Do NOT grab my Ears!! I don't need a MAP!

I think after some time together you should have a pretty good idea what your partners likes and dislikes are. I also think that couples should communicate what they like and don't like. Most of the time a wife puts up with what a husband wants because she doesn't know how to tell him without starting some sort of war.

that sounds AWFUL !!!!!!!!!!!!! maybe at times when you are up for it, jsy say red for stop, yellow for ok, or green for do it more otherwise why not just let it flow naturally and feel what each other is wanting and try to get with that grabbing ears? kick him out !

I told my hubby that if he ever directed my head while doing that then I would stop. I also told him that that was his one and only warning. He didn't believe me that night and tried to direct me and I stopped got into pj's and went to bed. Boy was he mad. I have issues with being touched and if I don't know that you are going to touch me I tend to panic and have anxiety problems. I told him that it was for his own safety and that of the "pokey" as I call it lol. Come to think of it that was over 2 years ago and he hasn't done it since.