Imposed a MyLot rule on myself

That must be the same one I got. It is quite annoying how's your weekend going

gosh, I am new to this, and willing to accept any messages, and wondering if ppl will ignor me as I am new, I am gonna be 65 soon, and looking for companions and friends to meet or chat with..i am wondering why ppl exspect you to clcik on their links since i am getting started today..

I think maybe if you delete them as a friend then they can not send you messages. Just send them a reply back saying something like I don't like getting spammed, that is a violation of the rules and I will be deleting you as a friend so I do not get it again. Then maybe wait a week to see if they apoligize. If they do then that's your call on accepting it or not. If they don't then delet them and report them.

i learnt through bitter experience not to let anyone with less than 100 posts on my friends list, not only are you likely to get spammed but you dont know if they are going to stick around

I'm glad you mentioned that, because I have a few pending who I left for now because they had less than 10 posts. I think I will also make myself some rules. Perhaps set a limit of 300 score and then accept everyone. If they are spammers, they will most likely be gone by then..

HEY, I'm a newbie and I'm not a solicitor!! lol. No, I totally understand! I'm real cautious when it comes to accepting people too. But I don't look at how many posts they've made, I look at how many friends they have what their profile looks like. :)

They are very annoying these people. I only accept friend requests from people who have either answered one of my discussions or i've answered one of theirs. This suggets to me that they want to be friends because they actually want to have some discussions.

well for me i wont mind these type of messages because i like knowing about new sites.

The main reason why also try to let their requests for a while. Most of the time, I try to make it a habit to visit their profiles and their posts. Look for their discussions started and discussions they've responded, I also wait for their progress for awhile. Monitor their postings from time to time, and see if they are spamming. I also try to look if we have both common interests, because I don't like my discussions flooded with nonsense topics..

I too have noticed this a lot lately. It seems like every new friend accept sends a link/referral to some money making site or another. Dont get me wrong, I would love to make money online. But I just feel like these things unsolicited is just annoying. Most of them arent anything like what I am looking for, and I certainly didnt ask for them. It does get irritating.

I had one of these too. I just deleted the person from my friends, but I do also wish there was some way to block these kinds of messages. On the other hand, I've accepted a couple of newbies I'm pretty proud of. I try to give everyone a chance, just in case they do actually turn out to be someone I want to talk to further. In these cases they replied to my discussions first, which was a good sign. =) Better luck in the future!

I don't think anyone like that has found me yet. So far everyone I have accepted is great. I will however take all of your advice on this and watch who I take on as friends. Thanks!!!

I think it is OK to post this stuff on money making forms but nor in personal email. Yes, tht is very rude.

I guess I'll pipe in as a newbie (joined yesterday) who is still getting a feeling for what Mylot has to offer. First off, this strikes me as a lot like Yahoo's "question" feature that gives you points (with no obvious benefit that I've found). I've found myself incredibly interested in many of the conversations I've found and there seems to be a definite community spirit present here. I'm always intrigued by those who join anything with the sole intent or focus of money...surely there are better ways to "get rich quick" than a program such as this one. I'd think that if money were your sole objective, Mylot would be a disappointing experience. Instead, it seems like it's a rewarding experience for those who invest themselves in it. It's sort of like the old adage "you get what you give." I don't expect (or really seek) to get rich here, but I am hoping for a nice combination of friendship, community, information and, perhaps, a little bit of financial reward. I haven't had to address the "friend" issue yet, and I certainly appreciate reading discussions such as this one that give me insight as to what to expect.

I think I am lucky, so far i didn't get any of that . But it would upset me a bit if I did. If I am looking for something like that I can look for it myself, and prefer doing than to have it forced on me.

I agree with you, I am here for the same reason. I don't even open the make money links. I only want to hear and share idea?

Yep. It is probably the same 9 poster that has put their request on my account which I have not accepted as of yet. he must have earned his 9 posts a long time ago as none of those discussions exist anymore. I can not find how to delete friends either, I see that I can accept or deny their friendship - but once it is accepted I find no options. I would also really like an ignore feature to be given us.

I totally agree with the statement "I'm here because I like it." MyLot rocks! Mainly due to the community and intelligent, witty discussions. I'm kinda tired of money-making forums where they pay you just to post - those are kinda lame in the long term, because you just keep repeating the same phrases over and over again. MyLot is different in the sense that you engage yourself and immerse in the discussions, often coming up with replies you know you never would bother to type in other forums. As to the annoying thing you faced (about the new friend), I hope you could sort it out. I'm annoyed when I come across those kind of things too. Lol just wish MyLot stays permanently.

Well, it's hard to create a system which filters all messages for unsolicited links. The best thing to do could be just declining the friend request and message them to ask again after they've posted more.

thats true it irritates when people try to popularise their links in here mylot... its mentioned in guidelines that u r not supposed to do that.. so u can very well complain