How did you meet ....
By crazy1
@crazy1 (479)
New Zealand
March 10, 2007 7:46am CST
The person you wanted to share your life with, was it here on the internet, or out there in the 'real world.'?
I've seen people who met on the internet and were married a year later. I've also known people who got out there and got looking and found that someone special.
Are internet relationships better,? or should we meet that someone the old fashioned way.?
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15 responses
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
10 Mar 07
No I found mine in the real world Crazy, and I would not trust the Internet but that is just me I have heard of People that have found their Love on the Internet like you have to with M but it is not for me. My Love was found in the real world and he is the best that has ever happened to me
@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
i met mine in college school. you know, my boyfriend and i were almost 8years as of now.
but before, i never imagined him to be my boyfriend. i used to admire someone in my room when i was in college, i feel that guy also likes me, and my present boyfriend started to court me, but i never felt anything special for him so i decided to talk to him and tell that i'm not really interested with him. but he never stopped, suddenly i realized i started falling inlove with my boyfriend. and when asked me once for my feelings i accepted him.
and now we're happy and planning to get married next year.
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@petspets (476)
• Antarctica
11 Mar 07
Both ways are good if the relationship works out. Like brokentia said I express better online than in person.
In real life I get shy and talk less to people I hardly know.
I met hubby through letters and we dated. He talked a lot and was boss man. He still is and is now a more new age sensitive person. Hey, he actually remembered to call me up
this morning to wish me 'Happy Birthday'. He is overseas.
I wish you all the best..., Crazy.
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@brokentia (10389)
• United States
10 Mar 07
In some ways, internet relationships are better. IF the person is honest.
I say IF because also on the internet, people often lie about who they are and what they think. It is easy for some to make up a completely different persona when online. But also, in turn, it is also easier for a person to express how they really feel when just faced with a keyboard and monitor.
When the person is honest...then yes, I often think that internet relationships are far more rewarding. In person, I often get shy, flustered with my words, and nervous...this causes me to often not properly portray who I am. But online, I can remain calm, think about what I am going to say, and try to get across my thoughts without getting tongue tied.
The old way of meeting people used to meeting them in bars or churches.
Personally, I am a different religion and I do not go to the mass populated churches....ok, I don't go to church. My body is my temple.
And I don't drink...so, I don't go to bars either. Nor would I want to meet and get involved with a person that likes to drink to excess. Been there, done that, thank goodness, he kicked the habit.
So, now, it seems the best place is to meet on the internet.
And after some time, maybe meet the person face to face.
BUT...disclaimer here...you have to play it safe. Because the person you meet online will not admit that one is an Axe murderer! LOL
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@crazy1 (479)
• New Zealand
10 Mar 07
I to have a similar problem to you tia, in that I'm shy at meeting people, I tend to talk a lot and get a little flustered too, so much for the first impression, lol, they must think, 'does he ever stip talking,'?. Maybe as you suggest, this is a good way to get to know the person, and hopefully, he/she isn't an axe murderer.
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
The internet is an international window and is made available to almost every one, If you want to make use of it to look for someone you would like to live for life with , why not, Itwould be the same as in the real world only yu have to spend more because when you finally descided the person you see virtually is the one who satisfies your fantacy and descide to make it real, then you will have to travel the needed distance and go Turn the virtual to reality. I do not see any thing wrong with that. I say yes the net is a better way to meet people for friends or marriage.
@crazy1 (479)
• New Zealand
11 Mar 07
I tend to aggree Perry. A relationship on the internet would need a lot of time and effort on both peoples part. I think in a way the good thing is, you get to see what the person is like on the inside before you get to either meet them, or see a picture of them. I guess the only downfall is that we may get a few pre conceived ideas about the persons physical appearance, but then if there is love in the relationship, looks aren't as important as what the person is like on the inside, or shouldn't be.
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@underpresure (35)
• Indonesia
10 Mar 07
i don't have special person yet
but someone who i wanted to share my problem is my mother and i think best listener for your problem is people in real world
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@jmp824 (741)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
It depends on you. Meeting someone on the internet and having the old fashioned way of meeting someone is more or less the same. Its the same process, if you will be liking someone over the net, sooner or later you will still be meeting that someone personally. Yeah i agree many were married over the net. I think its the simplest way of meeting someone from all over the world.
@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I got lucky in that I married my high school sweetheart. I think the old fashion way is the best although it can be a bit hard to meet people that way. For me it would be at least because I don't go to church or bars. But I have trust issues so meeting someone online would probably be out of the question. I can see some of the appeal behind it but you would never know what you are getting that way. Or I guess I should say - who you are getting.
@inked4life (4224)
• United States
11 Mar 07
My sister introduced me to my future wife. They worked together and my sister had it in her head that it was time I met a nice girl and settled down. We went on a couple of dates with absolutely no intention of getting serious and 6 months later we were engaged...10 years later and we are still married.
@dopey22girl (3319)
• United States
18 Mar 07
Well the way I know my boyfriend is kind of funny. I dated his ex-best friend. You got that? The other guys name is Brad and I was his girlfriend, and my now boyfriend, was his best friend. Haha pretty funny? Brad and I ended up breaking up, and then my boyfriend and Brad ended up not being friends because of something Brad did to him, and now the ex-girlfriend and ex-best friend are dating. Haha I love it!
@meleshia (624)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
I met my boyfriend in college. He was my seatmate for 3 years before we started going out. We're now on our 6th year but we don't have any marriage plans yet. =) Since i met him (and all previous bfs) through the "old-fashioned" way, I couldn't really say which one is better. But personally, I'm not quite comfy with going steady (and having intimate relationships) with someone I''ve only met in the internet. There are many pretenders out there, you know ~_^
@Schnorrawaggle (688)
• Austria
11 Mar 07
I met mine in the real world. Knew him for over a year before going out for the first time. And that was 16 year ago, before I even had internet. I like the getting to know a person slowly, watching them interact with other people, as one can learn a lot about how they are by how they treat others.
I can't imagine meeting my partner on the internet. How do you know they are who they say they are. So many people have an online persona so different from their real world persona, you can see this on myspace. People I know in person are so different on myspace, they got the cool name, the cool layout, the cool song etc, but in real life they are fat and bald and they kick their dog.
@Theodorus (4)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
i don't think internet relationships are better than the traditional relationships.
if the two persons are very far one from another, like in two different countries, then the internet is a good solution for keeping in touch with your partner, but i don't think it's better if you live in the same city for example; i think it's better to date and talk 'live' rather than chatting; chatting has its own beauty but it's a secondary way to keep in touch with your close friends.
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
11 Mar 07
i met my bf through my brother, they werent best mates or anything just those people you go years without seeing and chat to heaps when you see them lol, and we went to the village pub and i met him (didnt take to much notice of him to tell u the truth) but the wkend after my dad went in a pool comp and he was there and ended up being my dad partner in the comp so we got real close lol and yeah went from there