accept ur new partner.

I totally believe that it should't be a problem for you to find someone to be with if you have a kid, but it probably wouldn't hurt if the guy had a child too from a previous relationship. Just because it would be easier for him to understand what it's like to have a child, otherwise he might not understand that your kid is your nr 1 priority. just like it's easier to be together the more things you have in common, this is one. But if someone w/out child would fall for you he probably wouldn't mind that you have one.