arguing with my sister... was i wrong?
By fianne
@fianne (1057)
United States
March 10, 2007 7:52pm CST
my parents left to an important visit in the family funeral of a relative. she already have a daughter of 2 years old. she asked permission to let the guy stay in her room. i told her i won't let it unless she talk to our elder brother. but she did not asked permission and let the guy sleep in her room. the guy is the father of her daughter too. she got pregnant when she graduated in high school. the guy has no work and was not able to finish even high school. i called her out and told her she should not have brought the guy in without asking permission from our older brother. she was so angry she yelled at me telling me "this is not your life! why should i ask permission for my happiness?"
did i do something wrong?
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11 responses
@Junfer (41)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
no need to argue just tell your sister in a nice way that she will be responsible for all acts she will be done your sister love his boyfriend and the same way with the guy try to understand her and you even said that guy was the father...let them bond each other...
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@fianne (1057)
• United States
11 Mar 07
well i told her in a nice way first. but she yelled at me. i asked her just that nothing more. why yell at me then? yes the guy is the father of their daughter. i am just being careful too. i want my sister to finish her college first before having another baby too.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
11 Mar 07
I don't think you did. Your brother needs to approve every coming and going since he lives in the home. Your sister probably doesn't realize that you are trying top save her from future problems.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
11 Mar 07
I am sure they were upset as I assume they do not approve of this guy. One day your sis will wise up and realize that you were doing the best thing for her.
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@fianne (1057)
• United States
11 Mar 07
yes. i do not know what's the problem in asking permission from my brother. well, maybe she knows that my brother will not approve it, that is why. yes, she does not understand. my parents were angry when my brother sent them mesage in the cellphone.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
12 Mar 07
Who did your parents say was in charge when they were away? Was it your elder brother? If yes, then she should have asked him permission.
I guess your parents are going to find out anyway.
@fianne (1057)
• United States
11 Mar 07
nope. they left it to my brother's. that's why i am telling her to go get permission from our elder brother because i do not have the right. plus, if ever, it was given under my authority, i will not let the guy sleep in her room but of course as respect to their daughter, i would let him in. but no, not to sleep.
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@rainbowzr4ever (268)
• United States
11 Mar 07
u were right I would never let anyone stay in my house and sleep together outside of marriage.
@mansha (6298)
• India
24 Apr 07
No I think you were right in stoping her. I think she has some serious issues here. You need to talk to yuour parents and tell them all about this guy and ask them noty to confront her but give her some counselling sessions to resolve her personal problems and make wise choices about guys when it comes to forming relationships.
@sherry_navilla (420)
• Slovak Republic
12 Mar 07
you were doing the right thing don't worry.. sometimes the right thing to do is really painful but it is right after all... well as for your sister... she's really something... but nevertheless you have to be strong for she'll thank you for what you have done in the future...
she won't realize how much you are concerning over her right now because she's in love and she sees things in a different manner.
@brckoba (795)
• United States
11 Mar 07
You were in your right to do what did. Obviously this guy is taking advantage of your sister. Even if he is the father of her daughter, he has no right to use your sister whenever he pleases. If he wasn't a man enough to marry your sister and care for their family what makes him think that he can just come and go now?! Your sister needs to wake up and stop being so gullible. You did the right thing, besides having an strange man can put you in danger too. Try reasoning with her in a calm manner, help her understand that this guys needs to step up and take his responsibility of her and their daughter. Also tell her that if he refuses to do so than he is not the man for her. At the end he will only use her and she will actually miss her chance for true happiness. Good Luck!!!
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
11 Mar 07
if your elder brother was the one in charge of the house being your parents out, well she should have asked your brother first as a sign of respect...as for sleeping together I think that they have already slept together if they end up having a baby...so it is just a matter of respect to your brother not a matter of preventing one's happiness or keeping secret and independent a relationship that is well clear to everybody! don't worry about the argument anyway...it may happen to have an argument with people we love...but then little by little things are going into the right place again!
