Relationship Red Flags - watch out for these?

I think this is a great list, and, if girls really took it to heart and avoided guys like the ones on the list, the divorce rate would go down drastically. Some of the points might apply when a guy is picking a girl friend, but not the one about living at home. Most people expence women to stay in their parent's home until they marry, but hardly ever do we think men should. A cultural thing I guess.

But I think mamas boys are so cool. You mean I gotta quit dating mommas boys now? aw thanks for bursting my bubble, Faith. lol. Actually great list. I like it a lot!!

I know a lot of men like that and I cannot stand those kinds of men. I need a man who can handle responsibility.

I would have to decide on a situational basis. I think that it really depends on why he would be at home still. If it was because he was caring for family of saving to buy a house. I would question the never inviting me over. And talking negatitive at all about things on a regular basis would be a sign of a negative person overrall. Moving to quick could be just a sign that he is more intersted in other things. Yeah being a mommas boy way to much could cause boundary probs later. the fresh out of a relationship is not good "MOST" cases but not true for all.

Yes I would have to agree with you that all these signs are a warn sign so we had best put up a red flag as it looks like you would not have a stable relationship if you your man had these hangups. It may work but I would not want to risk it. Yes any of these are a red flag and I would stay away not get myself too deeply involved.

These are really good signs to watch out for. Yes they would and have turned me off in the past.

I agree with you. I think they are all flags on the play - whether it be a man or a woman. Even with such good indicators, many people still find it difficult to think through these issues and avoid making stupid decisions. Just a thought.

Those are good signs. I was engagaged to a mama's boy who still lived at home, I should have known better. We started looking at buying houses and he seemed to value his mothers opinion over mine, very annoying. I was going to be living there not her. Not long after I realized he would never change and broke it off and guess what? Years later he still lives with his parents. I'm glad I got out before it was too late.

These are excellent warning signs of trouble. I had a friend who was dating a young man. They were considering marriage. She lived in Michigan and was teaching at our school. He lived in Tennessee. When he came to visit we got a chance to meet him. He was very nice and they continuing dating but he was hesitant to make a commitment to marriage. It become obvious that he had trouble making decisions without imput from his mother. Fortunately for my friend, she broke off the engagement. She is happily married now to a different guy.

Received these and thought it would help us, Read each one carefully and think about it a second or two... 1. I love you not because of who you are but because of who I am when I am with you. 2. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry. 3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. 4. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart. 5. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them. 6. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile. 7. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world. 8. Don't waste your time on a man/woman, who isn't willing to waste their time on you. 9. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful. 10. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened. 11. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around. 12. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and expect them to know you. 13. Don't try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.

I think this is a pretty good list, but I think the first one I would wonder about is living with parenets. Some people do it to help the parents out, there maybe medical problems and they might be there because they are loving, dependable people. Many kids also come home after college because they are stuck under the debt of student loans and are trying to get them paid off before jumping whole hog into the cold, cruel world. The rest I think are pretty valid.

Thank goodness, faith...my husband certainly didn't fall in any of those list. He is very independent and works too much...too hard in fact. We will visit his mom from time to time but thankfully, we live in our own house. I prefer it this way to avoid any future altercation.

These could easily apply to men and women. People should be on there own before they start a relationship with someone else other wise they do not know what it like to be on there own they should be able to make the break from parents to allow new trusts and avenues of communication to be developed between them and new partner. It never does any good to run an ex into the ground other wise your new partner will have alow opinion of you and wonder what you say behind ther back. You shold not be in a rush to see the new persons place because they might not be ready for you to see it some people belive that it is a look in to there life and will show it when ready. The reboud relationship is a 50/50 thing and should be taken carefully. Any relationship is you decide to get into is usually the best decision at the time and you should be ready for the good with the bad.

I think it could definently apply to men too. I think it would actually be more inpotant to men than women. Thank god my boyfriend didn't have any red flags.

I agree these are a good rule of thumb but sometimes you have to treat your instints. When I started living with my husband, he was still living at home. He moved at 34, from his Moms house to my house. We are still together and he will be 45 on Wednesday.

Yes this is a great list and it does make sense, as a man i think it does apply to women and I usually notice these signs but it's helpful too to be reminded :)

I agree with most of it, but not number one. I see nothing wrong with an unmarried man living still with his family. And even men who are older are not necessary immature or unable to support a family. I have a senior citizen friend, as a matter of fact who has moved home to live with his parents, to help them out as they are advanced in age and unable to do many things anymore. for them this is a win win situation. Now that his father has passed away his mother in ailing health depends on him all the more.

In general these would give a good idea to be wary of guys who exhibit these signs. Just some points that could be considered before deciding whether the guy is all right or whether you should leave. 1. This might not be applicable for all cultures. In my country it is very common for singles to live with their parents because housing is very expensive, it is considered irresponsible to leave your old folks to cope on their own and also from a cultural perspective parents traditionally expect this. The only singles who move out are freaks or are impossible to get along with or have some habits that no one can live with. Worst case scenario:- he is all 3! Avoid these guys at all costs! 2, 3, 4 and 6 Yes, we should be careful of these. 5. This is true too. A guy should respect his parents, should offer help and assistance when they require it and treat them kindly. But it should not be a case whereby his parents are dictating what he should do in every aspect of his life. He must have a mind of his own.

i don't agree to all. my boyfriend still lives with his parents but is a very responsible man. the only reason why he still lives with them because renting a place in the city is very expensive

yeah watch out for those things If I wereconsidering dating someone who had any of those going on, I would find out more by asking her about them. Each of them might or might not indicate a bad problem.