Marriage: Commitment or Feelings

that is a very loaded it question and many factors so that it cannot be answered in this fashion. but I will say there is no marriage without commitment, you will see how fast a marriage breaks down when there isn't any, when both partners or one partner goes his or her own way without any regard for the other spouse. In the definition committment, you can add feelings, in a committed marriage the feelings of both partners are taken into account when decisions are made. Do you lock everybody out - absolutely not, 1 - you would get cabin feature 2 - it is absolutely necessary for people to be social, meaning talking to other people, family member, friend, co-worker what ever works. 3- Do you spill all the beans and listen to these people if it means braking up your marriage - absolutely not unless what they say is the absolute truth and you know it is a decision you should have come to on your own. 4- Can outside help help keep a marriage together, of course it can, you just have to know who to talk to. Sometimes people can offer a solution or a new way of looking at this that were bothering you that you never thought of before. The point is you have to be honest with yourself, you have to know how to make your own decisions not completely relying on everyone else to do it for you and you have to know when you are stuck to keep an open mind and ask for help. And lastly you have determine what is good information from your friends and family and what is not.