Spanking: do you do it?

I believe in spanking. I am a mother and I spank my kids to correct their behavior. I couldn't say it is the most effective method but as compared with those kids who aren't spanked, my kids are better behaved.

I believe in spanking. I do not believe in beating. I think that kids need disiplined and spanking is one of the best form of disipline. I was spanked and so were my children. Yes government over reacts. They have no business telling a parent that they cannot spank their child.

One thing I've notice is that instead of a spank, there is berating instead, and I think the spank is far less damaging! To me it's not so much what is the means of discipline so much as there needs to be discipline! Time outs are hard to carry out, so I think they don't get done.. and no discipline is far worse than a spank on the butt. I'm not advocating spanking to those who don't choose them, just advising discipline as necessary, otherwise the family (and society) suffers.

Spanking can get out of hand, especially if a parent has a temper. It is best avoided.

I could go off on a long angry tirade about this, but I won't. My parents spanked (not beat) me when I was bad. I was a good kid and have grown into a moral adult. I see kids today behaving in ways that are atrocious - and the parents only try to reason with them. The kids need discipline not bargaining. There are so many little monsters running around it's not funny. The reasoning obviously isn't working.

I think the government needs to mind it's own business when it comes to spanking unless it turns into beatings.I as well as many people were spanked and there's nothing wrong with us. These kids are out of hand because parent's don't know the meaning of the word discipline and not to mention the fact that these bleeding hearts frown upon spanking.

Yes I was spanked . I have 3 grown up sons now aged 44,41 and 26 and I did spank them all . I think their feelings were hurt more than their bottoms but they new i was upset and that they had done wrong , I can honestly say it did them no harm and they are 3 well educated , well mannered young men and their Dad and I are very proud of them xx

I don't believe in spanking. Maybe grounding children and ignoring them for the most part until they admit to their mistakes is more effective than spanking which can hurt or bruise the child mentally and emotionally.

I spank my son's hands when he does something that is dangerous. If he is doing something that will hurt him or someone else he gets spanked, otherwise he gets in trouble some other way. He's only 13 months old, when he's older he will probably get spanked on the rear for the same type of situations that he gets it on his hands for now. I don't spank him to hurt him. The noise scares him more than the actual spank I think. It does work, though. If he starts to poke the dogs in the eyes or pull on their ears, he will look down at his hands and say "NO no Elliott!" And then he doesn't do it. I was spanked and beat as a child. I must say, the spankings never really affected my self esteem or the way I felt about my parents. The only time I ever got mad about the spankings were times when I didn't think I deserved it. I can only remember a few of them. And in reality, they didn't even really bother me too much. After all, a spanking for something usually meant we would go for a few days without being hit. I think the government is definitely over reacting. I think that spanking is an acceptable form of discipline as long as you don't go overboard. And with any form of discipline, you can go overboard. Parents that aren't able to distinguish the difference between normal acceptable behavior, and beating their children, aren't going to be affected by these laws at all. Child abusers will abuse their children no matter what. The government is taking away all of our parental rights and then blaming us when our children go bad, even though they don't want to leave us with any effective ways to discipline. The stats they give are so one sided. If everyone that was ever spanked was so bad, everyone over the age of 50 would be in prison. It was just a common thing back then and no one questioned it. They all turned out fine.

I spanked my son when he did dangerous things and would not listen, we moved when he was just over 3. He kept walking out of the house. First, I told him No, thant I gave him a timeout, then he got his butt beat. He did not leave after that. Some times, some kids, timeout is not effective. A friend has a 2 year old, he deliberately does things wrong, he laughs, says 'Time Out' and goes to sit in his time out chair facing the wall. Then he does it again, Time out for him is not an effective punishment. The government must learn that some of it's parents are rational people who can decide what is best without their interventions.

I do spank my girls occasionally. But not anymore. My eyes are effective enough to let my girls know that I'm upset. There's no sense in using this spanking as a way of disciplining our little ones. If spanking is done lightly usually on the hands or the butt of the child, I think its acceptable. Every parents are doing it. I don't think the government will not mind this spanking very much unless it leads to abuse. :)

i do have a son but he stays with his mother and i do not see him a lot, unfortunately, due to circumstances. When I did see him a lot when I lived closer and was more involved in his upbringing, I did spank when nesesary, and it helped, my son is very disciplined. I know that governments are against it but I can understand. It is because some people took advantage of a good thing because they did not know the difference between disciplining and beating. They acted in anger and not love. The governments does not distinguish between the concepts and that is why they ban it totaly. This is not good for society.

Amen!! I agree with you 100 percent! I got grounded and privileges taken away also and I know I deserved everything that I got too. I think my last spanking was when I was around 14. Mine were spankings too, not beatings. My children have been treated the same way.

I can actually give an example of how some law enforcement feels on spanking, when my daughter was five she purposely injured her 2 year old sister. I swatted her onced on her butt cheeks and put her in her romm while attending to my other child's injuries, My oldest child snuck out of her room and called 911. It looked like I had the whole police departement on my front lawn. Cps was called and arrived with the police. of course it frightened the other children who imediatly started howling, Cps was trying to take my children and put them in cars, the police had me in cuffs, and as I was explaining to the officer what had happpened he just kept getting redder. they examined the two year old for the alledged injury, found it, then questioned my five year old , who admitted to getting a swat with my hand on her butt. The officer removed my cuffs and then his belt, he called the Cps worker in and told her to shut up and watch, he then handed me the belt and told me to give her three swats or I was going back in the cuffs for neglect to protect my other child. I gave my daughter the required swats and she never forgot them, she is a wonderful well adjusted adult now who would not have learned the consequence of her actions with out the help of one very old fashioned policeman...

Spanking can be one effective form of displine. It isn't the only one but it can be one that works with kids. One has to look at the kid in question and gear the punishment to match. Personally I think spanking can be very effective with children. With some kids time outs work but others don't. Growing up parents spanked but even my friends who's parents hadn't spanked them the thought was that they could and that often kept them in line. It was the possibilty of the consequences that kept them in line. Just like many people won't rob a store because they are afraid of going to jail kids won't do things because they are afraid of what will happen if they are caught. I know some won't like this but kids should be afraid of discipline. They should worry about being punished. It shouldn't be a "oh well it's no biggie" thing. They should be trying to avoid being disciplined. If they could care less about it then guess what? It's not effective. Too many parents in my opinion now a days are more concerned about their child being "their friend" or "I can't have them not like me" to be parents. They are afraid of discplining them because then their child might not like them. They are more worried about their child screaming out "I hate you" then making sure their child turns out right. Children need displine. They need boundries and they need to know that their parents won't allow them to get away with things. I think the government needs to back off. Yes go after those who are actually abusing children but come on enough is enough. When the cops can be called because you but your child in time out there is something wrong. Yes I actually have seen the cops called out because my neice was put in her room and told to stay there till she calmed down. She started screaming to be let out and neighbors called the cops. Thankfully the cops saw the door wasn't locked but they still had to check the place to make sure that everything was ok. Personally anything can be abuse if taken too far. Spanking can be a form of discpline. The same can be said about lecturing a child but taken too far that lecture can be emotional abuse as well. We need to recognize the difference between discipline and abuse from there the government and society need to butt out and let parents be parents. Interfer in the abuse cases but otherwise leave parents alone.

I too got spanked when I was a child and I too did it to my kids from time to time when they needed it. They knew they did wrong then. I did other forms too but spankings worked best when they were really bad. And like you said not beat. People don't do it as much anymore due to getting in trouble for it.

I was spanked too when I was a child. And I guess it did good to me. But I will not do it to my kids. I will not do to others things that I don't like that others do to me. It's just as simple as that. There are others ways for dealing with kids bad behavior.

I dont have children, im only 18, but I have too young nieces (4 and 6). It really depends on what they did whether or not I spank them. If they talk back or are rude to me I put them in time out and then lecture them afterwards. But if they are mean to one of my animals I will spank them, then put them in time out and then lecture them about how we treat animals.

I worked for a daycare. They, and DSS did not aprove of anything but time out, they say make them stand somewhere for a 4 year old that = 4 minutes. And so on. A minute per year. My children 2 and 4. The 4 year old will put herself in the corner.... lol. But I used to pop her on the hand. She learned really fast. I have heard a comment from a social worker that spanking your child on the rear is not child abuse put spanking them anywhere else is. My 2 year old on the other hand, she is something else. Right now she is doing hand pops and the corner. I find that if you can outsmart a kid, it works out better than a pop. THE CORNER IS THE BEST DEAL. It worked so well with my 4 year old.