Stay at home moms, please help!

I'm no longer a stay-at-home mom, but before I went back to school and began working, I stayed at home with my kids. My hubby didn't do a whole lot with the boys. He did do things around the house, but when it came to taking care of the boys, that was my job. I went off on him one night when I wanted to do something without taking the boys. He said he didn't want to "babysit". I blew my top. I told him that he helped make the boys, he could help take care of them. Then I said, it's not considered babysitting when they're your kids too. I also told him that one night a week was not too much to ask for and he really didn't have a choice. He wasn't too thrilled the first couple of times, but after that, he enjoyed the time he got alone with them. My advice is to tell him how you feel and don't give him the option of saying no. Tell him you need a break for a few hours and that he'll be taking care of the baby. He's doing this because you're allowing him to do it. I did the same thing. Once I stopped allowing it, his attitude eventually changed.

I am in a worst case situation, my hubby never wanted to have kids and when I concieved he was not thrilled about it. I didn't go for abortion had to fight with him to keep the babies. he does love them, it think but wont babysit them and I am afraid to ask too as I was the one who wanted the babies. I do have a mais working for me so she takes care of them if I am too tired abut I can not go out for girl's night or anything. I have to tkae my daughter along or may be ask the maid and nmy hubby both to watch her and come bakc with in half an hour. I don' think he would mind babysitting but I have never thought of asking. She also does not like to go to him except when he is leaving for office as that means she will get to go out till the car or may be sit in ti when he backs it. I raised my son alone for five years as he was away and f I could do it once I could do it again. I am just thankful that he spends whatever time he can with the kids.