Cheating!!!!!

First of all, put the brakes on planning more children with this man. You know what they say about the seven year itch, but your guy lasted ten years before straying.. Have you talked to him about the problem yet? If you accuse him of cheating, he will probably deny it, but if you have absolute proof, you should begin to discuss it with him. Do you know how long his affair has been going on? Do you know the woman in question?

The one thing I personally could never forgive in a relationship is cheating. I say dump him. There is someone out there who will treat you right, and once a cheater, always a cheater. Good luck and I am sorry you are going through this.

thats a painful situation you are into right now..and honestly, im having a hard time thinking what can i advice you.. 1st, you have kids to think about coz i know, most of us dont want broken homes coz it can leave a painful mark on our child 2nd, you had devoted yourself to this man for 10 years and whether you like it or not, you are dependent on him, you dont want the feeling of being alone 3rd, getting an annullment or divorce is a tedious activity that could deplete your time, money and emotions so before making a decision, think 100 times about the consequences but i want to leave you this thought that some elders taught us "The husband or wife is just playing around..Ifhe/she will grow old, he/she will come back to you" So if you can think you can wait for him to dump his mistress and come back to you, then wait..but if you think you cant bear the pain, lose him

I know this has to be very tough on you and your children, but I have lerned the hard way, being married 3 times that they will not change, he may come back after this one is gone, but then as soon as he finds someone else he will be gone again, it is a cycle, and the more you let him come back, the more he will continue because you are enabling him to continue. When she dumps him or vice versa change the locks on your doors and tell him no that was the life he choose and now he needs to go live it. And if he begs it will never ever happen again and you are confident that he means it, then its up to you if you want to give him another try but if he messed up one more time that would be it (quits) for me, plus he sure would not be getting any and giving me something or my kids something, make him be tested for every STD there is before allowing him back into your home for all of your safety. But this is basically your decision as you know your own strengths and weaknesses and you will have to decide which way is best for both you and yur children in the long run! I wish you al the best and pray what needs to happen, happens for you soon Best of Luck to you and your children. Remember children are vibrant and they will be ok they bounce back alot easier than they are given credit for. Good Luck and my prayers are with you all.