Polygamy/Monogamy
By mango_nectar
@mango_nectar (309)
United States
March 9, 2007 9:29pm CST
How do you feel about polygamous relationships? Does it depend on the context for you, or do you believe that there is no reason for polygamy? Many times when people think of polygamy they think of a man having several wives just so he always has someone the sleep with. In many cases, however, this is not true.
First off, I would like to mention that polygamy is not just a man having multiple wives. A man having multiple wives is a form of polygamy called polygyny. There is also a form called polyandry, which describes a woman having more than one husband.
In many societies and cultures, people practice polygamy as a status symbol or as a way to gain power and alliances within their society.
How do you feel about polygamy as an idea, whether for personal or political reasons? Could you see yourself in a polygamous relationship?
I could see myself in a polygamous sort of relationship setting if it was just about having fun, but if I am in love with someone I much prefer it to be a monogamous relationship.
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@devika2204 (21)
• India
10 Mar 07
Having such more than one relationship for the sake of status or power is just not acceptable.It becomes then just an asset of the worldy pleasure.But this relationship has everything to do with the feelings and satisfaction .Evenafter being into a marriage you feel alone and if there is somebody who can rejouvienet your lost hope ,I will say why not?unless and untill you are not torturing and troubling your own partner and and feel you are justified .One can go for it.Lets call it one more oppatunity to live the life to the fullest.But first take care that we dont hurt anybody.
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@sahira (1071)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
In Islam religeon,ploygamy or polygyny is acceptable but up to four wives and provided a man can raise the four family...it is not a problem for muslims,,my 2 grandfathers has four wives each,so we are big family..But frankly,i'm not being selfish but i want my husband to stick witn me only,otherwise...
@mango_nectar (309)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I definitely agree with you. I have no problem with anyone else doing it, I would just prefer if I was the only partner that my significant other has. I'm not really sure if it's selfishness or jealousy or a lack of self-confidence, but I would just be happier overall if he sticks with me only.
Thank you!
@coffeechat (1961)
• New Zealand
16 Apr 07
It appears that both of you are muslim.
I am saddened that both of you are resigned enough to think this way.
In Islam, the first wife has the right to say NO to your husband taking other wives. But if you have economic dependence, you cannot say NO and make it stick. If you live in the West you can take him to the cleaners. But if you live in one of the Islamic countries, unless your father's family is stronger than him you have very little choice.
The most important thing - is if you can, make sure you develop economic independence. If you cannot, make sure your daughters get an enducation, and economic independence.
Cheers!
@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
13 May 07
sorry, no offence but i don't think polygamy should be allowed :P i'm against it. it's not fair on the 1st wife and the children. plus if the husband truly love his wife, why would he want fall for another lady and get married to that lady? i can never understand this. i wouldn't want to share my partner with anybody else...
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