what is your birth order? does it affect your personality?
By pixiedust
@pixiedust (177)
Philippines
March 10, 2007 11:43am CST
are you the first born? middle child? youngest? or only child?
and do you think it affects your personality? for example, i am an only child so i'm very sheltered. i feel that i'm over protected so i always have this urge to break away but i'm always held back by fear that my parents would get mad or would not approve of it.
how about you?
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@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I found this on this site : http://pbskids.org/itsmylife/family/birthorder/article2.html
"Here are some personality traits that are common in first-borns:
Confident: All that attention over everything you do makes you more likely to believe in yourself.
Determined: Because your family might depend on you to get things done, you're probably good about finishing the projects you start.
Born Leader: Whether on the soccer field or in the classroom, you are often in charge. Oldest children are usually given the responsibility of baby-sitting and taking care of the house, so they get early training in being the boss.
Organized: You probably know where to find things, like your books, your Mom's keys, or your homework assignment. Even if your folders are a little messy, it's likely that you have a system.
Eager to Please: It's easy for oldest children to fall into this routine because they started out with a very strong need for Mom and Dad's approval, and eventually this spilled over to other adults such as teachers or coaches. When there's a job to be done, it's usually a first-born who jumps up and says "I'll do it!"
Likes to Avoid Trouble: When people expect a great deal from you, it can be hard to speak up or complain about something. You might not want to be seen as causing problems or less than "perfect.""
I think I am a pretty typical first born. I'm very protective of my little sister. My parents let her do a whole lot more things than they would have ever let me do too. The only things I don't agree with is the confidence part. My sister has much more confidence than I do.
@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
18 Mar 07
Your welcome.
And I agree I think it depends on lots of factors.
@pixiedust (177)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
thanks for the link. that's a pretty informative site.
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@pixiedust (177)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
i guess, it's not always true what they say about birth orders and personality. these can be just general observations. it can also depend on other factors.
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@michmdmama (77)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I am a little different I think.
I am all of the above. I am the only child of my mother and my father and was raised as an only child for 8 years. My father had 3 girls before he had me, but was only a big part of 1 of their lives and signed over his parental rights on her when I was about 3 due to having terminal cancer. So, I am an only child and my father's youngest.
When I was 8 years old my mother had another child and of him and I, I am the oldest and we were raised together so really, I feel like the oldest. I also have 2 step brothers.
Now, if you put us all together, I am in the middle.
Anyway, I am very responsible whereas my brother isn't. I think responsibility comes with being the first born, myself.
@pixiedust (177)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
that is pretty complicated. yours really is a different case. but somehow since you were raised together with your younger brother and you said you are responsible maybe you still have traits of a typical first born.
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I think we are all looking for our parents approval. I was the first of two children. I think it forms you. For instance all the first time parent mistakes are made on the oldest. We are given a lot of responsibility becouse we are the oldest. Looing back I think it made me the person I a today. Thanks for the question you just reinded me I need to thank my mom.
@pixiedust (177)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
yeah, who wouldn't want their parents to approve of what they do?
you're welcome. good to know that i was able to remind you that simply through this post. :)
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I am the youngest and I don't think birth order has much to do with it.. the other poster stated they were eldest and their parents expected more from them. I am the youngest, but I was in Gifted classes, my sister was points away from being gifted, but I was always expected to do better. They were never happy with a B from me, but my sister could bring home C's & D's. So I think it depends on the parents and how they treat the children, not the birth order.
@pixiedust (177)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
you have a point. maybe it also depends on how the parents treat their children.
@ilovemoney (103)
• Canada
10 Mar 07
Birth order has a big role in changing or developing personality. I am an elder brother and I always have to look out for my younger siblings. Everything I do I have to see that they think good of it. My parents have much more expectations from me. It almost always feels like Im a role model.
@pixiedust (177)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
yeah, i normally hear of parents expecting their first borns to set the bar for their other siblings. i think it's good in a way because it could instill responsibility in them. as long as the parents don't push them too hard though.