How do friends contribute to your success?
By charms88
@charms88 (7538)
Philippines
March 10, 2007 7:28pm CST
I've looked a lot at what makes people successful. And I've never yet seen the real, successful person who was a lone wolf. Every successful person I've known has had a nucleus of people around them who shared their passions, supported their best interests, upheld all the things that were important, and wanted them to succeed.
Yet some people allow themselves to get isolated - either because they're too busy, or too tired, or depressed. They don't think much anymore about what a friend is.
There's always a solid rule in friendship: if you want to have a good friend, you need to be a good friend. Give away what you wish you were getting, and it will come back to you in spades.
What kind of a friend are you then? Do you take the time to help your friends? How do your friends contribute to your life, family and work?
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22 responses
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
11 Mar 07
Bunny dear, may I beg to differ?
I think there are lone wolves who do succeed. But since they are lone wolves, you won't be seeing them easily even if they succeed. They *are* elusive ones and with what they have gained while succeeding, they are even more capable of staying elusive. :P
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
Wizard dear, pardon me for saying this:
I know that you are one of those "elusive" creatures. I happened to be one of them also. What I mean with my discussion is that I'm fascinated with people working together to succeed. Its too lonely to work alone. But if you prefer to be evasive about everything, how could people reach out to you?
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
11 Mar 07
But bunny, why do I want people to reach out to me? I just want to rule them.
I just wanna rule the world!!!
*insane cackle*
@primecrimson (1388)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
It was said that you will know the person thoroughly by the company of friends he have. I guess this is true, since most people tend to go along with the people who share the same ideas and hobbies. People around us influences our lives, our decision we make and the sittuation we have at now.
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
11 Mar 07
Very well said charms, what you give is definitely what you get in return. I think I have been a good friend and still am. I never turn down anybody who is need of help or encouragement. I have been around my friends when they needed me and have been supportive as well. I have many friends and each one has a special place in my life. I met each one at a time when I needed someone the most. At different phases they were there for me and I've always been there for them since then.
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@yanjiaren (9031)
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11 Mar 07
I try to be a good friend and am not afraid to give whatever i have and share it. I don't want to brag but if i have anything good i want to share it. I have gained so much knowledge on Mylot fromevery one and my friends here that if i see someone that wants the same info i recieved i will give it freely as i recieved it. This is very important..i know God and the Great Dao is abundant and Heaven is wide so i don't worry about being without. Many times i was homeless or destitute but i put my trust in Upstairs and He never failed me. Lovely discussion..
@joey_matthews (8354)
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11 Mar 07
Friends & family who are there and try to keep us focused do drive us to be the best.
I'd like to think I'm a friend who helps, encourage and support but most of all listen. I do this, although I won't blow my own horn and say it's anything special because I'm just a friend. (a good one) =)
Yes of course. I'm always their for friends, even those who don't return the favour but this is me not them.
Contribute? Basicly I'm there, I'll help with what I can and support them in any way possible.
Kudos,
~Joey
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@jvego7426 (153)
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11 Mar 07
Their supportive push, the encouragement and understanding :)
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@mahehere (4)
• India
11 Mar 07
its not good 2 jus giv them a name called "friends" instead they shud b called as "life".. Since without life there cannot b human biengs.friends r sum1 who stays deep in everbody's heart ur free 2 share any sorrows or happiness n u ll feel relaxed wen ever they r around u..n wit all dese points they automatically contribute 2 all r success
@men82in (1268)
• India
18 Mar 07
Since 1995 I was in depressed condition deserted job fully under poverty. My friend and his family helped in all sources limitfully like god. Really by the gods grace I was blessed by my friends family. Even though I worked physically for my friends simple hardships, the helps he and his family offered was the real blesses of god. At the times now I am in the position as he and his family expects to be of mine. The real friend in my life such as the proverb a friend in need is a friend INDEED.
@aravindganesh79 (140)
• India
11 Mar 07
Every successfull man defenetly there will be a women..but i had a doubt..who will be there behind in a successfull women???
@monkeywriter (2004)
• United States
12 Mar 07
My best friend and my sister are both encouragers to me. I dont have encouraging parents so my only encouragement in my life comes from my best friend and also my other best friend my sister! I need advice, dont we all? I need support or I'd never survive. These are these things I strive for in turn for them. I try to be all they are to me, to them.
I could never survive without help from someone. And since my parents dont give me what I need I look to my friends.
@SKLC_PT (1234)
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13 Mar 07
Well in the real life I don't have many friends, but I cope OK.
Here on mylot it helps to have friends as you can add them to your notice list and get discussions sent right to your inbox, that can be way better then searching them, especially if you have common interests.
However I don't think we should feel obligated to respond or make our friends reply, as just like you do not force a friend to do things in the real life I do not think we should force them here.
But I think friends here is a plus in any case, I'm a friendaholic so just having them on my friend list makes me happy, it can be a bad thing as I seem to not be able to refuse friend requests lol.
But I'm sure you're right about the loners, they most probably have less success then those with friends!
How they have contributed?
Well here for example to getting replies to discussions for example ones with no replies, I have a lot of those lol.
You for example have helped me by replying to my posts.
And in general having someone to cheer you up, share your thoughts, ask for opinions... can be a great gift more then any gold!
@bezzamae (447)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
friends are important in our lives. like our parents, they are always there to support you, push you up when you are down, give comfort when you are downhearted, make you smile when you are so sad, stay with you during your ups and downs and lastly, they are simply there simply to support you.. they can care, love and look for you as well. like what charms88 said, we need to be a good friend to have good friends. its like do what you want to do what you want other to do unto you..
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
11 Mar 07
I did not know about this solid rule in friendship. I have this weakness. Anyone who treats me as a friend is often a friend to me. I can go all way out to help a friend in need. But once I feel that I am taken for granted, the friendship is gradually discounted until zero. If I felt betrayed, direct 100% discount is applied. Friends help one another willing and the process of it generates moral support for each other. Support - that's how my friends contribute to my life.
@langGa18 (81)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
Well, I'm the kind of friend who is willing to help as long as I am able to and I go out of my way for friends who need comforting and are troubled. I always try my best to have time for my friends whether that would be for good or bad times. My friends inspire me a lot. They are the ones who makes my day bright, listen and help me with my family problems, and also they are the reason why work is not boring. Friends are the best person to go to if you need someone to lean on. And I'm so lucky to have friends.
@perugu (5279)
• India
11 Mar 07
hi,fiend,thats why..somebody told "tell your friend's name,i will tell about you"means we make friendship with people who represents your views.That is the importance of friends.I too get help from friends either in the way of money or suggestions,moral support.I became a successful person in my consultancy activity with friends help only.They suggest me for those type of offers in our area.
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@mayankthebigm (71)
• India
11 Mar 07
i must say that a man is incomplete without a good friend. many atime in a man's life there are ocassions when a person feels looooooooooooooooonly in his race of life then only a friend can step forward to help u in what ever way he can.
like behind a successful man there is a woman similarily there is a friend.............................................................................
Friends r 4 ever
@alirana (297)
• Malaysia
11 Mar 07
yeah the real success comes through the help of other friends or family. So the possibilities of having good friend depends on you. If you are really loyal and good with other the sphere of friends will be nice too. I can't think about myself without involving others comments. And good friends are considered like pearls,i can still remember words of my Mom that Good friends are like flower..they never be let you in trouble.
@eminaren86 (106)
• India
11 Mar 07
well talkin about my friends, i have friends about 30 to 40...my friend circle is very good and a like to spend most of the time with them...wow i have a great time when i spend time with them...thats a great moments and memorable...well my childhood friends are very close to me...they always contribute for my success,they are my true friends....i support them always and they support me always....we work together in whatever the work is....thats what we call it as team work.......untill now we had achived a lot in our lives...really life with friend is great and enjoyable.....so i suggest every one one here spend most of ur time with ur friends,take ur own time to schedule for it.if ur not havein friends then allot time and find some good friends acoording to ur taste,but its n all not in our handa friendship will grow with time.....friendship is great