Would You Or Have You Attended A School Reunion
By Brian
@wolfie34 (26771)
United Kingdom
March 11, 2007 6:48am CST
Would you want to see how your classmates did or where they are now? Do you have any curiousity at all about how people turned out? Would you want the satisfaction that one of the school bullies turned out worse off than yourself? Would you love to see old friends again?
Personally I wouldn't I hated school, I was bullied and it was the worst years of my life, seeing classmates again would only open old wounds. There would be no benefit at all for me to go, and yes, ok its slight jealousy but if I saw those bullies doing well in life it would make me angry. I would also want revenge which is not helpful.
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@carmine_16 (100)
• India
11 Mar 07
yes. I was very very curious. I have met some people and I was very surprised by them. I was plump during college nd was butt of jokes. But later I lost that chubbiness during my job. Then I got married and had three children. For everyone's surprise, I was still slim, but the slim beauties of colleges had become mini-elephants. Also the smarter ones did not turn out to be smart at all.
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@AskAlly (3625)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
I have been to 2 reunions. Now you know I have dated myself haha. They were hilarious. Especially he second one. I could not believe how some people turned out.
Some of the nasty folk had certainly gotten thier just rewards. Bald, fat, unmarried, childless, and certainly some on large doses of anti depressants. I guess what goes around comes around eventually.
There was one classmate in particular that was such a nasty B!tch. She was one of the unmarried childless depressants. But thinking back I could hardly feel sorry for her. She had made the lives of others pure misery in school. I was lucky because I was already dating my husband back then, so I never did fall victim to her.
Why she even showed up was amazing. She was certainly friendless that evening.
@superbren (856)
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21 Mar 07
yuk , theres no way i would go . i was a little mouse at school and when i think back i never want to see any of those so called friends again. i always felt out of it as i was a country girl and i went to a convent in a large town. the girls i choose as friends were stuck up madames who looked down their noses at me. i never felt part of a group , i always felt like an outsider and it took me years to gain confidence. i dont blame these girls, it wasnt their fault and i'm sure they didnt grow up without issues too but i just never want to be reunited with them . as you say it would reopen old wounds and i would feel like i was back in the clessroom . i hated my teachers too, some of them were horrible to us so i would have no fond memories of them either.when i moved on to the tech at 16 things got a bit better but it still took me a while to get confident.
@gapeach65 (805)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I have only had a mild curiosity about my classmates. I have not been to any of our reunions and I have no intentions on going. OK well maybe if I win the lottery and look fantastic, I might go. My thought has always been that if these people didn't want anything to do with me in high school (I wasn't popular, I wasn't cool, I didn't drink, smoke or sleep around and that seemed to be what you had to do to have friends at my high school)and they have not needed me or I have not needed them all these years, why bother now. The friends I had then and that I have now are dear to me and they know that. There are a few friends that I have lost touch with and would love to reconnect with but I don't think they'd go to the reunion either. So, if you're out there, call me!
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
23 Mar 07
No I never have, even in High school I was an odd ball. I didn't follow the fashion of the week, I said what I thought, and I quite school after grade 11, my mother said they needed me to get a job and help support the family. I was sorry, because I really enjoyed going to school, I was told by two teachers I had the potential to become a teacher If I wanted to , but I would have had to redo my hight school and take a university preliminary course and have the math to go to University. so I never followed that dream,
@lovesfreedom (1245)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I have no desire to go to any school reunions. All of my friends from that era are still my friends today and none went to school with me.
I went to a high school reunion with my first husband, it was his 20th and I was shocked to realize that the same people pulled the same stupid, childish jokes on others. It was the biggest group of immature adults I have ever been in. The jocks still considered themselves to be the most important, even though they had not aged well and the cutesie females thought they were still God's gift to men. It was not a good experience and one that i will never repeat!
@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I have yet to show up to a class reunion.
I might yet someday, but I doubt it. Highschool, though the best years of my life, sucked for me. Once outside the building, life was good, tho. Sorry to make it sound confusing. Most of my school chums were not in my class anyway--either ahead, behind or just plain didn't graduate with the class.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
12 Mar 07
well yes i want to attend reunions its nice to meet old buddies including the bullies lol..and found out all their stories of success and failures..
@MrNiceGuy (4141)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I haven't had one yet, but I definitely plan on attending. I had a great time in high school and I would love to see my class mates again. I would be interested in catching up with them, seeing how they changed, if they didn't change, etc. I think it would be a lot of fun, although I realize how stressful it would be to prepare one and also to go to one.
@mywords18 (645)
• United States
12 Mar 07
yes i have next year and found that each and every one has chnaged so much the way of talkin and habits and even the frakness between frnds were reversed, there were few who came howling and huggin eachother most of them were just shaking hands and been very formal, which hurted me alot as i am the same the way i was earlier and expected much more frm others well next time i will think twice before goin for such unions.
@nglanfield (559)
• Turkey
12 Mar 07
As far as I'm aware my old school hasn't held a reunion, if they did I wouldn't have gone. It would just be an evening of having to pretend be interested in old classmates and their lives.
I have kept in contact with a couple of friends and still see them whenever I go back to the UK.
And the rest of them well I'm not interested to tell the truth, there are too many new and more interesting people out in the big wide world to meet.!
@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
I think I would go. My curiosity would have to be sated.
i too was bullied rather badly by a few girls in the same year, but I had a lot of friends too and it would be nice to see what they're doing with themselves these days.
I've lost touch with all my old school friends, and of course, being in Canada doesn't help solve the situation these days.
I don't want revenge on those who bullied me. I want to show them that I've grown up into a mature adult, and that they don't hold the same power over me anymore.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
12 Mar 07
I would avoid attending a school reunion. It is not that I don't like to see old friends. I don't remember them at all! I lost contact with them after we left school as there were no telephone at home until I started working. I would feel awkard to meet them as I am a non communicator.
@dillinger83 (165)
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12 Mar 07
I actually had a pretty good time in high school and was reasonably popular. However, I failed to keep in touch with anyone after graduation, so when the invitation to my five year reunion came in the mail, I wasn't sure I wanted to attend. I decided against it - I was afraid I would feel awkward as I knew most of the people that would be attending still hung out every day. I had visions of sitting in the corner by myself, gulping down cocktails to ease my nerves and watching everyone else laugh and have fun. And after all, it was only 5 years. I think it will be more interesting to see what everyone is doing in 10 or 20 years. I harbor no bad feelings towards anyone in my graduating class and am not concerned with impressing everyone. The only thing that turns me off when it comes to reunions is that everyone else seems to view them as a place to try to show off or "one-up" each other. It just seems so silly. I am very happy with my life, but I don't know if my classmates would see it the same way as my goals in life aren't very conventional. I wouldn't be ashamed, but it would annoy me that other people were judging me based on their standards of success and happiness.
@Bangalorean (1282)
• India
12 Mar 07
I would surely would have loved to attend one such reunion, for it would make memories afresh.
But lack of time, keeps me away
@alcomp44 (7)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
I personally love to attend reunions...I have been spearheading reunions for years now...either it be in grade school or high school reunions (I hope to organize our college and post graduate reunions too some day)..i love seeing my former friends/classmates. Last December, we had our 25th Anniversary Reunion in grade school and I would say it was a successful affair. Of course, I saw former friends/batchmates, enemies, bullies who in a way made fun of me way back then, but they turned out to be matured individuals now. It was nice reminiscing about the good old days. It was really fun to be reunited and reconnected.
@virtualjatin (50)
• United States
12 Mar 07
i havnt ever attended a school or a college reunion and i think it is a waste of time. These days people r so busy in their life and have no time fr such that things. I was once invited to a reunion but didnt go out for that. i think friend websites like orkut.com help in uniting all old buddies and link them again. i thank those sites for the greater work....
@xfallenxlostx (2074)
• United States
12 Mar 07
No, i would never ever go to a school reunion. i hated school so much i wish i could erase momst of the memories of it. Besides that, i was in a horrible crash and am now really damaged. i don't want to be seen like this.
@domesticengineer (576)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
I haven't attended any school reunions yet. I'll probably attend a future reunion because I really miss my classmates whom I last saw during our graduation. It would really be nice seeing the changes in their appearance. I believe they are a lot bigger than I am. hahaha.
@NatureBoy (493)
• Singapore
12 Mar 07
A reunion sounds like quite a good thing. If only talks about career advancements, achievements and all the moments of glory are not part of it. I have attended a few good ones and a few bad ones. The good ones were when everyone gathered, back at the old school, walking around and talking about the good old times. Joking and having fun. Bad ones were ones that were organized in posh restaurants and everyone is talking about how successful who or who was.
Well, for sure, a reunion to me is to reminisces the past events and help to see what everyone has gone through. Its never about who is more successful or not. But if on the way some one has got good stuff to share, at nobody's expense, it will be great too.